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I distinctly recall saying that I’d write more frequently.

Apparently I was mistaken.

Remind me to talk to someone about that.

Sorry, I’ve been a little busy.

First off, the Atlanta area had a snow day.  Now, understand, I grew up in Michigan where they have equipment to handle massive snowfall before you even wake up.  To my knowledge, not a single snow day happened while I was in high school.  Four freaking years of big snow and zero school cancellations.  Here in Atlanta, they call a snow day because it’s PROBABLY going to snow the next day.


The reason I moved south years ago was because I got frozen out of my car one morning.  It’s actually a pretty good, albeit, long story, but suffice to say, it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.  So, now, I live in the south…and it snows.

It was beautiful though.  It looked like a beer commercial out the back porch.  Great big huge fluffy snow blanketed everything.  My kids had a whale of a day.  They got to sleep in, bought sleds, and played the day away outside.  My son even took a page out of Calvin and Hobbes.  Let me tell you, it’s a little unnerving to pull into the drive way and have a snowman screaming at you.  He ran out of snow and time before he got to do the whole scene he wanted, but it was still pretty hilarious.

I didn’t get to enjoy the snow day with the kids though.  I had to go to training.  Two days of training on how to help care for Anissa.  It’s a big step, but nothing we can’t handle.  I learned how to properly transfer her, and to help her get through the day.  How to help her get dressed in the morning, and how to get her in bed in the evening, and everything in between.


Well, that right side still hasn’t kicked in enough yet.  I feel it at times.  She can activate her shoulder and clamp her arm down in certain situations.  I’ve also seen and felt her activate her hamstring and bend her leg.  Just not enough to be useful, yet.  So, temporarily, she’s considered a hemiplegic.  Understand, when she got to the rehab center, she could only sit up for 7 seconds before falling over.  Now, she can sit up for quite a while, as the muscles around her trunk are waking up.  Her spirits are excellent.  The staff at the rehab center has been absolutely amazing in listening to her and treating her with love and care.

It’s pretty exciting as parts of her body are waking back up.

It’s just very very slow.

That’s ok, because, as one of my buddies in college would always say, “Pete mon, slow and steady wins da race.”

Part of the training included a lunch date.  We got to go over to a restaurant and actually be a couple for a little bit.  This incorporated a lot of the things I learned in training:  how to transfer from her chair to the car, how to make sure she’s got everything she needs, etc.  It was nice, but short…and chaperoned.  The chaperone was there just in case we had issues we couldn’t handle.  Luckily we didn’t.

Lastly, the training included an overnight stay for me.  We got to stay in the equivalent of a little efficiency apartment for a night, sans nursing staff.  That was nice.  It was Valentine’s Day eve….We wound up ordering pizza and had the kids up.  We had way too much fun for being in the hospital.  There was one point that the kids were getting on my nerves, so I barked a little too loudly at them.  Anissa, rightfully so, corrected me on being too harsh, which cracked me up.  I couldn’t stop smiling.  That was just another reminder on why I know we’re going to make this work.  With all she’s gone through, she’s still a better parent than I am.  After a little bit, my mom took the kids home and it was just Anissa and I.

We talked some.

We laughed some.

We cried some.

At one point, we were sitting on the couch, and I put my head in her lap.  She rubbed my head and I closed my eyes.  For about 30 seconds, it was November 16th, before any of this happened.  We were a couple again, and all the pain and frustration of the past 92 some odd days was washed away.

The next morning, I woke up before her and just lay next to her until she woke up.  I could almost feel her giddiness at not being in a hospital bed.  She reached over and held my hand and squeezed it so hard.  It was absolutely awesome.

You may have noticed a slight pattern here, called training.


Well, funny story actually…

After 92 days apart, WE’RE GOING HOME!

February 18th, today, I get the only thing I wanted:  my family back.

It’s an early birthday present to me.

Things won’t be the same as it was before, I know that.  But, at least we’ll be able to face the challenges together, and lean on each other after a rough day.

Speaking of challenges, the next step facility is an outpatient facility, which means that I’ll have to drive her in every day.  My insurance allows for 40 days of outpatient therapy, and this program she starts on Monday is her best shot at getting back more.  The only problem with it is that the co-pay on it is $100 per day.  You guys have been so awesome sending in things (whomever sent in the anonymous jokes: loved them!), I truly hate to ask for the hat to be passed again, but I’m in a bind.  If 400 people could send in $10 each, that would really help us out now.

Ok, that’s my best Sally Struthers impersonation.

Now for the other request.

Anyone remember the internet storm that happened when she first had the strokes?

I’d love to see an even bigger one.

Help me stand on top of the world, beat my chest, and yell in victory!

Like the watch fires in that second Lord of the Rings movie, let it go out that Anissa is going home and I’m getting my family back.  This is probably about mile 5 on that marathon, but it’s a milestone people!  A HUGE milestone!  And we’re just hitting our stride in this.

I’ll post on Anissa’s facebook and twitter when we leave the hospital.  Just please, pass the word from rooftop to rooftop.


295 Comments on “Ahem….”

  1. #1 Alicia @bethsix
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 12:51 pm

    Yippee! Congrats, Mayhews!!

  2. #2 Gayle
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 12:57 pm

    We don’t know each other, but when your wife had her stroke, a friend posted a link to this blog. I have visited ever since to check in on your beautiful family. I bought my Christmas presents for family from sites that made donations to Anissa. Today I tried to put a little bit of cash in the cyberhat for therapy, and PayPal and I had fits with each other — it was like trying to talk to the DMV. Or like doing donuts, round and round in circles maybe in the DMV parking lot. Is there an address where I could send a check?
    I send you guys a big hug from a complete stranger who thinks you are all pretty amazing.

  3. #3 Heather, Queen of Shake Shake
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    I am so happy!

  4. #4 Emily
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 2:29 pm

    “Cooperation is the thorough conviction that nobody can get there unless everybody gets there. ”
    ~ Virginia Burden

    A donation for you, but it is as much for me and all of us who have been touched by your grace, perseverance and courage.

  5. #5 Terry
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 2:53 pm

    I do not know Anissa…we have never spoken, tweeted…emailed or anything. What I do know is she deserves the best chance at a full recovery!! My heart goes out to you and your family! I wish you all the best….
    I will spread the word and I’ve given what I can at the moment!!
    Best Wishes!!

  6. #6 Daniela
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 6:36 pm

    I am happy for your family that Anissa is back.

  7. #7 MommyNamedApril
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 8:18 pm

    welcome home, anissa! i will continue to send money as i can 🙂 as always. yay!

  8. #8 Amy@UWM
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 8:31 pm

    Woo hoo!!!! Happy Homecoming!!!! Hells ya I’m gunna donate. We gotta get Anissa’s typing back up to par. Twitter definitely hasn’t been the same without her!

  9. #9 Lesa
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 10:12 pm

    So happy for you guys. $ and even more positive thoughts/prayers coming your way.

  10. #10 Sam
    on Feb 20th, 2010 at 11:41 pm

    I am so glad to hear that she is coming home. That is fantastic news!!! What a fighter ….. and you / your family are such a great support system for her. Thank you for the updates … we understand the spacing. You do have your hands full!!! I admire you for asking for help … that must have taken a great deal of courage!!! I am happy to help and wish that I lived near you so I could help when she comes home …..SAM

  11. #11 Cranky Sarah
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 12:46 am

    Wow! Anissa and you have been on my mind a lot the last few days – I can’t exactly pin down the reason, but you have. I’m very happy and “praiseful” to hear this news!! Somehow I missed that you guys are in the same city as I am. At any rate, still being fairly new in town when this all happened, do you have a support system there that can organize some sort of fundraiser? Maybe around an activity Anissa likes/liked to do/did/WILL DO again (!)? Maybe even the PTSA at the kids’ school?
    I will do my part in spreading the word!

  12. #12 Jenny
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 1:30 am

    Congratulations, and best wishes to your family!

  13. #13 Trish
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 8:33 am

    This is such FANTASTIC news. I’ve been reading your heartbreaking and beautiful updates, Peter, and this one is the best yet, of course. You can include me in your list of 400 donors… it was a pleasure and an honour to send you some help.
    Canberra, Australia

  14. #14 Amy@ClickClackMom
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 9:48 am

    So happy for you guys!! Looking forward to hearing more good news!!

  15. #15 Sharon Heg
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 11:41 am

    Don’t see my follow-up message that let y’all I spread the word on my blog…cyber-burp, I guess. So just letting you know that I did. I hope it helps to get a few more donations into the kitty.

    sharonheg. wordpress. com/2010/02/19/help-for-anissa/

    Without the spaces 😉

  16. #16 melody
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 4:19 pm

    Climbing up on my roof to shout.

    So happy to hear the good news and know that you guys are together again [though you were never truly apart, were you?].

    Anissa, go girl!

  17. #17 Diana
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 9:08 pm

    ten bucks sent and tweeting away. Good luck anissa!

  18. #18 Diana Geherty
    on Feb 21st, 2010 at 9:51 pm

    glad to hear! glad to help! glad you asked. please let me know where to send the money.

  19. #19 UPDATED:This week felt like 18 months. — TheBloggess.com
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 2:35 am

    […] us and is recovering from multiple strokes and after many months is finally coming home (yay!) but she’s currently hemiplegic and her copay for outpatient therapy is $100 a day for the next 40 ….  She’s a mom with small children and they need help.  That’s why I’m asking […]

  20. #20 The House of Flying Monkeys » Mondays…
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 9:02 am

    […] if you have some free time? Go check out this out and maybe throw ‘em a $10 or a $5 or whatever you have to spare. Because, yeah, […]

  21. #21 I’ve Asked Before, I Know… at SecondHand Tryptophan
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 10:54 am

    […] on February 22nd, 2010 So I may have all my own shit happening, but then, who doesn’t? Just read the latest update on Anissa. She still needs help. If you can afford anything, even a dollar, please take a moment to help […]

  22. #22 Dara
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 10:56 am

    Each of my twins sent $10 – because neither wanted to be left out in ‘helping a mommy go home to be with her babies’! Pretty cool kids.

    We are so very happy for you to have your family back together. You are an amazing group of people and we love you!

  23. #23 sue
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 11:47 am


  24. #24 blissfully caffeinated
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 12:42 pm

    Amazing!!!! I will help spread the word!

  25. #25 Shana
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 1:51 pm

    Congrats on the progress. My aunt had a stroke a bunch of years ago and they told us she’d never get better. On New Year’s Eve she was at my brother’s wedding, dancing and partying with everyone else. She does walk with a cane when she’s going to be walking far, but otherwise you would never know anything happened. She was determined, just like Anissa. Good luck with the next step.

  26. #26 Chris
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 2:31 pm

    Awesome timing for the donation – the 19th was my birthday, and I got some cash – so you get some cash coming your way!!

  27. #27 Dawn Tucker
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 8:23 pm

    Just awesome news! So glad that you guys are all back together where you belong. Who’s more excited – the kids or Mum and Dad?!
    Anissa, you must have started therapy today. I just know you’re gonna kick ass. You’re gonna be awesome. I donated half a day’s co-pay a bit earlier. I was really pleased to help out and will be happy to do it again later. Just wish the exchange rate was what it used to be to get a few more dollars for my pounds! Oh well, can’t win everything!!
    Sending love as always. Did I mention how happy I am for all of you?!!

  28. #28 Nile
    on Feb 22nd, 2010 at 8:45 pm

    That is great news.

    As for blogging, do it when you can. You have a lot of things, but it seems extremely encouraging that Anissa is starting to do better. It is tough and can be frustrating, but never give up. Prayers to you and your family.

    By the way, I work as a virtual assistant of The Healthy Moms ( http://www.thehealthymoms.net ), the site is fairly new and I thought I would drop by some mom related sites to spread the word.

  29. #29 Pat Mayhew
    on Feb 23rd, 2010 at 10:32 am

    Happy Birthday Pete!
    So glad Anissa is home with you now. Sending some love and hugs via Paypal with wishes for an outstanding day today!
    Dad & Pat

  30. #30 mel
    on Feb 23rd, 2010 at 1:41 pm

    Welcome Home Anissa. So happy for all of you. Love and hugs to the kids.

  31. #31 Elisa
    on Feb 23rd, 2010 at 6:29 pm

    That’s FANTASTIC! SO happy Anissa is coming home with you guys!! yay! I am so, so happy.

  32. #32 statia
    on Feb 24th, 2010 at 12:30 pm

    I only know of Anissa through other bloggers. I hope for the best. You’re over the big hurdle now. Best of luck.

  33. #33 Karin aka Perpstu
    on Feb 25th, 2010 at 2:03 pm

    I am crying tears of happiness! Congratulations, this is such a HUGE step!!!

  34. #34 Holly at Tropic of Mom
    on Feb 25th, 2010 at 4:16 pm

    Awesome! This is the news we’ve all been waiting to hear. I hope the homecoming goes great.

  35. #35 Amber
    on Feb 25th, 2010 at 5:50 pm

    $10 shooting through the intertubes to you 🙂

  36. #36 Lindsay
    on Feb 25th, 2010 at 8:10 pm

    This is FABULOUS news!!! SOOOOOOOO good to hear this…..woooot ~ wooooot!!!! 🙂

    Continuing to send MANY hugs & prayers!!!

  37. #37 JulieBouf
    on Feb 25th, 2010 at 9:39 pm

    Congratulations!!!!!!! Woohoo! You both amaze me.

  38. #38 mackey
    on Feb 26th, 2010 at 1:31 am

    I am happy to do my part. God bless you & yours & GO ANISSA!!!!

  39. #39 Susan (5 Minutes for Mom)
    on Feb 26th, 2010 at 12:38 pm

    What an unbelievable series of miracles that has led Anissa home. Praise God!!!!

  40. #40 RockyMtnMom
    on Feb 28th, 2010 at 12:18 am

    Way to go Mayhews! So happy for you and praying for Anissa’s recovery through OP rehab!

  41. #41 Lamb
    on Feb 28th, 2010 at 7:56 pm

    I’m so happy to read this! I found your blog through The Spohrs Are Multiplying and it seems like you’ve had much more than your fair share of ucky times. I look forward to reading about all the happy times I know are inevitably coming your way! 🙂

  42. #42 Bejewell
    on Mar 2nd, 2010 at 11:01 am

    I’m so sorry it took me so long, but I just put my donation in the coffer. Sure hope it helps you all keep Anissa getting the care she needs.

  43. #43 cristin
    on Mar 3rd, 2010 at 9:55 am

    $10 of course.

  44. #44 jo
    on Mar 7th, 2010 at 9:11 pm


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    on May 28th, 2010 at 10:13 pm

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