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Do you smell that?

People will ask me, “How do you keep UP with all those sites you write?”

My honest answer is generally, “Have you seen the condition of my house?”

And I ain’t lying on that one.

But it’s not as much heavy lifting as you’d think.

First of all, this blog is the only one I write full time on my own, the review site is only written about 4-5 times a month as I get specific projects (although the pimping of the reviews is a full time job of it’s OWN) and I post for 5 Minutes for Special Needs once a week.

A good portion of my time is spent Twittering about chocolate-covered bacon updating my Facebook status about how much I love the Cha Cha Slide networking and shameless self-promotion *HAI! Have you entered my contest for the IPod Touch yet? No? Are you still here?*.

Because the thing no one told me was that part of blogging was becoming your own marketing and PR team. HOLY crow did I not understand that. Because you can be the most amazing writer to ever put fingertip to key and if you don’t bust your butt to let others know about it, no one will ever read it. *The shameless self-promotion does not include nicknaming myself the “most amazing writer to ever put fingertip to key” but if you feel the need to call me that inside your head, that’s ok with me*

Like so many things I do, I tiptoed into this blogging world and then just fell in up to my ear tips.  Because I don’t do things halfway.  I charge in, blindly sometimes, and throw everything I have into it (well, except in regards to mopping my floors…I have yet to find the joy in that) and hope that it works out the way I wanted.

Sometimes it blows up in my face.

Sometimes when it blows up it showers me with candy and rose petals.

I’m never sure which way it’s going to go.

Some of you have been here with me from the very start. Those first sad days of this blog, when words were hard to come by, hope held us together. The years that followed as I worked hard to find my voice in the things I felt were happening to us, everything in my life felt reactionary.

Then came a point when I got to start taking action.  Pete and I talked about it TO DEATH, taking the blog in a different direction, both look and content.

Taking an adventure…seeing where it would lead.

I visited my hairdresser today (yeah, I got mah hair done, looks sassy) and he asked me what the draw was about being a blogger.

What I explained to him was that it was MY identity.  Something I’d sort of lost over the past years.  I was the kids’ mom, Pete’s wife and then I became a cancer mom and spent every drop of energy being HER, that person who had to find the strength, the patience and endurance to help bring my family through hell.

And I don’t resent her.  I love her.  I admire her because she reached down and found peace in places I never knew she could.

This is my time to meld all those pieces together and reconfigure who I am.

What I want to be when I grow up.

If I grow up.

My trip to Nashville opened my eyes to so much.  Parts of me that had been buried under the things I HAD to do, my ambitions and dreams and goals that I’d pushed aside to deal with the important things. All of a sudden, those things felt important again.

I want to write.

I have things to say, stories to tell..and they might not be earth-shattering, but they’re important to me.

I want to have things that are uniquely ME.

I want my identity to be about me and not just the people I love more than life itself…although they are the core base of who I am…it’s very circular, no?

Selfish?  Maybe to some.

But as things start to blow up around me, and I sniff to find the scent of candy and roses, it’s exciting.

And the heavy lifting is about to begin.

Attending the Blissdom conference has opened doors and possibilities that would have otherwise gone unrealized.  Opportunities to find out who I am, what I’m made of, what I’m capable of when I’m not just reacting, but seeking to make things happen.

I’m stepping back from my writing job at 5 Minutes For Special Needs for a wonderful reason: we are out of treatment and part of me feels it’s not the right venue for me anymore.  I will be staying on as part of the team because I fully believe in the tremendous community growing around it, but behind the scenes, helping where I can to make sure things run smoothly so more families can be welcomed.

I’ve joined the team of editors at Blog Nosh Magazine as a Race and Ethnicity editor, where I’ll be busy plumbing the depths of the blogiverse to find the voices out there waiting to be heard and shared. Not writing, but reading, discovering, widening the views and, hopefully, raising consciousness.

I have also taken on a writing position with the Silicon Valley Mom Group, writing for their Deep South Moms blog (because I’m a deeply southern woman, right?  Hey, it’s all about finding all the wonderful different parts that make the whole).

And in the super-secret labs, me and a team of brilliant geniuses scientists monkeys bloggers are brewing up something that I am ready to pour my heart and soul into…but that’s not for now…later…soon, though.

Do you hear that?

tick tick tick tick….

That’s the sound of something about to blow.

Do you smell candy?


{Yanked from the Caffeinatrix because I was too lazy to write anymore tonight when she says it so beautifully}

Okay, on a different note, this is a shameless plug for the “Room of Your Own” session at the BlogHer 09 conference that myself, Tanis (from Redneck Mommy) and Janet  (from the Caffeinatrix, the blogger formerly known as IzzyMom) will be hosting. In order to actually be able to host this awesome room, we need you to say you will attend (like a pre-headcount to gauge interest).

Of course, you don’t HAVE to attend but you know, but we need your support anyway so we have enough votes to have our idea approved. You don’t even have to be registered for BlogHer to say you would attend. You’re just expressing an interest, presumably because it’s an incredibly interesting topic being presented by three of your nicest, coolest (and terribly modest) fellow blogging friends!

Please help us insure we get a room because, seriously, our topic is one that every blogger on earth can relate to and people clearly want to talk about it. And yes, I’m both rambling AND groveling for your support and your willingness to say that if you are/were going to be there that there is nowhere else you’d rather be than in OUR “Room of Your Own“.

Just click the link right below the title that says you would attend (because you ARE, right? Right?) *bats eyelashes*

Thanks in advance for your support 🙂

Janet, Tanis and Anissa

17 Comments on “Do you smell that?”

  1. #1 always home and uncool
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 8:30 am

    Are you telling me my use of “The Secret” alone is not going to win me blogging fame and fortune? I have to actually work for it.

    Bring down, girl …

    But congrats on finding your place, in more way than one, you deserve it.

    always home and uncools last blog post..Is This Post Shaking or Is It Just Me?

  2. #2 Ashley Hast
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 9:51 am

    I really enjoyed this post. I think you’re an awesome writer (brownie points, hello?) and the things you write about your children and experiences could most definitely be pulled from my life (cancer excluded).

    I’m just getting “in” to the blogging world, and with the birth of our LAST baby (I”m OUT of commission, baby, tubes are tied, burned, and donated to science! yeah!) and my kids usually give me enough hell to write some funny stuff about them.

    Right now I’m stuck here in the dumb hospital, on my 11th day, after being on bed rest and then giving birth to Duke on Monday the 23rd. I thought I’d get to go home today, but just found out I’ll make it to Day 12 (courtesy of dumbass blood pressure). Really it’s okay with me though, since Duke got put on a ventilator a few days ago, and was removed yesterday). He’s still in the NICU and I FINALLY got to hold him for the first time. No one ever tells you, before you have children, that your world and life DEPENDS and REVOLVES around them from the day they’re born to the end of time. I know doctor’s know best, but it’s so hard for me and I get so pissed when the tell me I can’t hold my own baby.

    Okay, so now I’ve gone from singing your praises to venting about issues. So sorry….can I still blame it on pregnancy brain?

  3. #3 Jamie
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 11:21 am

    Welcome to Deep South Moms (and hey this reminds me I need to write something for them!)

    I totally empathize with you and what you say in this post. My stepmother asked my dad how I work (I work 30 hours a week) and write for blogs. It’s all about balance, priorities, and not really caring that my house looks CRAZEEE most of the time. Also Twitter can be an evil time suck. I resisted it until last fall. 😉

    Jamies last blog post..Oh Barbie, Bless Your Heart (You Old Hag)

  4. #4 The Stiletto Mom
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 11:41 am

    Anissa! I just joined as a writer on Deep South Moms too! I can’t wait to read more of your stuff! You are awesome…all this heavy lifting will pay off for you because you deserve it!

  5. #5 Princess of the Universe
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 12:38 pm

    My blog has never showered me in rose petals. Ever.
    Who do I call about that?

  6. #6 PAPA
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 2:30 pm

    Oh, Anissa, my enjoyment of blogging comes from people like you that suddenly awake to the amazingness that is them.

    Three words: Yo. Go. Girl!

  7. #7 Anissa@hope4peyton
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 4:57 pm

    @always home and uncool,

    Well, not ALL of have access to “secrets” of your magnitude…you should be fine.


    Anissa@hope4peytons last blog post..Do you smell that?

  8. #8 Anissa@hope4peyton
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:00 pm

    @Ashley Hast,

    I think that’s the most important thing, Ashley, writing in a way that other’s connect to…it doesn’t even have to be topic, it can just be that you write it in so that others can understand how you feel about it. Your blog will be great, just put your heart in it and be proud of what you’re creating!

    I’m so sorry Duke’s struggled, i can’t wait to hear that you’re home together and he’s driving you insane already.


    Anissa@hope4peytons last blog post..Do you smell that?

  9. #9 AnissaM
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:03 pm


    Thanks for the wonderful welcome! I’m so happy to be a part of the team and can’t WAIT to get to work on it. Each opportunity is bringing some fabulous new ladies in my life.

    Clean houses are so temporary…blogging is forever.

  10. #10 AnissaM
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:07 pm

    @The Stiletto Mom,

    And now it’s like we’re sisters, right?! I have a feeling we’re going to get along like gangbusters.

    Hey, you’re going to BlogHer, right?

  11. #11 AnissaM
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:08 pm

    @Princess of the Universe,

    I lied, it’s overrated, those thorns flying in your eye sting a wee bit.


  12. #12 AnissaM
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:13 pm


    I could just hug you all day! You’z the best.

  13. #13 Adventures In Babywearing
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 8:45 pm

    I’m a very good secret keeper so you should tell me. Just one of the reasons I love blogging is because this is how I meet awesome people like YOU!


  14. #14 Adventures In Babywearing
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 8:46 pm

    P.S. You are not alone with the house thing. Just the other day hubby suggested we get a housekeeper. Ouch.

  15. #15 Shelley
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Peytons cancer SUCKED! But the fact is a lot of us found your web site because of it and found that we weren’t alone in the ugly cancer world. Thank you for that.

    I hope your dreams of blogginess are candy and rose petal filled with a side of yummy margaritas.

    I’ll just watch from the sidelines cause I’m just toooo lazy for all that work. You rock!!!

  16. #16 Jen W
    on Feb 26th, 2009 at 9:27 pm

    So good for you!!!!!! That is great! Although it means I’ll have to add more blogs to my list to read since you’ll be writing for them, too!

    Jen Ws last blog post..Us girls still know how to party like it’s 1993…actually, not so much.

  17. #17 brittany
    on Feb 27th, 2009 at 11:06 am

    I smell candy!!!

    And you are wonderwoman. Period. My idol.

    brittanys last blog post..deuce