There are a lot of balls in the air, and I just needed a moment or 3. Bear with me.
If this were Hollywood, she’d have woken up Thanksgiving night in a flash of white light, and skipped out of the CCU while whistling “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas”. If this were Hollywood, I’d have more hair, be 4 inches taller and 50 pounds lighter.
It’s not Hollywood though. People don’t just wake up from comas. It’s a gradual process.
I’m going to steal a line from my favorite tv show that barely was: Firefly. “When you can’t run, you crawl. And when you can’t crawl, when you can’t do that…you find someone to carry you.”
Oh come on. Admit it. You wish you too had this much useless sci-fi knowledge in your head too. Go check out who played Chewbacca some time. You’ll see a familiar name. Anissa actually got me a signed autograph from him for my birthday a few years ago.
You all have helped carry me. I’m so thankful for that. Her phone keeps jiggling on my hip. It’s been a constant reminder that folks are thinking and praying for us.
Thanksgiving Day came and passed. There were some short moments of absolute clarity with her. Natalie got to witness some. Angela got to witness some. I stayed at home during the day to spend Thanksgiving with the kids. We caught the Macy’s parade. We watched the Lions lose, prompting me to break out my Barry Sanders dvd and show the kids the best running back of all time. We waited. I couldn’t take it any more and headed up to the hospital to see my wife before the turkey arrived. The waiting was absolute agony. Natalie was positive she had communicated clearly with Anissa. I wanted to be there. I had to be there. So, I hugged my kiddos and told them mommy was waking up. White lie? Maybe. Natalie saw what she saw though.
I got to the hospital and Anissa was apparently exhausted. Her eyes were open, and she’d move her head around some, but wouldn’t respond to anything. It was clear she was tired, but wouldn’t sleep.
One of Anissa’s online friends, The Jennster, set up a time for everyone to think/pray/focus on Anissa. 9 pm EST was the time. I got word of it late, so the best I could muster was a facebook posting of it. At 9:03, she closed her eyes and finally got some good sleep.
The pattern has been that we’ll get pretty good response after a long rest for Anissa. Unfortunately, on Friday, it was like she regressed. I waited up there for a bit, and there was no recognition. My aunt flew in. Anissa’s sister, Angela, drove over. At some point during the day, I was showing her a picture of the kids. I asked her if she wanted to hold it. She did. She held it up in front of her face for a while. Then I took it away, turned around to hang it back on the wall, turned back in time to see her grab the leads that measure her heart rate. She grabbed hard and pulled. We restrained her again. I’ve been saying that she’s going to extubate herself soon.
On Friday afternoon, someone new showed up. A sales person for a hospital they are considering transferring her to. In listening to the woman speak, it sounded to me like it was a nursing home. That hit me hard. I didn’t care for that. She’s making so much progress. I kept asking about rehab, and she kept steering the conversation away from that. I couldn’t think of any questions to ask her other than, “would you send your husband there?” I should’ve asked if she got paid on commission. The answer I got was a well practiced answer. I could tell she’d practiced that in the mirror, over and over. I didn’t believe her. I want rehab. Physical, nuero and occupational. The good thing is that the kids could visit her if she were in a facility like this. The scary thing is would she respond to them. Think about that for a moment. How do you think my 11, 8 and almost 6 year olds would respond if the one person they’ve been hoping to see for the past 2 weeks didn’t know who they were?
Crushed doesn’t quite describe how I left the hospital Friday. Then I got a call from my dad and step mom. They reminded me that I needed to be her advocate. Well, duh. Of course I do. Yeah, I had gotten so caught up in the 5 minutes of clarity with her every day that I had lost sight of that. Thanks for that Pat. Then it dawned on me that the medical staff isn’t seeing what we’re seeing. They’re seeing me as a family member who’s seeing what’s just not there. The reality is that she’s been improving daily. Physically, her left side is very quick, strong, and accurate. Her right side still hasn’t moved. Her blood pressure is under control. The ventilator is out of the room. She’s able to manipulate a ring from finger to finger without dropping it.
On Saturday, I woke up with a new plan: No matter how much we wanted to communicate with her, we wouldn’t. We needed her to get her rest. We needed her to do her dog and pony show for the nurses and doctors. We needed them to see what we were seeing. When Anissa had her eyes open, I explained that to her. I explained that I was going to go spend some time with the kids, and that I desperately needed her to sleep. All day long. Who doesn’t want a nap-filled Saturday?
We got a new nurse on Saturday as well. When she came in the room, we had some polite conversation, and I explained my plan/line of thinking with her. I also introduced my wife to her. I said the woman before you can move mountains. The nurse was so sweet, and offered some words of encouragement. We talked some about all the pictures in the room. She’s a budding photographer and wanted to know who took the pics. I said Anissa had. She wanted to know some geeky details like did we use some software to manipulate them. I said that the real professional is Anissa. Get her to wake up and she’ll gladly tell you how it’s done.
So, I left the hospital, Angela stayed with her. The kids and I put up the Christmas tree. We went out to Cracker Barrel. We played I spy. We shopped for Peyton’s birthday. We froze a little in my car because the heater went out the other day.
Angela sat up there and read a book.
We all waited.
This morning I got a text saying she’s VERY awake.
More importantly, she’s aware, somewhat, and responded to commands.
Even more importantly, the medical staff saw it.
The nursing staff was apparently all sorts of giddy. Angela talked to the neurologist, asking if she’s still considered in a coma. At this point, she’s no longer considered in a coma. There is still a lot of concern about speech and her right side, and she has a very high fever.
They’ll be extubating her today.
I have absolutely no clue what is next.
One thing is for certain, God is showing us through this.
on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
That is great news at the end there.
I’m crying and thinking and you guys are very much in my thoughts
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
That’s some very positive news! I’m so happy to hear that.
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robinbondhus Reply:
November 29th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
I am so happy for her progress and yes continue your fight to advocate for her because sometimes doctors get tunnel vision. YOU know her best fight for her. The doctors will never know her like you and her family take care and god bless.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
That is wonderful news!! Thoughts and prayers are still there though!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Crying tears of joy, Peter. Our church will pray for you guys again today. God bless.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Thinking of you guys all day, every day. I know she’s on her way back to us, better than ever.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Such exciting news!! Go, Anissa! You can do it!
And kudos to you for keeping up the usual holiday routines for the family - I know how hard that must be.
Thanks for another great update, our thoughts are with you and Anissa as always!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
*hugs* Peter! Thinking of you all, today and always! xo
Come on Anissa!! We’re pulling for you, girl!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
So many hills and valleys, Peter! But that’s the name of the game when you’re dealing with a coma. I remember VERY vividly some portions of my coma, when I was still “in it’ and remember the nurses telling my mom that I was fighting so hard, no wonder I was tired all the time. I also thought my cats were sleeping on my legs from the inflatable things they put on you to keep your circulation going. She’s coming out of it, and extubating is HUGE. We’re in this for the marathon, Peter. We’re right there with you. So much love to the family and our darling Anissa.
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Corinne Reply:
November 30th, 2009 at 8:00 am
That is WONDERFUL!!!
looks like your plan was the one!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Awesome awesome awesome news.
Still praying, never doubting.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
She’s definitely on her way to us!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:37 pm
Blessings and prayers. Now and always.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
OMG Pete…I think my heart just skipped a beat. This is fantastic news! Please give Anissa my love and let her know we’re all pulling for her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
I have NO DOUBT that Anissa will come back to you, the kids, the rest of your family and us, her friends.
She may be a little different, but she’ll still be Anissa and we’ll love her all the same.
You are doing an amazing job, Peter. She’s so lucky to have you.
Thank you, so much, for keeping us all updated. I wish I could sit there and hold her hand with you. I’ll settle for you giving her an extra squeeze from me, if you don’t mind.
xoxo
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
Just keep swimming in the right direction. Best wishes to you and your family.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
So glad to hear this news! You’re navigating this hospital minefield with grace, and doing all the right things. It’s so important for patients to have an advocate - keep up the good work!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:42 pm
Thinking of you guys every day. Thank you so much for the update.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
I am joining you in prayer for complete healing in Anissa’s body!!!
She is so blessed to have a man of faith, holding her hand and praying for her through this stroke. Please know that Pat and I are praying.
God Bless,
Pat & Caroline Nivens
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
I have been waiting and waiting for an update so thank you for taking the time to let us all know. I have chills right now and I am so happy the doctors and nurses finally saw it. Praying hard everything goes right today.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Here’s to Anissa getting stronger each and every day.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Wow! That was better than a movie! You two work together so well and I’m so incredibly happy the staff saw the improvement. I will keep the prayers going and sending lots of healing vibes. You are such a good husband and daddy. Hang in there. We’re following you all the way.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
That is awesome news! I think of you, Anissa & your kids every day!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Smiling and crying and continuing to pray big. YOU are doing great!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Such great news!
Thank you for letting us know and we are keeping you in our prayers!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:50 pm
I’ve been thinking of Anissa almost constantly this Thanksgiving weekend. Still thinking, still hoping, and appreciating these updates so much.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:50 pm
I walked by the Bier Garden in Asheville today. All I could think about is Anissa. That’s where I first met her in September. She blew me away with her kindness and strength. I am praying for you all. Be strong because as many mountains as she has to move, she needs you to move them too. You are all in my thoughts. Take care.
-Abby
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:52 pm
Peter - You are absolutely amazing, you know that? Seriously. With everything you went through with Peyton, Anissa got really good at giving medical professionals who crossed her “the look” to get them to understand they were going to do things HER way. You have figured out how to fight for Anissa in a different, but just as effective, way. You know her so well, and she trusts you. Maybe she didn’t skip out of the hospital on Thanksgiving, but the “baby steps” she took will get her there soon. No longer considered to be in a coma? That news is so wonderful it made me cry. Thank you for sharing with us, and know that the world is here to hold you up whenever you need it!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
I was so hoping you and your family received the miracle you deserve, and it seems like you’re on the road to getting it. Thank you for updating. Praying for Anissa and your family everyday,
Michele in Staten Island, NY
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:55 pm
This is great news! Still thinking of you all and praying for you daily.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
What great news at the end! We’re all still thinking of her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
What great news! I have been thinking about all of you constantly. She came back from this once and can do it again. You are doing an amazing job supporting her and advocating for her care.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Wonderful news!! My fingers are crossed for more good news!
We all know Anissa is doing a great job. Peter, you are doing an amazing job too.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
Amazing news! {{hugs}} for continued strength and progress.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
I have been thinking of her daily and am so excited to hear she is showing the doctors her spunk. Thank you so much for keeping us updated. We all appreciate it so much. All the best to you all. Go get ‘em, girl!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
Keeping the Faith. Totally keeping the Faith. She’s fighting her way back, and she’ll be even stronger for it.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Thanks so much for the update! She is moving mountains
Go girl!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
This is such wonderful news! Thank you so much for the update. Anissa and your entire family is in my constant thoughts and prayers. She is such a fighter!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:06 pm
May the good news continue. Thinking of you and your family.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
I worked in a stroke/tramautic brain injury rehabilitation ward for five years. I am not a physician or therapist, nor do I claim to any kind of medical authority — but I want you to know that based on my working layman’s observation and experience rehabilitation medicine advances every year just like every other branch of the medical arts — don’t let anyone with an agenda b.s. you out of trying it. If I may say so, your wife needs to be evaluated specifically by a physician specializing in rehabilitation medicine, as well as physical, occupational, and speech therapists. In a proper rehab unit, they will work together as a team, along with rehab speciality nurses and aides, for her best outcome.
Her recovery will not happen overnight — it can take months and months, sometimes, and there can be plateaus and setbacks — and the possibility exists that it may ultimately only be partial: she is gravely injured…but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t hope.
I was referred here by The Bloggess. You have my every wish and hope for as full a recovery for Anissa as is humanly possible.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
As a nurse who has worked in the ICU for 8 years of my career, I will say that today’s news is HUGE. Following commands and being able to breathe on her own is a very BIG deal. These are the first signs we look for when we are looking for brain improvement. This is the first couple miles of a marathon, but they always say those are the hardest. I am praying for you and your family everyday. Please stay strong and be your wife’s biggest advocate. She will need that more than you know! If it feels wrong in your heart, it is wrong. If it feels right then fight with every ounce of your being to make it happen! Medical professionals do not know your wife like you do. Only you can know for sure what is right and what is not.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:15 pm
Keep fighting girl! Keep fighting Peter! I’ve been thinking about you all non-stop. These reports help us so much. They keep me motivated to continue sending my healing prayers. They tell me that they’re working.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:21 pm
tears of joy….
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:21 pm
Keep fighting Anissa! We are all praying for you!
No longer in a coma? That’s fabulous news!
Keep strong Peter - you are doing an amazing job!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
Wow, what a wonderful plan you hatched. SOOO happy that the medical staff finally witnessed what you have been seeing.
You are both amazing, keep working hard together!
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amy Reply:
December 1st, 2009 at 1:23 am
I agree, good strategy for enabling the staff to feel like there is progress, healing.
Continue to hope and pray for you all daily.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
FANTASTIC!
Peter, you’re doing magic there….
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Incredibly exciting news!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
That is great news! You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:39 pm
Thank God. Let them see what you see is a great plan. They’re thinking is money and if they can’t do anything for someone they want them out. I’m glad they’re seeing what you have been seeing! Praise GoD!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
Have been thinking of you all. So happy to read so much progress. I know this isn’t the last post we’ll hear such wonderful news.
Keep going, Peter. You’re a rock star. XO
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
We are with you and with her and will not stop praying until she’s through this. God bless.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Sounds like wonderful news, keep thinking positive and you’ll be a terrific advocate for Anissa and your family. You’re all in my prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
I’ll be honest, I’ve never “met” Anissa but I’ve loved “listening” to her chatting on Twitter. And I am so happy to hear of her progress. You are amazing for sharing with us. Take all the moments you need.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Hallelujah!! One step at a time! No longer in a coma!?? That’s fantastic! I wish the representative from the other hospital had been there to see that! HA!! Keep it up Annisa and hubby!!! We are still praying for you in Kansas!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:44 pm
Great, happy news! Has Anissa been seen by an speech-language pathologist? Time for a speech evaluation, I say!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:48 pm
What awesome news! I am still praying! God bless you and your family!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:49 pm
Wonderful news so far! We are continuing to pray for Anissa.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:49 pm
Thank you Jesus. *prays harder*
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Having happy tears here! You are an awesome husband.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:52 pm
Pete, I haven’t left a comment before now because to be quite honest I just didn’t have words which would heal you. I’m a fixer you see, and I can’t fix this for you - although rest assured I’ve been praying my wee heart out and checking in on you guys every day.
I’m so thrilled to read this update from you and I hold in my heart you & your family. Well done Anissa! Keep fighting! x
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
This is such positive news! I’m am sending up prayers of thanks right now! She is on her way back to you and her babies! She’s working so hard and you are right, you DO need to be her advocate; the doctors don’t know her like you do! Keep up the good work Peter, but don’t forget to rest and take care of you too! Anissa and the kids need you! Still praying for a complete recovery ! I hope you see more improvement today!
Desera
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
I heard what happened through other online friends. Although I don’t know your Anissa like others do, I’ll be praying for her and your family too.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:00 pm
Amazing news!! God Bless you guys! Praying hard for more great progress. You’re doing great for her, Peter. Keep on going.
May your unfailing love rest upon us, O LORD, even as we put our hope in you.
Psalm 33:22
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
Anissa, you are doing FABULOUSLY! Keep up the good work! You’ve got family and friends who love you to pieces, who will borrow from your strength to move mountains FOR YOU while you’re still in a rough spot. Advocate, advocate, ADVOCATE and don’t take no for an answer! She’s young, which is in her favor. She has the motivators of all of her loved ones around her. And trained therapists can make short-term, teeny-tiny, reachable goals so insurance won’t raise a stink.
As an Occupational Therapist with 20 years of experience, Rehab is a MUST! It’ll be long and hard and arduous. And she won’t be able to tolerate a whole lot at first because her brain is still healing. But give it time and I bet she’ll move mountains without anyone’s help, once of these days.
Thanks for the update!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
Hooray! This sounds like WONDERFUL news to me! Keep on keeping on!!! Sending all my love and healing thoughts to your Anissa!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
“At this point, she’s no longer considered in a coma.”
YES! YES YES YES!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
Good news and continued prayers for your family!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
We are all glad to hear the good news. Don’t lose your focus. Be the advocate - be the cheerleader - be the best Husband and father you can be. Set the example, as you have been.
Keep up the good work.
-Aman
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:15 pm
This is so fantastic. Still sending all to good energy I can your way. You have all been amazing.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
I do not know your family, but this story touched me so much. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep the faith and know that there is a plan and that you are doing all the right things. Thank you for sharing your story.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Wait… you’re related to THOSE Mayhews???? ‘Cause I love Star Wars.
Also Firefly is one of my favorites, too.
I’m so glad to hear this amazing update! God really is listening, and I don’t think any of us even for a second doubted Anissa’s ability to make things happen.
I am genuinely happy for your family, and for Anissa. This is wonderful news.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
wow is all I can say. I’ve held off commenting on here bc I was embarassed that I only found out about Anissa after her stroke. What an amazing story. What an amazing family. What an amazing family. I am thinking of her and of you all. that’s a helluva mountain she has to move but there is something that tells me, she can do it. Every journey begins with one step does it not? hang in there.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Such encouraging news! You’re doing a great job being her advocate and she’s so blessed to have such an amazing support system on her side. We’ll be here for you, Anissa, and your family for as long as it takes! My family will keep praying for yours. God is a miracle worker as we see every day!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
WOW! Baby steps, baby steps, big ol’ giant leap! WOOHOO! Go, Anissa! You can do it!
Peter…I am a Star Wars geek from WAY back and I just had the “AHA!” moment about you and Chewbacca. That is hilarious, dude.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
Praying everyday for Anissa.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
oh. this is just fantastic news. it’s a slow process…but my god, Anissa really is amazing, isn’t she? love to your entire family.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:35 pm
Y’all are always in my thoughts. Your abilities to rise above your own feelings and plan as her advocate is miraculous and all sorts of brilliant and amazing, just as Anissa’s fighting spirit is. xoxox
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
Thank God!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
I’m so glad you could step back for a moment and realize YOU are her advocate.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Very very good news….thankful! Sending you good vibes. Be strong.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
Peter, You are doing the best possible, it shows by everything you are thinking about, planning and that is wonderful for her, the kids and bravo to you for having the strength. Like you said, it isn’t Hollywood. But having the strength to recognize that will carry you through… continued prayers and love to your family from So Cal!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
I’ve got goosebumps..You’re an awesome writer Peter..Niss: you’re doing it! KICK IT”S BUTT!! You go girl! You are so covered in prayer..I bet when the angels look at you they gotta wear shades! Miracles happen. I’ve witnessed them. Thank you for sharing yours with us.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
I don’t even know Anissa, but have joined the multitude keeping her in our thoughts and sending her (and you and the kids) strength. Keep moving mountains, Anissa!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
Great news! I’m praying for all of you.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
I don’t know your family but Anissa sounds like an amazing woman. Last year at this time, a friend of mine suffered a major stroke suddenly and unexpectedly, and while it has been a long road she is finally home continuing ongoing therapy. Last Thanksgiving she was on life support and the prognosis was dim, this year she spent the holiday with her husband and three young children. Keep the faith, miracles do happen, and if anyone deserves another miracle it’s your family. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers - God Bless You All.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
WOW! That is fantastic. Still praying!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
omg, this is the best news!!
You stay strong and be her advocate!!
Continuing to pray every day, many times a day, for Anissa! xoxo
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:26 pm
I think I held my breath through this entire update! What fantastic news! I truly believe the power of prayer is surrounding Anissa and your family. I’ll keep sending up mine.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Continuing to pray for Anissa, and for you and your kids. Hugs!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
That is wonderful news! Been thinking of your family all weekend.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Just want you to know I’m still wishing and praying and hoping for you all!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
that is great news…I was so worried when you didn’t post!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
I don’t comment much, but check for updates daily and wanted to say that I’m praying for Anissa and you and the kids.
God bless,
Millie and Colin-HLHS (hypoplastic left heart syndrome)
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:34 pm
I know you’re not likely to ever have time to read these comments but I felt I should tell you this.
I don’t know Anissa. A lot of my online friends do though and from the beginning I have been reading the things they link to on FB &Twitter. It’s sad and strange and amazing to watch this event unfolding in your life and read your raw emotions. I don’t know Anissa, but through you I know her amazing family. Regardless of the ultimate outcome for Anissa, God will bring a miracle about because of the love and strength your family has.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
So grateful to hear the good news. I can only imagine how exhausting all of this must be for all of you. When I think of Anissa, I think of laughter and love and happiness. She is so very fortunate to have such an amazingly supportive husband! You both are an inspiration as you fight to make it through this. Hang in there!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:47 pm
WOW!! What fabulous news in the end… I would have been just as concerned with that nursing home theory - how dare they?!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
You take all the “moments” you need.
Glad to hear she’s no longer in a coma. Yay, Anissa!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
Praying daily………….
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
It sounds like wonderful progress and thank you so much for the update! I will keep praying for Anissa an your family!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
Absolutely amazing.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
This is wonderful news! It’s also great to hear about the amazing support system in the friends and family that have stood by.
Thanks for the updates. I’m praying and thinking of you all every day.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
go, Anissa, go! praying for you. ALL of you. and though i don’t know you, i’m so proud of you for being her advocate. so important.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:55 pm
God rocks and is amazing! I am so glad to hear that she’s improving!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:55 pm
Rock on Anissa! Peter, thank you for the updates! God Bless you and your entire family! We will contine to pray and pray hard!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:55 pm
You are all in our prayers every day.
Much love.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
First time I’ve been able to let even a slight breath out. She’s going to do this. I just know it.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
This is wonderful news! She *can* move mountains, this is just a bigger one than most.
Go, Anissa!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
That is wonderful news. I’m so glad the medical staff was finally able to see what you have seen. Your dad and stepmom were right, you have to be her advocate so she gets the best care possible to recover. You all are constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
Sofa king awesome. Baby steps. Big fat baby steps. Anissa is a warrior.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:02 pm
I’m the silent witness to all of this and I apologize for not having said anything sooner.
I have been thinking and silently keeping you and your wife in my prayers since the start.
I sincerely wish you, your wife, and your children a speedy recovery and strength to grow and overcome your challenges. Life has a funny way of placing challenges in front of us just when we thought we couldn’t take them, but in fact there wasn’t a more perfect moment to temper us further.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:04 pm
Every day I am checking in…phew. So Anissa is hearing you and climbing out. I must quote Peter Pan…All it takes is faith and trust…(and a little bit of pix-er, angel dust!)
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
I’m so happy to read this.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:18 pm
I happened on your post from a link on Twitter. Altho at first this might not sound like encouragement, it most definitely is.
My daughter’s best friend was hit in her brain stem by a bolt of lightening 5 years ago. After 3 and 1/2 years, she finally passed quietly in the night after thousands of hours of prayer and work by family, friends and hospital staff.
Never once in that time did she show the type of recognition that your wife is now showing; we searched for the smallest clue and probably most often thought some reflex action was a purposeful movement.
I think it is most encouraging to hear of the steps she has taken; but the main reason for this post is to at least make sure you are aware of Craig Hospital in Denver, CO…one of the finest facilities in this country. Not just for the work they do for patients with brain injuries but for a staff that cares so much for their patients. Never once did we get a rote response to anything and I spent more hours than I can tell you there.
Having staff respect you and your wife’s needs is tantamount to recovery; be cautio\us of a nursing home vs a care facility designed to improve that patient’s quality of life, not just manage it.
All my best; you are in my prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:19 pm
Wow! That is good news. I will keep prying for her healing, that you will have the strength and wisdom to advocate for her and parent the children through this and for the children that they will handle this well. God bless you and yours.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
This truly does make me “rejoice in hope.” I’m keeping you all in my thoughts constantly.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:22 pm
Praise the Lord. Continuing to pray for her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:22 pm
Thanks again for the update! Peter, you are a wonderful father and husband, and you are doing a superb job juggling everything that is going on these days! We continue to pray for Anissa, you and the kids, and I am sending my love to all of you. Please give your mom an extra hug from me, as I know that she is giving her all as well to help out through all of this.
Love your posts and reading each one puts a lump in my throat by the way you convey your love for your family through your words and actions.
Love you,
Jayne
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Incredible!
Still praying for all of you.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
I learned about Anissa through Heather Spohr’s blog and have since read a lot of her writing and have followed her progress and your updates. What a witty, talented and strong person she is- and what a courageous, steadfast, and inspiring person you are, Peter. Thank you so much for keeping all of us in the loop. You and Anissa and your family are in my prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
AWESOME!!!! One step at a time
Continuing to pray everyday for all of you
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:43 pm
Sobbing with hope and the possibility of more. Go Anissa go!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
The end of your post is so encouraging, how exciting!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
Amazing! So glad to hear it! And so glad the medical staff is finally seeing it too! Anissa is in good hands with you as her advocate!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
AMEN! God is watching out for Anissa and all we can do is continue to pray and think good thoughts. I’m sorry you had to deal with the “salesperson”, sometimes that is the push that people need to keep fighting hard.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
I found about Anissa & this blog through Mama Spohr. When I first started reading, I was immediately struck by the power of Anissa’s writing. She’s quite the woman!
I really hate to admit this, but I figured you could probably use a big laugh right about now…
The very next thing that I happened on was Peter Mayhew. I am a big enough geek to know Chewbacca by name, and I was floored! “BABY, ANISSA IS MARRIED TO CHEW-freakin-BACCA!!!!!” My husband was (rightfully) startled by the sudden volume assault. Yes it took me a few minutes to realize you were not Chewbacca. (In my own defense, I was on pain meds from an accident.) I giggled for the rest of the night about that one.
Thus, the beginning of your post today made me laugh out loud again. (Good to know a fellow Browncoat btw.) Your post also made me very hopeful. She is showing a lot of very encouraging signs, and fairly early on at that. I know from experience it doesn’t seem early, but my family member didn’t begin truly interacting for a little over a full month. You are correct though, there was no “wake up” moment. What there was, was a long journey back to us. (She had a brain stem injury from a car accident.)
You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers for a long time to come!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
I was smiling and crying through this post, and completely understood your thought process in trying to get her to rest and show her amazing progress to those who apparently weren’t witnessing enough to believe in her strengths. I am so glad you are pushing for what you know is right, doctors and nurses are still outsiders, and are not quite as aware of what amazing things Anissa is capable of…Lucky for her, she has you there by her side, pushing them to see what you see!
HUGS and LOVE to you and yours…I am so happy for her progress, and will continue to send loving and healing thoughts for you all!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:11 pm
You are a GREAT Advocate. You got her message through, and she is going to get better. Even if slowly. Every small step is wonderful news.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:11 pm
Faith….Hope….Love….Peace.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
Still praying that the good news continues!
I know that she and I have talked about how she had to advocate for Peyton so often, and it looks like you’re doing a good job of advocating for her!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Tears of joy here in California. I think about Anissa and all of you all the time.
This is very good news.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
Excellent news, Peter. Thanks for the update.
I know that you probably haven’t heard my name before but Anissa and I met at the Ford event this summer and I fell for her, heart and soul. Praying hard from the west coast,
Much love to you and the kids!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
Peter you are truly amazing - I’m so glad that she is making improvements! Praying for you, Anissa and the kids.
Thanks for the update
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
From the perspective of someone who used to work with patients, what a great plan to have her save her energy to show that she’s fighting to the medical staff. No doubt it will be hard not to experience those moments of response with her, but clearly, they need to see what you are seeing.
You are so brave Peter. I have so much admiration for your strength. Not just for Anissa, but to create some sense of normalcy for your kids too through all of this. -Christine
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
HANG IN THERE ANISSA! We know you are fighting hard, just keep fighting!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
Anissa is going to kick this stroke’s ass. The doctors just have to get behind that.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:40 pm
You can do it Anissa!
Good thoughts for ALL of you Mayhews! This is good.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:41 pm
Peter,
My prayers are with you and your family…..
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
WOW…your prayers have been answered. Pete…you asked for her to wake up and she is officially awake! It would be nice for her to sing and dance her way home but hey, you didn’t ask for that yet!
Keep praying and thanking God for all He is doing thus far.
Hang in there.
I echo everyone when I say you are an amazing husband and Anissa is blessed to have you there advocating for her and choosing what is best for your family.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
Still praying and smiling.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
So glad she has you. So glad she has someone to advocate for her. I am deeply happy to hear the good news you shared. Will remember you all in my prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
So glad to hear this update. So glad things are improving. Thinking of you guys all the time.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
I do not know you and I do not know Anissa. I do know this. DO NOT LET THE MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS WRITE HER OFF!! My nephew has made amazing progress after a severe brain injury. The doctors told his parents not to take him home. He was in a coma for 4 months. They took him home and worked with him every minute they could. He woke up slowly and has made amazing progress. ADVOCATE!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
Praise the Lord. I know He is with you, and her, and your whole family!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:06 pm
What an excellent plan so the staff could see her. While it is a different situation, my b-i-l suffered a severe head injury about a year and a half ago and was in a coma for a while. The staff was not hopeful, but we were. Short story — while he still has some physical limitations, he is alive and doing well today. He can talk, walk, and is all there mentally. And his wife fought for as much rehab as they could afford — and it was worth it. We know that if he hadn’t has as much PT/OT, etc. as he did, he probably would not be where he is today — speech a little slow ad steps a little slow, but completely with us.
xxoo
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
This is great news! Everyone has an opinion, but stick to your guns as you are and I expect we’ll see more good progress reports from you. Prayers, as always.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:09 pm
I knew I liked you, Peter, I knew it! I’m a Firefly fan, too! We’re so encouraged by this news! We’re continuing to pray daily and couldn’t be happier about Anissa’s progress.
So glad to know you have a big enough support system close by that you are able to keep some semblance of normalcy for your kids. Anissa would want that (as would most any mom).
Look forward to your next update!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:12 pm
HOORAY!!!!! I’ve been praying & I’ll keep praying and I KNOW she’ll be back to her (somewhat new) self soon!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Thinking of you every day. Glad for the encouraging news at the end.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:16 pm
Thank you so much for this hopeful news, and for continuing to share. I hope writing is proving to be healing for you. BTW you’re a wonderful writer, as you are a wonderful advocate and husband and father.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Oh He certainly is. You are being guided, it’s so evident. I am so glad you are Anissa’s advocate. So thankful.
Love,
Steph
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:20 pm
FANTASTIC news! I’m so glad your plan worked and Anissa was able to show them all how strong she is.
<3
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Come on Anissa, you can do this! We’re all rooting for you.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Thank You God! Thank You God! Thank You God!
Crying tears of joy! Hallelujah!
Peter you really have your thinking cap on and your making all the right moves. All I have to say is you and Anissa are awesome to say the least! Stay strong and keep the faith. WOW! The power of pray and faith!
I was really worried when we hadn’t heard from you but just kept praying. I even thought about starting a campaign to start emailing her because I knew you had said you were keeping her phone for the jingle. Glad to hear you still have it.
We are all out here praying and the feel of love is magnificent. Thank you so much for keeping us informed!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this Peter, I know it cannot be easy.
I am continuing to pray pray pray for Anissa, and you and the kids.
Thank you for the encouraging news.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
This made me so happy to read! I can hardly wait to see what else she has to show you (and the rest of us) in the next few weeks.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:32 pm
I’m not one for prayer but all of my positive thoughts and energy are with you and your family. Thanks for keeping us all informed and full of hope.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:38 pm
Thank you so much for this update. This is definitely a step in the right direction. I continue to keep Anissa close in my heart and thoughts daily.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 6:46 pm
I don’t know Anissa. Or Peter. Or Peyton….never followed Anissa and didn’t hear of her until the stroke. And now, I feel like Anissa is as much a part of my day and life as my own family. She is in my thoughts and prayers often.
Anissa’s story has made my life richer. She has taught me to recognize what I have in my life. She has taught me to be grateful right now for what I have. She has shown me that most of the things in life do not matter. Not at all.
Peter has shown me what a husband’s love is like. He has awakened me to the profound love my own husband has for me. He has somehow continued to live life while his wife struggles for hers. What a beautiful man.
Peyton has encouraged me to relish every single moment of life with my children. She has shown me how blessed I am with healthy children. She has caused me more patient and loving with my kid’s little colds and flus.
Thank you Mayhew family. May God continue to bless you and keep you all. Love, Jennifer
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
I don’t know what to say other than I continue to pray for you and your whole family and I suspect that this is going to have a more realistic Hollywood ending — after some long hard work your family will be reunited.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:07 pm
I’m just one more person who got to the end of this post and started crying. I’m so happy to hear that she isn’t considered to be in a coma anymore, although not nearly as happy as you and your family are.
What wonderful news, if a little later than that Hollywood ending.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:08 pm
You’re such a great husband/father. She is very lucky to have you. Your blog post are just great. Heres hoping Your wonderful wife gets better faster.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
You both amaze me.
Love does — and will — conquer all.
Give that girl a high-five / fist bump / big smooch for me, will ya?
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:35 pm
YEAH! for some good news finally!
I hopw the rest of the week goes just as well. Maybe this year at christmas, she will recognize her kids….
Yeah for progress. you are still in my prayers.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:39 pm
Take all the moments you need, Peter…We’re just SO glad to have a bit of good news!
Actually, I’m gonna go ahead and say that the fact that she’s no longer “officially” in a coma is more like a GIANT CHUNK of good news!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:47 pm
I’m so happy to hear the good news. Your strength is amazing — thank you so much for keeping us updated…
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
Thank you for the update. I don’t know Anissa…. I was sent over via The Spohrs, but I have been following her/your story. What an amazing family…….and your strength is inspiring.
Praying very hard for you all and sending lots of good thoughts your way!
Tam.
Charleston, SC
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
This is awesome news! I will continue to be praying for Anissa and all of you!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
I’ve been following your posts Peter and desperately hoping for Anissa to wake up and be well again. I havent been able to leave a message until now because I just couldnt find the words. Anyway, this post has lifted my spirits and Im so glad that maybe things are going to turn around soon.
I dont know if you remember but my son Scott had a stroke two years ago at St Joes in Tampa, brought on by his chemotherapy for ALL. Anissa was there for us. So many people were scared to come, scared to see a little boy trapped in a world of ‘nothingness’ and scared because they didnt know what to say to me. But Anissa wasnt, she came, loaded up with goodies and words of wisdom and love. She came in and hugged me and cried. Just thinking about it gets me all choked up. Scott was over the worst but still very vague about what was going on. For days he didnt know who I was, who he was, his body wouldnt co-operate, it was a nightmare. Anissa held his hand and told him it was going to be okay. She told him about her stroke and said, “look at me now? I fought it and so can you”.
She was amazing.
My other memory of your darling wife was when Scott had recovered and Anissa treated us to lunch at SteaknShake. Throughout the meal Anissa and Scott did their best ‘meth addict’ impersonations!! LOL. They discussed the intricate details of meth labs in Alabama (I think?), twitching endlessly and laughing and giggling like silly little kids. It was so funny.
Thank you Anissa for being there for us and for all your love, your wit and your kindness.
Get well soon sunshine. Hurry up and get well.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
You show em Anissa! We continue to pray daily
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Sobbing. Absolutely sobbing.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Found out about you all from Jenny The Blogess.
You can have as many moments as you need.
We are blessed with the sharing here and pray hard for your family, the hospital staff and everyone following.
Very good news today.
LOVE.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Wow, what great news!! It’s only going to get better and better.
Yes, you definitely need to be her advocate. She needs all the voices she can get right now, rooting for her all the way, regardless of who it pisses off. You know her best. Don’t let some doctor tell you differently. And don’t give up.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:19 pm
So happy to hear that. I held my breath nearly the whole time I was reading that. You are being a great advocate for her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
So happy to hear that she is out of the coma and alert, even if for brief moments! I am still thinking about Anissa and praying for her to come out of this. Good for you for being her advocate and not letting people talk you into things that your family is not ready for.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:33 pm
Very good news and what a great plan. You are an amazing advocate Peter. You keep fighting for her and we’ll keep praying for her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:33 pm
Hallelujah!!!!! so thrilled to hear - can’t wait for the next report!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Well played.
Go, ‘Niss, GO!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:41 pm
I’m cheering both you and Anissa on, one breath at a time.
I’m praying for strength for Anissa and the children. And of course, for you Peter, although I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a man with more strength than what you have demonstrated over the course of these past weeks. I know Anissa is so proud of you.
Don’t give up.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Great news! Sounds like you are staying strong and she is making great progress. Best wishes for more improvements this week.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:45 pm
Thinking of her soooo much and soooo frequently. Prayed for her at church this morning when they asked for friends and family prayers.
Praying for her at every meal with grace. Then of course all the other daily “just talking to God” prayers.
This is wonderful. It will be sooooo cool when she is able to type her own messages and tell us what it is like being in a coma. I’m sure she will have a very comical way to present it.
Until then we will continue waiting patiently for your wonderful updates.
Thanks
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
Terrific update! Thank you!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Praying. Praying. Praying.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:03 pm
You are such a great advocate for her. It’s great that the staff finally saw what you’ve been seeing. Sending hope and prayers…
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
That is fantastic news. Thought of you all so much over the holiday. Hoping for more great news soon…
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
This is simply awesome! Way to go Anissa!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
When a perfect stranger can touch so many lives, it is proof that God has the power to do what He does! Your entire story as a family is such an inspiration!This whole situation caught me completely off guard. As a mommy and wife, I am always looking for humor in what I do. I thought I was the only crazy, funny, crazy, and totally going insane mom out there… THEN, I found “The” site! Women in a community that think like I do and don’t apologize for doing it our way! Proof that we can run our family with a sense of humor while loving and having Faith in The Lord… I can’t get over what you have been through, all the amazing friends that you have across our Nation! God is Faithful to complete a GREAT work, He brings His believers together, especially the ornery moms with major tudes and potty mouths (I LOVE IT)… It is your hearts that show what counts and the heart is what shines… here lies every reason to give up, but you can’t, you don’t! What a gift to have been given when we have to survive on Faith in God alone. These women are so cool, they have been a friend when they don’t have a clue that they just put out a VERY dark flame that mommies often surmise to. Anissa, God has a major purpose for your life, just look at what He is doing by bringing us all together when we all need it the most! From all walks of life, faiths, financial status and backgrounds, here we all are together for an amazing cause! TO GET YOUR ASS BETTER SO YOU CAN MAKE US ALL LAUGH AGAIN!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:13 pm
I was holding my breath all the way through this post. Clearly - having you as her husband and advocate is JUST what she needs.
This is wonderful news.
Still praying!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:19 pm
This may not be of help to you but it may so I’ll give it a shot…I remember seeing on Oprah a while ago a “brain doctor” who had gone through a stroke, I believe. Her condition afterwards sounds much like Anissa’s. The important part is that she has completely recovered and she remembers the recovery. Hearing her speak she could explain exactly what she was thinking and feeling even when she didn’t understand what was going on. She could sense people’s intentions and emotions even when she couldn’t understand words or remember who they were. I will try to find out some info about her and send it to you; I think she could be a significant inspiration to you. Good luck. Anissa will prove that nurse wrong–and she will tell it to her face someday!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
I heard of your story through Redneck Mommy and I am sending as many positive thoughts as I can your way.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Praying for you and Anissa, I only had the chance to meet her twice but what an impression she left on me. One time, I emailed her for advice thinking she wouldn’t even remember me and asked her for some advice. She emailed me back what would have been two pages printed out with the advice I needed and said she did remember me. I don’t even know how it’s possible given our brief encounters, I think she was just being nice…but isn’t that just her way.
I hope and pray for all of you…for a recovery and more family moments. And the one thing I know is Anissa is tough enough to fight for it.
God bless you all and much love,
Mary Anne
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
So glad the hospital is finally seeing what you are seeing!
We are praying for her.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:42 pm
What a great reminder regarding advocating; and excellent that you shared your plan with Anissa for her to show the hospital staff what she can do. Even better that she did just that!
While you know this is a “process” rather than “flipping the switch” situation, continue to take time for yourself– because you are her advocate. And she needs you to continue being on your game to get the best for her. You’re doing a wonderful job, and you’re also surrounding you and your kids with love– not just for Anissa, but for all of you.
My thoughts continue to be with you and your family.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:47 pm
Here is the link to the story on Oprah.com. I think it would be a great help to you to read this, if you haven’t yet.
http://www.oprah.com/article/omagazine/200210_omag_jill_bolte_taylor
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
So amazing. Your wife is SO AMAZING. We continue to pray in St. Louis for Anissa, for your family, and for the medical staff.
Such wonderful news. Keep it coming, Anissa! We’re all cheering for you!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
The only words I can find through my tears of joy are PRAISE GOD!!!!! We will continue to pray!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 10:02 pm
Holy Alleluia! HOLY ALLELUIA! EFF ME VERY LOUD ANISSA! VERY LOUD!!!! STAY AWAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
This is such wonderful news. One step at a time. xxoo Anissa - love you
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 10:49 pm
Praying for you all. A rosary was offered for you this morning in New Jersey.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
I’ve been checking every day hoping to hear wonderful news, and this is fantastic! Praise the Lord for his miracles. I’m praying for Anissa and your whole family.
This is unsolicited advice, but talk to the dr’s about The Shepherd Center. They do fantastic work with patients with brain injuries.
Can’t wait to hear about her continued progress. She is such a strong woman, and God is working his miracles!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
Peter, I found your family through Heather Spohr’s blog and have been checking frequently to hear how Anissa is doing.
You probably already know this but Anissa’s story is in the St. Pete Times today. http://www.tampabay.com/features/humaninterest/word-for-word-blog-soothes-familys-pain-amid-health-crises/1054803
Congrats on your new plan to get the medical staff to see her progress. Great idea!!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 11:36 pm
Oh I wish I would’ve seen this earlier!!! This sounds like amazing news! She is getting stronger and in good time, she’ll be surprising you/us even more! Thank you so much for posting this!
Still praying here in NC!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 11:45 pm
God is sooo good! When your family said to be her advocate - think about the type of advocate she was for her sick child! - you probably wouldn’t have wanted to be on the other end of her determination! You are doing an amazing job! Keep it up! Your whole family is in my prayers!
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 11:52 pm
Praying for you and your family from Boulder, Colorado.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 11:59 pm
That is wonderful news. I’ll continue to pray. You’re doing an excellent job as her advocate.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:08 am
Awesome. Just awesome. Sending positive thoughts you way.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:14 am
It sounds like she’s making wonderful progress and I’m SO happy to hear it!! Prayers upon prayers as things continue to get better. Go Anissa!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:17 am
Such wonderful news, Peter! So happy and looking forward to more news of improvements soon to come.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:20 am
Prayers are constant, love is never ending and hope is there always. The first time I met Peyton I knew she was a survivor - I saw it in her eyes. She got that from her mama. I have no doubt - not a single one - that Anissa will come through this with a story to tell, some wisdom to share and that same light and laughter that has touched so many. And Peter - YOU, my friend, are amazing!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:51 am
Hi there,
I am a new reader to your blog, but I am not new to the kind of situation you are in. Just this September, my Father suffered sudden cardiac arrest and literally dropped dead while walking to work. Luckily, he was in a well trafficked spot and received immediate CPR. When the paramedics arrived, they performed shocks with a defibrillator to get his heart going again. In all, he spent some time without oxygen and was in a coma in the CCU. After about 1.5 weeks of the coma, he decided to wake up and extubate himself. Fast forward to two weeks ago, my Dad is home, walking, talking, sure all this is a littler slower than before, but he came back to us. My best advice? Be patient. It’s the hardest thing to do, but our patience really paid off, and after about 1.5 months, my father finally started to click back to his regular self and three weeks after that, he was coming home without help. We heard it all too — he will go to a nursing home for the rest of his life, he will go to a dimentia ward for the rest of his life. Let them talk. Know your options, but be patient and see how the situation plays out. And yes, you are so right. This is not Hollywood. Coma’s are tough to come back from but it does happen. Annissa is lucky. She’s young and has so much to live for — with you, your children. Hang in there and you are in my thoughts and prayers! Stay positive!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:00 am
that’s definitely positive news. thinking of you all and continuing to send prayers to anissa, you and your children. thank you for keeping us updated, peter.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:17 am
Chills beyond chills and tears in my eyes. Anissa is coming back. Praise the Lord, and praise you. You just made my whole night.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:33 am
What great news! Continuing to pray.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:56 am
I’m so glad that your dad and step-mom were able to help you remember that part of the role you’re playing. That can sometimes be the hardest part of watching a loved one in pain, in struggle, in triumph. She *will* pull through. I’m praying for you all.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 2:23 am
Sounds like a good plan, Peter! Glad it seems to be working so far. The hospital staff seeing what you’ve been seeing is very encouraging.
And I think you did the right with the gal from the other place. I would not doubt for a minute that everything she said was rehearsed.
Keep being her best advocate! I’ve seen people (my brother in law, this past April, in fact) come back from this. Today he is a walking, talking miracle. He’d been given hours to live and no hope of recovery. It *IS* possible!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:35 am
HI,
I know you don’t know me, but I wanted to drop by and send some encouraging news. In November 2005, my now ex-fiance, had several massive strokes at the young age of 25 years old. He was at work when they happened, and it quite frankly saved his life. You see, while he was at home in our apt in Bemidji, MN I was in the Twin Cities, about 4 hrs away, visiting with my parents who were in the country very briefly. I got a call from his boss on a Sat. afternoon, that he wasn’t quite feeling well and had passed out TWICE at work. WAIT. WHAT?! He passed out? and REFUSED an ambulance? Ok…calm down….so I wait…and wait…and wait some more. Finally the ER physician calls and says “He’s had a stroke.” When I heard the word STROKE I suddently stopped in my tracks and started crying, I knew that this meant, and what his prognosis was instantly. This was not a small stroke, he was non-verbal, and could not move his right side, nor could he think at ALL. He didn’t even recognize his own Uncle when he showed up at the ER the night it happened. I spent HOURS on the phone trying to reach his parents to tell them what happened and to PLEASE PLEASE rush to the hospital to be with my beloved fiance. I could not leave the Twin Cities because a NASTY storm had come in that night with 4″ of ice and the major highways going North were CLOSED! I literally had no way there, and they had cancelled all flights. So flying wasn’t an option either. So I finally reached his dad, who went to the hospital several hours later. I found he had suffered a series of strokes, and had several TIA’s first before having a massive stroke that rendered him paralyzed on his right side, and completely non-verbal. AFter he passed out the first time, he was still verbal. It wasn’t until the second time that he was non-verbal. His Boss quickly called an ambulance of course and he was taken to the hospital.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:36 am
(Forgive me for not being REAL clear or telling this in a linear fashion. It is STILL terrifying for me to tell the story this many years later, and we are not even together anymore.) This particular hospital, however, was not able to properly care for J because they don’t have a neurologist on staff. All they knew was that he had suffered a stroke, or series of, and they were unsure why so they could not use a clot buster to stop it. They originally thought he had been poisoned and that’s why he had a stroke, we now know that is not true. The thought was if he was poisoned this could be a side affect of whatever was poisoning him, and thus could turn around once the poison was out of his system. That however was not the case. So since, they were not capable of taking care of J there, he needed to be life flighted to another hospital with a higher Trama unit, and a neurologist who could properly evaluate J and tell us his prognosis more accurately. So he was life-flighted to Fargo, ND for further evaluation that evening. After arriving there, we were told, he would most likely pass away fairly quickly due to where the stroke took place. His stroke was in left temporal lobe, which controls your memory, emotions, and ability to speak. Because they feared this was a series of strokes, they feared another one. The issue we were facing was due to the stroke, he had severe brain swelling, and eventually his brain would swell and crush his brain stem thus causing immediate death. We were given an option of a surgery where they go in, and remove a portion of the skull, allowing the swelling and when the swelling went down, to replace that skull flap. So since we were told he would most certainly pass away without the surgery, we felt very compelled to at least TRY. We were hoping that things would not progress to the point where he would need the surgery, but after 3 days it became VERY evident that the swelling was taking it’s toll and J would need the surgery asap. He then spent 56 days in a coma. Never moving, opening his eyes, or even giving us ANY sign that he was in there and alive, by this point it became apparent that we NEEDED to see medically what was going on.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:36 am
So they started to SLOWLY lift his sedation meds. After several days he would open his eyes briefly, but could not focus on things very well. Then he’d open then more and more every day to the sound of certain voices. Mostly his siblings, and mine, and occasionally a doctor if they were perisistent enough. Eventually as that was going on, he was also being weined slowly on his ventilator settings as well. Oh yeah. We had surgery done after 30 days in a coma for a feeding tube, and a trach. For him to help allow for a better “ recovery” and healing if he were to emerge from this coma. He had been on a ventilator since his brain surgery which took place 3-days after his stroke. Within two weeks he was awake, but not quite breathing on his own yet. He went out to main floor still on his ventilator, where he had many trials of breathing on his own, until he was eventually able to come off it completely. He spent several weeks on the main floor, and was then released to a special rehab hospital in Fargo. Where he spent 3 more months in rehab before he was released to come back home. Once back in Bemidji, he was placed in a nursing home temporarily, until he was completely accepted into Courage Center in Golden Valley, MN. CC is a rehab facility that focuses on people with severe brain injuries or spinal injuries and helping to get them independent to live on there own again. Now we are at November 2009, he lives in a nice house with his sister, 2 neices, and nephew. Walks, talks, and functions just like you or I do. Now, don’t let me get to far ahead of myself. His right arm is still not functional, however, he walks just like you and I do. His right leg came around after months of rehab. He doesn’t talk a lot, he says about 100 words and phrases. Most of which are things we’ve been saying since we were babies. But there are LOTS and LOTS of other ways he communicates to let us know what he wants or is trying to tell you. He uses sign language, including some he made up, pictures, a dynavox (speaking maching with pictures) and his computer. I hope in the midst of all my LENGTHY story I’ve just told you, that you can find some hope for your wonderful wife. Ever since I heard your story, I’ve checked daily for an update on her.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:37 am
And am VERY hopeful for her. I TOO have experienced ALL fleeting emotions you’re going through, and have experienced from a spouses point of view. We do not have children together, but had been together for 2+ years when his stroke happened. All these little signs and movements shes making are positive and shes trying to let you know she’s still in there, and can hear and understand everything going on around her, she just can’t tell you that. Please keep trying, keep praying, keep BELIEVING. We were told on several occasions with J that he would not survive, and look where he is now 4 years later. And your wife will be too. And I simply CANNOT wait for that day when she walks across the floor again, and says “I love you”. I spent HOURS and HOURS helping Joe and encouraging him, and repeating what I was saying so he could attempt to mimic it. And it helps it works. Your wife is in there, and is trying soo hard to tell you that. Yes, she needs her rest, but she also needs to know that you all have hope and belief that she will get better. For if you lost hope and faith, so will she. So keep doing what you’re doing. Continue to encourage her to interact with you, bring your kids to see her, she may not say it but SHE LOVES IT! I promise you she loves seeing the kids. And she loves seeing you and everybody else coming to visit. I KNOW she knows she is loved and cared for. This will not be a small task for her to over-come. It will be LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of hard work. There will be days you feel like throwing the towel in and giving up, and there will be set backs. Some days it feels like 3 steps forward 2 steps back, but perservere. She can do this and so can you. And Most importantly. DO NOT EVER, I REPEAT EVER be afraid to ASK FOR HELP. WE all have our days, when we simply cannot do it. Fear not, tomorrow is another day. This day too, shall pass. Have hope and faith and belief that tomorrow WILL be a BETTER day, not only a BETTER day, but a BEST day. May everyday be a BEST day, or better than the previous. For as long as you have faith and hope and belief, you have everything. They keep saying “If HE brings you to it, he WILL bring you THROUGH it. But why does it seem like you can’t? I don’t know, I don’t understand it either. But somehow, you CAN and you DO….and days turn into weeks which turn into months which turn into years of BETTERNESS. My prayer is that everyday will be BETTER and BETTER and a BEST day for your wife, and you and your family. May God continue to Bless you, your wife, and your family. Please feel free to contact me if you just need somebody to VENT to or ask questions. I understand the pain, the anger, the fear, all the emotions that go along with this. It’s not fair, no it’s not. Does it suck at times? ABSOLUTELY !! But you can do it, and so CAN SHE! Your wife will do wonderful and miraculous things, you just wait! She CAN and she WILL! Let her show them the impossible. God Bless each and every one of you.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:39 am
I am sorry for hi-jacking your blog so to speak, but I couldn’t find an e-mail address for you. I am also sorry it is soo lengthy, but I wanted to point out how grim it looked for him and how well he has miraculously recovered.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 6:19 am
This sounds so! encouraging!!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:23 am
Happy to hear that things are moving in the right direction.
Praying and praying and praying for her!!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:26 am
Still praying and thinking of you guys everyday!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:32 am
Your post just demonstrated a Hollywood scene to me.it is that of unconditional love. It is the love some people only see on movies! Your wife is a very lucky woman to have you and such an amazing network of support.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:44 am
Beautiful news. Thank you so much for the update. Will continue praying for you all!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 9:37 am
Oh, I have goosebumps. And faith. Lots of faith.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 10:45 am
I was already in love with Anissa! Now I’m a little in love with you too Peter! In a totally appropriate way of course!
I truly believe that you get back from the world what you put out there, and Anissa has put out there some amazing, wonderful “stuff.” It’s coming back to her in your love, the love of her friends, and in her fight to come back to you and your family.
As always, thank you so much for updating her many, many friends and fans!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 11:12 am
That is wonderful that the medical team saw what you have been seeing. So glad things are now moving the way you hoped they would.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 11:19 am
You and Anissa are extraordinary. I’m so hopeful for this great news!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 11:52 am
Wow. I just burst into tears over here. This is a huge mountain moved already.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:02 pm
Hi, I am a new reader being inspired by your family’s strength and hope. I just wanted to tell you my experience of my brother’s accident and the rehab issues we had, hoping it could give you a little insight.
My brother’s story is different, he broke his back at age 15 and became paralyzed. Maryland’s Shock Trauma Center told us to go to Kernan Rehab Hospital because they owned it. The place was more like a nursing home. The doctors at the rehab center told us ‘he would never walk again, so why bother trying’. Their goal for him was to get him to be able to move around on his own. After battling with doctors and nurses there, we took him out and got him into Johns Hopkins Kennedy Krieger Institute here in Baltimore. Their rehab center was so much different. Their goal is to push their patients to their fullest, to keep their bodies healthy and in shape and they definitely lift your spirits with their ways of rehab. They make the rehab fun.
Another one of our friends had a massive brain injury from an accident and was in a coma for seven months. Md’s Shock Trauma also didn’t have hope for him. One of the nurses even made fun of his progress to us, not realizing we were his friends. He, too, went to Kernan and his father took him out of it because they weren’t taking care of him. Our friend went to Kennedy Krieger and has made huge improvements. Still improving his walk, but communicates normally.
I don’t know which rehab centers are in your area, but I do know Kennedy Krieger takes patients with brain injuries. Their site says for children, but they do take adult and international patients. But I hope you find a rehab center that will stand by you and your wife and push her to her fullest. If you know she could be doing more, speak up. With time and work, anything is possible.
Thanks for sharing your story with us.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
Continued prayers and love to you and all your family! Fight like the dickens for the rehab, and thank you for your thoughtful updates. I’m sending you in all the prayers I got xo Bridget
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
My family is praying for you and your Wife. Your whole family too. Praise God for her alertness and being awake! He is amazing. Looking forward to hearing more good news.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
All I can say is praise God. We all continue to keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. And you certainly do have to be an advocated for our loved ones.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:28 pm
You were right. She can move mountains.
xoxoxoxoxo
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
That is wonderful news!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
Praise God!!!!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Such good news! Anissa is very lucky to have an advocate like you on her side - I’m sure she’ll be kicking some doctor-butt herself soon :).
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
thanks for the good news; am optimistic.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Fan-freaking-tastic!!!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
This is wonderful news! God is great… Keeping the faith alive. God Bless.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
this is better than any hollywood story.. because it’s REAL. and it’s your story.. and it’s her story.. and it affects so many of us.
thank you peter, for writing updates and giving us all what we so desperately want to know- what’s going on. we’re all here for you. here for her. here for your family. we’re not going anywhere.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Thank you so much for all the updates. I’ve been thinking of you, Anissa and the kids and I’ll continue to. We all have faith and confidence in Annissa’s strength. We’ll keep thinking positive thoughts and sending you our prayers and light.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
I am crying as I read this. I am so happy for you that someone else finally saw what you knew was happening. YAY ANISSA!!!!!
Will continue to pray for you all.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
All giddy here too!!!
So glad that the medical staff has finally seen what y’all have.
Go Anissa!!! (and yeah, I”m so thankful that she’s letting them see it too!)
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
Annissa has quite the fan club here! I’ve been watching silently on the sidelines but wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of your family every day as I read this.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
I am SO happy to read this news! Go Anissa! We love you!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Peter,
As a fellow Firefly geek, here’s another quote for you: We have done the impossible, and that makes us mighty.
You are mighty! Anissa is mighty! You will do this together! Thinking and praying for you every day.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
And the miracle begins!
You are in the palm of His hand!
Hugs,
Becky
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 4:33 pm
Woohoo, that is the kind of news I was hoping for when I navigated to this site.
Prayer is powerful! (and so is Anissa
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
such great news-I am very excited for you all. Praying for you all.
xo
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Praying for you all! That is great news! So happy for you all especially for Anissa! Keep positive and praying! More Miracles to come!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 6:06 pm
This is wonderful news. My best to you, Anissa and your whole family!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
You are amazing. I hope you have someone as strong as yourself to lean on. Your family is so damn lucky to have you.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:32 pm
You are all in my thoughts and prayers!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Just “jiggling your hip” to remind you that prayers are continuing to go up from north Texas.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
I heard of your amazing wife only a few weeks ago, but I’m praying for her to gain strength and recover from all this. I know she’s surrounded with so much love. Your entry today is wonderful news. Thanks for sharing it with us.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 9:59 pm
Awesome news! I’ve been admiring Anissa from afar for a while now, and since hearing about the stroke she’s been on my mind a lot. More prayers from a stranger, comin’ your way… keep the faith.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 10:07 pm
Such good news! I have been on pins and needles since Thanksgiving waiting for you to post an update. I will continue to pray. Hang in there!!!
Kim
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 10:08 pm
Awesome news! Thinking of you, Anissa and your kids every day. You’re doing such a great job for both your wife and your kids, bless your heart (as some people say down here). Sending lots of bloggy love and strength in spirit!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 10:15 pm
I am glad to hear that she’s progressing well. I will keep praying for her and your family.
Hang in there..
Much love for you and the kids.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 10:19 pm
Praying, hoping and believing !!!
Peter, you are an amazing father and wife………I can’t imagine how hard this is but I hope the fact that you are surrounded from near and far by friends, families and strangers will help hold you up when it gets too hard to stand!!
From IL…….we are all wishing there was more we could do!
Lisa
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
What exciting news! And good for you for being such a strong advocate.
Speaking of which, a friend once gave me this tip that I thought was great: when you’re trying to get medical staff to give the best treatment to someone whose mental faculties have been impaired, put pictures of *them* looking healthy, doing some of their favorite activities from before the incident in the hospital room. It helps the hospital staff “humanize” the patient.
Just thought I’d pass that on in case it’s helpful. Many more prayers coming your way!
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
Peter, this is fantastic news. Anissa is on her way back, with a vengeance. You are doing your wife proud.
Thinking of Anissa and you and your family every day…
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 12:53 am
Hang in there Anissa, Peter and kids!! Can’t wait to hear the next update.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 12:57 am
Praying, hoping, and believing.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 1:03 am
progress is always good news…have you all in my thoughts. anissa has made me laugh on so many occasions. i love that about her. i also know she’s strong and if anyone can overcome this, it will be her.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 11:58 am
my thoughts are with you all.
my mother had a massive stroke 15 years ago the day before Christmas Eve at the age of 45. Her condition after her stroke sounds an awful lot like Anissa’s. i am happy to report that she is a dynamic Grandma to 2 today; driving, walking, talking and working. She still has a slight limp, some hesitation speaking and her right arm is not as strong as her left, but she is fantastic-the picture of health! The road is long and painful at times, but know that there are so many of us out there praying for her…and you…
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Again, I dont known Anissa but I’ve been following your story…..
This post just made me cry tears of joy for your family…. This is such great news!!
I will continue to pray for your family… she will pull through this!
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 12:57 pm
Praise the Lord! I am Praying Hard for you and Passed the request to a very active Prayer Warrior group in South Florida. The Prayers are going to keep pouring in. Keep up the healing! xoxo, Kandi Ann
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 4:40 pm
Wonderful news! Still praying for you and Anissa and the kids. keep the good news coming.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 4:47 pm
This is phenominal news…what an amazing woman/wife you have!!! Sending MANY hugs & prayers to Anissa - you & your family!
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 5:49 pm
Peter, you continue to amaze me. Your groundedness, your faith, your strength, your honesty…and now your writing skill, too! You really had me on the edge of my seat with this one when I read it on Sunday. (I’ve been taking moments, too.) I am SO glad to hear of Anissa’s improvements, and will continue to pray for the best for all of you.
Take the moments you need, Peter. We’ll be here praying for you regardless.
And thank you so much for telling your story. My brother and I have been following and learning so much from you and Anissa. Thank you.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 6:50 pm
God does things in His own time. Alleluia! I’m glad for the good news. Amen.
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on Dec 1st, 2009 at 8:08 pm
I am a physical therapist and work in an acute care hospital, similar to the one your wife is in now. First off I want to say how sorry I am that you are going through this. Its incredibly tough to see someone you love suffer and you have no control over it. But there is a lot of hope, especially with the type of stroke she suffered. With a hemmorhagic stroke there is usually a LOT of recovery once the blood disipates. I have seen many many patients go from not being able to do anything, to fully functional again. As for rehab, I would push hard for acute rehab (rehab center) just insist, they will tell you that she wouldnt tolerate it. The patient does have to tolerate 3 hours of therapy a day, if she is not able to and needs to go to a sub acute facility (usually in a nursing home), you can always insist she be transferred to the rehab facility when she is able to tolerate the 3 hours a day. The best rehab though is just keep trying to interact with her, have her try and use her whole visual field. Hopefully therapy has already started with her at your hospital, if not insist on it now. Good Luck!! Catherine
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 1:30 am
I always feel lost for words when I read your posts yet always feel compelled to leave a comment that you are all in my thoughts and in my prayers. Anissa will make it through this. Keep believing and don’t worry if you ever have a moment of doubt or distress, because there are so many of us out there holding up the belief that Anissa will make it through this. Best wishes Peter.
-x-
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 2:22 am
hi… as well as the rest of us, i’m are praying for anissa and your family… all the way from mexico.
best wishes
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 3:34 am
I JUST found the comments section- duh!
My prayers are with you and your family, and (it goes without saying) Anissa. I’ve been checking in daily and sending good thoughts your way.
Go Anissa GO!!!!
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 9:21 am
Peter and Anissa,
I read about your family in the newspaper on Sunday and my thoughts and prayers have been with you ever since. You have already had so many struggles with your little girl, it must be a nightmare to be dealing now with Anissa’s stroke. Your story brought me back 3 years ago to the day my beloved Dad had a hemmorhagic stroke 3 days after Christmas. He was only 64 at the time, and seemed to be in great health before. I lost my mom when I was in college and so I am very close to my Dad, altho we don’t live close to each other. I rushed to his bedside and was completely devastated to see the state he was in. He wasn’t in a coma like Anissa was, but he was so disoriented, had a blank look on his face, and my to my heartbreak he didn’t even seem to know who I was. In the first few days it seemed hopeless that he would ever come back to us, he didn’t even know what a pen was or a spoon. The doctors explained that there was a huge amount of blood on his brain almost like a huge bruise and that it would take a long time for that to be reabsorbed back into his body. He went into a full facility rehab from the hospital and slowly started making progress. I just want you to know that 3 years later he is almost back to the way he was before, with a few struggles but he is himself. His personality didn’t change, his sense of humor, his love for God and his family, he is still HIM! I wanted to share this with you for you to know that others are thinking about you and your family, and pulling for Anissa. NEVER give up hope and NEVER let her give up hope! She has a many great reasons to recover and you all will represent those reasons in the months ahead. Bless you and your family!!!!
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 10:17 am
You guys will be in our prayers.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 11:15 am
I just read your family’s struggles this AM, and I’m nearly moved beyond words. I pray your special family will draw strength from our God, and then your loved ones and many friends, during these temporary trials - “…. be of good cheer …” John 16:33
I am confident that, your blessings will be many!
Peace and blessings to you all 0:-)
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 11:59 am
We are thinking about Anissa and I know it’s hard for you to continuously update but is anyone else out there updating even little bits of info where we can find out how she’s doing? She’s always in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Catching up on these posts and sobbing. Praying, praying, praying for you, Anissa and your little ones.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 2:17 pm
That’s an amazing line to steal. We continue to pray in GA…
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 2:23 pm
You so must keep fighting to get the therapy she needs to come back to you. My grandmother (who raised me along with my mother) had a major stroke when I was 12. She made progress far beyond what any one had predicted for her -largely down I think to strong willed personality, something it sounds like your wife has in droves!
On the issue of your kids seeing her -you know them best of course, but they may surprise you. I was desperate to see my Gran who was non-verbal at the beginning (although did recognize us). I visited her after school every other day at least and this really helped with her therapy. I loved seeing her and I am still really grateful to have been able to do that. My sister who is 4 years older found it harder to handle -I guess it just depends on personality a bit. All my best wishes and healing thoughts to your wife and lovely family.
Robyn, London
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 3:19 pm
Hi, new reader here from Singapore. Get better soon, Annisa. I’ll be praying for your full recovery.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 4:01 pm
I’m so happy the hospital staff saw the activity! You’re right — you now have them on your side.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 4:44 pm
Peter and Family,
I am a stranger who has read Annissa’s writing periodically. I love her wit and her style. I am praying for her and for all of you. This post gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes!
With Continued Thoughts and Prayer from a Fellow Firefly fan,
Kat
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Just wanted to reach out and let you know I’m praying for all of you. I love reading Anissa - no matter what she’s writing about. Take care of yourself and the children and fight with all you have for the best possible care for Anissa. We all love her.
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 8:17 pm
Hi,
I’ve written before but you don’t know me (nor I you other than now from Anissa’s fight). I have to tell you that this post made me cry. You are an amazing husband fighting so hard for your amazing wife. Thank you for a reminder of what is right about the world! I’m just stunned by the way your post ended. I hope she’s been improving all these days since she became “very awake”. I pray daily that Anissa will come back to you guys.
- meg
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Just checking in to see how things are going. Have not seen an update in a bit … Hoping all is as well as can be expected.
Take care, Peter.
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on Dec 3rd, 2009 at 1:51 am
I confess, I was not a believer much in the man/woman upstairs but I gotta tell you, I’m comin round. Please give her a huge hug from me.
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on Dec 3rd, 2009 at 8:27 am
Praise the LORD!! This is the best news I could have possibly have read! God is leading you in the way that He needs you to go to get her the best help possible! I’m so thankful, and am praying fervently that she continues to improve! Thank you for the update…we understand that you need time to focus on her!
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on Dec 3rd, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Hope you’re all doing okay. <3
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on Dec 3rd, 2009 at 1:30 pm
I also don’t know you personally, but came to know of you and your family online. You have been in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Dec 3rd, 2009 at 10:52 pm
I can relate to experiencing hard thing after hard thing….though I think you have had it even harder. I myself am in remission from cancer. I was pregnant with my fourth child when I found out I had cancer. But miracles do happen. I am now in remission for almost 2 years. My baby just turned 2, healthy as can be, though I had chemo while pregnant with her. I know times look hard now, but don’t ever let anyone make you lose an ounce of hope. My dad had a massive stroke at the age of 51 in 2004. They acted like he wouldn’t make it but you know he showed them and got better. He made it through that and you never would have known he had a stroke. I have faith. You are there for her. Even if she doesn’t act like she knows you, doesn’t mean she doesn’t. Anyway, I can only offer encouragement in that I have been with someone I love who has went through this and I understand the grief when it seems bad thing after bad thing happens. I will be thinking and praying for you all.
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on Dec 4th, 2009 at 12:28 am
Just thinking about all of you. Continuing to send prayers your way.
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on Dec 4th, 2009 at 2:40 am
Great plan! I’m so glad Anissa got on board with you and saved her strength to show the medical staff. Go Anissa, go!!
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on Dec 4th, 2009 at 5:10 am
I’m still praying for you guys. God answers prayers. Where there’s life, there’s hope - and I’m so glad to read that Anissa has been able to show progress to the medical staff.
If you are at all able, take some time to rest. You need all your strength, and your kids need you. So does Anissa.
This was really encouraging.
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on Dec 4th, 2009 at 9:46 am
Hi Peter,
Just wanted to ‘jiggle’ that phone on your hip and let you know I’m still praying for you guys. Fantastic news that the nurses could see Anissa’s reactions.
You must be so busy at the moment trying to juggle all the balls and with Peytons birthday coming up - tomorrow? Forgive me if that’s wrong - my kids would tell you that my memory is not so good now I’m getting older!!
I’m praying especially that when Nathaniel, Rachel and Peyton get to see their Mom they are all able to ‘get something positive’ from it. It’s not an easy decision and you’ll know when the time is right.
Take care of yourself and please send Anissa my love.
Dawn, England.
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on Dec 4th, 2009 at 10:51 am
Anissa is an inspiration! That’s is one tough cookie! My thoughts and prayers are with you and the fam during her recovery:)
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
You are an amazing and loving husband. God will get you through this.
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