Six years ago today, my little Peyton made her grand entrance, and the world was never the same.
It was brighter.
Today we celebrated Peyton’s birthday with breakfast, presents, Rockettes, dinner and cake, prompting her to say this was the best birthday yet. Thanks to everyone who sent cards/presents and a big thanks for the tickets to the Rockettes. The timing was impeccable on that one. It gave my kids a well deserved distraction that they’ve been needing.
Ya know, if you watch the news, you get the feeling that this world is a horrible place.
Have a catastrophe or 3 happen to you, and you see the absolute beauty in this world. There are GREAT people in it.
Please understand, I simply don’t have the time for thank you cards….but each gift, thought, prayer, comment, etc. has been received and appreciated with much love. There have been some amazing, inspiring things happening, and a lot of times I’m at a loss for what to say, other than thank you and I can only pay it forward.
To that end, Anissa absolutely loves the Twilight series. She wrote about it a few months back in here somewhere. Some friends, new and old, came up with a “twilight inspired idea.” They’ve come up with shirts for Team Anissa and all proceeds are coming to us. Check it out here.
So, Friday morning arrived with MUCH anticipation.
Thanks to friends and family, since all this began, Anissa has only been alone in the ICU for one night. It was Wednesday night. She had essentially been stable, and was consistently resting through the nights. I just wanted to make sure someone she knew was there as she was waking up, so she would have some comfort.
They extubated her Thursday night, and my aunt thankfully stayed with her. Just as an extra precaution to make sure she could keep her airway clear.
When I got up to the hospital Friday morning, Anissa had a mask over her mouth to force oxygen at her. She was looking fairly aware. She was also acting fairly ticked off. She was pushing us away when we’d get close.
She reached up and pulled the mask off violently.
They brought in some tubes that went under her nose instead. She was ok with that.
I started talking to her. Trying to figure out some form of communication. She just stared at me, angrily.
I’ve been known to ask an inappropriate question or two in tense situations. It’s just our way of dealing with stress. It lets the other know things are going to be alright, and has been known to diffuse situations for us in the past. So, I rolled the dice a little. I told her she probably couldn’t talk, but could you try to sing a few bars. She actually sarcastically snorted at that.
I asked if she was mad. Big nod yes.
I asked her if she was mad at me. Big nod yes.
I asked her if she was mad at me because she was in the hospital bed. Big nod yes.
I asked her if she wanted to see someone else here. Nothing.
I held her hand and said squeeze if you hear a name of someone you want to see. I rattled off a few names. Nothing. I started naming off the kids. Big squeeze.
I got the feeling she was doing more than just hearing me. She was actually comprehending things. So, I started telling her about things. I said the kids were safe in school, that I paid the bills, that Peyton had broken her wrist, that Rachael was named student of the month. I told her I had talks with Nathaniel’s teachers about his progress report.
Basically, I told her I had everything under control.
Her expression changed from anger to surprise.
The nurses came in to do a few things so I left the room for a little bit. Angry isn’t really a strong enough word for what I got from Anissa. I made a few phone calls to family and friends and got what I think was some pretty good advice. Maybe she’s confused about what’s going on. Tell her what happened. She’s trapped in there, disoriented, in and out, confused and can’t communicate.
When I got back to the room, she was still pretty ticked.
I got in real close to her and gave her a kiss. She turned her head away. I told her she was in the ICU of the hospital and that she had another stroke. She turned her head back to face me.
I told her some of the highlights of the past 3 weeks. Not too much. I didn’t want to overwhelm her.
She softened some and held my hand.
We were interrupted because the nurses came in to transfer us.
Yes, I said transfer.
We’ve moved out of the ICU people!
We’re in a normal room. Of course there’s a bit of fear of leaving the comfort zone of the ICU nurses, but this is a HUGE step.
When she got down to the room, we resumed our conversation. I played some sounds of breakfast that morning with the kids. I told her they were doing fine.
I played some music from her favorite show, Glee.
A little later, I asked if she wanted to see a video. She nodded yes. So I played one. I played the “Faces of Childhood Cancer” for her. She had watched it over and over again when she made it the first time. As it was playing, I was talking to her. Do you remember making this? Nod. You helped all of those beautiful kids when they needed it. You helped give them hope. You didn’t let them quit. They’ve all been praying for you and walking with you. They’re not going to let you quit. It’s ok to be mad, sad, laugh, cry, you name it. Does this suck now? You bet. But, I’m here with you. You know that. I’m not going anywhere. The kids are praying for you and they miss you. This is just one more thing for us to overcome. The damage that’s been done can be fixed. It’s going to be hard. We’ve got a lot of work to do, but we’ve also got a lot of help.
When that video ended, I asked if she wanted to see a different one. Big nod yes. I showed her the “A Mother’s Love” video. As it played, I told her all of those moms are with you. You’ve helped them when they were down. They’ve been helping you. They’re going to help you now. It’s going to take a lot of work, but we’re in this together. We can do this. We’ve got a lot of help. It’s just one more thing. Then I asked if she wanted to try to work.
Big nod yes.
Ok, try to chew. She moved her mouth. Try to cough. Cough. Want to try to sit up? She moved her arm over to the rail to try to push off. She didn’t get all that far. Still EXTREMELY weak. Try to talk. Mouth opened.
She’s in there.
I’ve just got to figure out how to get her out.
This morning, she was not as aware as she was yesterday. I think that’s how this is going to go. There will be ups and downs, and she needs lots and lots of rest. She’s in and out a lot. I’m pretty sure she’s getting most of the conversations when she’s in.
The thing about the brain is that they simply don’t understand a whole lot about it. Some folks have left some book ideas on here in the comments section. I’ve got some reading to do.
I don’t know that I want to be disheartened by “experts” who tell me things that can’t be done at this point. I’m really more interested in possibilities at this point. I do, however, want to know the best methods and durations to push her on.
All of you thick-skinned, loud voiced people who I’ve been holding in reserve…your time to help may be coming a little sooner than I anticipated. There will be times that she needs to be pushed beyond her limits, we’re not there yet, but I think we are getting there.
On Monday, we’ll be re-evaluated by a couple of different rehab centers.
I’m letting her get some rest this weekend and not pushing her too hard. Her sister covered today so I could do Peyton’s birthday. She got some pretty good communication from her too.
I’m just hoping the evaluators see it.
on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:44 am
Amazing! God is wonderful! Great progress and yes, those baby steps are HUGE! Praying for you and your family………..
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:45 am
continuing to pray that she finds her way soon!!!
Congrats on the move. That is Huge!!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:47 am
Crying here.
VIVA ANISSA!!!!!
love & light & MERRY CHRISTMAS! And Happy Birthday Peyton!!!
What a wonderful two days.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:47 am
You are such a good & insightful husband. Just who Anissa needs on her side - she is truly blessed. Your family is in my prayers. When I stop at stoplights, when I pray for my family, I put you in there too.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:47 am
This is awesome news.
I got to meet with a man who had the exact same type of stroke as Anissa this week. One of the things he said really hit me. He said, “you do the best you can with the tools you have.” He’s 4 years out from his stroke and while he has one-sided weakness, he’s independent and doing GREAT. Because he worked hard.
And I am more than confident that Anissa can do it to. She’s got some really REALLY fantastic tools around her.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:49 am
This is the best news of the day. I know we haven’t met, Peter, but the wife and I intend to come over to visit and tell Anissa to get out of bed as soon as you say it’s ok for her to receive visitors.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:49 am
I’m praying for you all!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:50 am
Heart leaping.
And I continue to be impressed by getting to see and know you through your words and actions, Peter. So glad you’re at her side.
<3 to the Mayhews.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:50 am
She’s fighting so hard! I can barely breathe when reading these and we can’t thank you enough for the updates because we all love her so much. Always thinking of y’all!
You’re getting there Anissa and we’ll all be here waiting for you!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:50 am
Peter, thank you so much for updating all of us. I hope all our energy and love is making its way over to Anissa. I believe that it is.
Don’t forget that all this love is heading your way too.
Happy Birthday to Peyton and many, many hugs and encouragement from my family to yours. Love love love.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:50 am
Peter, your words are so comforting. Thank you for picking up the burden of helping all of us ‘online friends’ get through this. You are as much of a blessing to us as your wife.
Thank you.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:51 am
This is fantastic!!! I’ve been thinking of her quite often and wondered how she was. I’ll continue to pray over her. Thank you for the update! And send a HUGE Happy Birthday shout out to Peyton!!! I hope you had a wonderful day! Enjoy the rest of your weekend! Love, hugs and prayers from Kansas!-Becky
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:52 am
This is so encouraging. Thank you for the update, and for being such a good husband. You honor her so well.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:53 am
This update made me SO teary!! You go Anissa!! I am certainly pulling for you girl.
Peter, I am in Chicago. But add me to the list of long distance help! I have met Anissa a couple of times - Blogher and the Type-A Mom Conference. It was only twice, but I love her! She is VERY lucky to have you. Big huge (((HUGS))) and prayers coming your way.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:53 am
This is such great news. That feistiness is just going to help, not hinder. I’m so glad you’re focused on the possibilities. You’re doing an amazing job!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:54 am
Bless you, bless you, bless you Peter. Anissa is blessed to have you at her side. We are still praying every day for your beautiful family.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:55 am
Awesome news - thank you so much for the updates! I feel a Christmas miracle in the works!
Hugs!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:55 am
Thinking of all of you and hoping for Anissa.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:57 am
Still praying!!!! Such a hopeful post
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:59 am
WOW! All I can say is WOW! This is awesome.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:59 am
Really enjoy reading your blog, thanks for the info
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:00 am
Anissa and Pete, a lot of teamwork was required with Peyton’s care along with hope and believing and just living from day to day. A lot of bad days can be set aside by one great good moment because as we know life is so very precious. We can’t force improvement but we can hope and believe and work for it and yes, rest up for that work. Bodies need healing. We have been praying for you a lot. Katia says Peyton needs her Mommy back. I imagine all of you need eachother back so much and each day seems one day closer. Love, Tracy:)
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:01 am
I’m amazed by the strength and spirit you have! And so thrilled that there is progress! I love how you are showing Anissa how she has fought for others and now she has to fight for herself. I truly believe you will all get through this. God bless you all. I am quite sure she is never going to say FML ever ever again. Or she is and she’s going to LAUGH SO MUCH ABOUT IT! GOD BLESS!
You know what I really hope? That she soon begins to eat hospital food and her first words are: MAN THIS FOOD SUCKS! That seems like something Anissa would say!
Thoughts and prayers!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:01 am
If she weren’t feisty, it just wouldn’t be Anissa now, would it.
So glad for the fabulous progress report!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:05 am
Praise the Lord!!
Anissa has an amazing husband, that’s for sure. Thank you for this update.
Continued prayers, and blessings beyond measure to your family.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:05 am
Like VDog said, “VIVA ANISSA!”
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:08 am
I am awed and moved to tears by your whole family’s strength. It’s amazing to “see” Anissa start the road to recovery. I’ve been thinking hard about all of you, I’m so glad things are taking such a promising turn!
Goooo Anissa! We know you can beat this!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:08 am
love is a beautiful, beautiful thing.
blessings to you, anissa, your family and friends.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:10 am
Wonderful, wonderful news.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:14 am
I’m so glad Anissa is making progress! Your family has been in our prayers & we’ll keep you right there. Thank you for keeping us updated!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:15 am
And, a very very Happy Birthday to Peyton!! How could I have forgotton to leave a birthday wish? Happy Birthday:)
Tracy and Ladybug Katia:)
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:17 am
What an incredible update…..!!!! From all I have heard of Anissa and during my five minute meeting her last summer and all I have read about her and your family since, I have no doubt you will all go the distance together and arrive at the end triumphant.
And I cannot get the Mayhew mantra out of my head….and tonight I am rejoicing in hope with you.
Happy Birthday to that love of a daughter….
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:18 am
With every update I cry…in the beginning, tears of sadness, now tears of Joy!! I look forward to updates and check daily. Anissa will be so proud of you Peter when she realizes all you’ve done from love for her…May God Bless your family with more miracles! Hugs!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:18 am
She can do this. And we’re all waiting for you to give the go signal to rally the interwebby troops. You are an amazing husband. Stay strong.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:19 am
This post just made my whole weekend. It’s simply awe inspiring to watch the unfolding of a miracle.
Keeping your family close to our hearts.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:20 am
Such great, great, great progress and news. Love you and thinking about you every day, Anissa!!!
We miss you around here.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:22 am
i like your post, will bookmark this blog.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:22 am
I am glad Peyton had a good birthday. I am so happy that Anissa is responding too you so well. I’m still praying for you all.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:23 am
I just started reading your blog a few days ago. SO GLAD to hear that things are looking better!!! I think of you and Anissa often throughout the day and pray that she continues to make forward progress. Baby steps!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:26 am
Thinking of you and the family… Thank you for keeping us all updated…
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:27 am
Anissa is so amazing, and so are you. Another hopeful post!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:28 am
My shirt sleeves are soaked in tears that I kept having to wipe away, simply so I could read more of the wonderful news you have posted for us! I’m so happy for this communication that you’ve been having, and it was definitely the right thing for you to talk to her about what had happened, so that she could understand why she was where she was, and what was happening to her, why she couldn’t translate her thoughts into spoken words.
I know what it is to be silent on the outside, while inside, you are screaming, and wondering why nobody can hear you…getting that voice back is the most amazing feeling…my silence was short-lived, luckily, but Anissa’s may take longer, and YOU are her voice right now, Peter. She is lucky to have someone there by her side through all of this, helping her find her way back, and helping her translate her thoughts and answer her questions.
I will be thinking of you, still, as I have since I first heard of her stroke, and sending you all of my warmest, most loving thoughts.
Your strength and love for Anissa has been amazing…unwavering and nothing less than awesome.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:30 am
Peter:
Every time I read a post from you it is so magnificent, you tell us all the miracles and leave out the stuff that you face every minute.
I know how hard it must be for you to see her lay there, but I am so grateful that you do see the miracles!!!
This is a long hard battle, YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THINGS! More of the right things will come to you as you need them.
I know that you are scared and exhausted, just keep doing what your doing, it’s working!
You are so very right DO NOT LISTEN TO ANYONE TELL YOU IT CAN’T BE DONE! NAY SAYERS ARE NOT ALLOWED!
She, you and God have move mountains and you ARE MOVING THEM AGAIN!
SHE IS ALIVE and SHE IS FIGHTING! Keep telling her what happened, because she might not remember.
I can’t wait to read her first Tweet! Talk to her about that, tell her we are all behind her. I can’t beleive the love I am feeling from everybody!
Whenever you feel weak, read your post and our comments!
Sending much love to you, Anissa and your family! And Thanking God for all of the miracles, keep em coming!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:33 am
I think I just switched my bloggy crush from Anissa to you.
(The inappropriateness of that last remark is my personal homage to Anissa, who, if I may be so bold to say, would appreciate it.)
Blessings on your family– such hopeful news!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:33 am
Strong healing thoughts sent to Anissa and the Mayhews
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:37 am
good post thanks for the info
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:45 am
Tears are rolling down my face. Praying more progress is coming soon. Stay strong. I am thinking of you all every. single. day.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:49 am
We all hope the good news keeps on coming.
Believe in miracles.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:18 am
I’m absolutely no expert on any of this and I likely watch FAR too many medical dramas on television but have you thought of trying to see if she can type or if she can communicate with a letter board or something?
So proud of you and your amazing wife. Keeping the prayers pointed firmly in your direction.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:28 am
Yay, Anissa! This is fantastic news. She’s doin’ it!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:40 am
Oh man. This is the Anissa I know. The one who snorts when she’s pissed off and keeps on fighting.
I am filled with so much hope, and won’t stop praying.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:40 am
This is awesome news!! I’m so glad to hear that there’s sun shining down on you all and things are looking brighter.
Keep it up Anissa, we’re all pulling for you!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:41 am
GO ANISSA!!! I’m typing through the tears. Amazing.
We believe, we believe, we believe. And you’re amazing the way you’re keeping everyone up to date. I cannot even imagine how exhausted you are - so glad to hear about all the support from family and friends.
Just a blog reader who can’t help in person, but can send prayers and beams of strength your way!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:46 am
oh my God what an amazing post! Oh Anissa I’m praying every day for you and Peter and you are such a fighter!!!!!!
Sending more prayers for you all. Thank you for the update Peter. God bless.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:49 am
Peter - Thank you so much for continuing to keep everyone updated. I haven’t commented until now - holding my breath, really, and following along and sending lots of good juju silently - but I want to break my silence to say how happy I am to hear such hopeful news and to repeat the oft stated sentiment that you and your family are amazing and inspirational. The good juju will keep on flowing your way at least until I read Anissa’s next post telling us all to go bother someone else.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:07 am
AFter my oldest suffered a TBI, all the doctors said she would never get better. She is living proof that the doctors can be wrong. God has plans for your wife and He can help her heal. I am glad for the good news. I will keep praying. Take care of yourself. God bless.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:17 am
We’re all still here, praying and waiting for word. I’m glad that you got to talk to her some. It’s good for her.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:21 am
Don’t let the medical professionals tell you and Nissa what she can’t do. Listen to your heart.
I won’t stop praying and hoping and believing in her. I just won’t.
Stay strong. Both of you.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:27 am
Amazing progress! What a wonderful team the two of you are.
When my grandmother had a stroke she couldn’t find her words despite trying so hard. I jokingly suggested that she speak to me in french (a language she learned as a child). Immediately she said a few words in french and then some english words with a french accent. Baby steps but somehow it helped.
Take care of yourself in the midst of all of this chaos.
Lyndsey
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:36 am
Excellent news!
Praying for a facility that you feel comfortable with that she’ll get pushed in all of the right directions!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:41 am
There were times when I was worried. A lot. But in my heart I knew this day would come. Whatever you’re doing, keep doing it because it’s working and give Anissa our love.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:55 am
Peter you are an amazing spouse and parent. I’ve never met Anissa but I can see she is a very strong and very loved young woman. She, you and the rest of your family are in my thoughts daily. Praying for continued progress.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:04 am
Continuing lots of prayers and good vibes to you and yours…very happy to know there is progress!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:09 am
What a great birthday celebration and moving is huge. My continued prayers and daily thoughts for your family.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 5:47 am
Oh boy, do I remember being mad. Furious! I threw things, I scowled, I was so frustrated that my body couldn’t do what I wanted it to do, and more than anything, I wanted to talk. Yell. Scream. Simply out of frustration.
She’s on her way back. Patience and love. Patience and love.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:24 am
WOW! WOW! WOW!!!!!
Peter — you are incredible!
Don’t forget to tell Anissa about all the people who never knew of her before the stroke, but because of all of the friends who asked for #PrayersForAnissa, we have gotten to know her and follow her story.
Please tell her how we check daily for updates and how we hope for good news every day.
Please tell her that she has made us appreciate life like quite possibly nothing else ever has.
Please tell her that she inspires us to love more deeply, laugh more deeply and live more deeply.
Please tell her that we are so grateful that she has a husband like you who not only is there by her side, but also cares about others so much that he will take the time to blog about what is going on so we can be changed, on a very deep level.
Yes. #PrayersForAnissa and the whole Mayhew family.
May God continue to bless all of you — every single day.
Love, Jennifer
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:33 am
Peter, You are Anissa’s ally through all this . . .”In sickness and in health.” As strong as she is, I can understand that she must be so fiercely frustrated at not being able to be in charge of things the way she always is. Please be sure to tell her what an amazing thing she has done just to be alive and to have come as far as she has in such a short time. And also tell her how inspiring she is, not only to people she knows, but to complete strangers who’ve never met her, never spoken to her, but have her in their thoughts every day.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:25 am
They say that children can rebound from neurological issues with speed and force. Of course their brains are growing and can repair faster. But there’s another reason: they don’t know what they cannot do, so it never limits them. I think this can be true for adults too.
Doctors are good and important and absolutely crucial - but sometimes they know too much, about what “usually” happens, or what’s “likely” to happen. Time and time again you hear stories of people who overcome the odds and live longer, regain their capacity after an injury/stroke/whatever because they don’t buy into the limitations. They just don’t believe they can’t get better.
One day at a time is still the best horizon, I think. But I encourage you to set your eyes on the prize and don’t stop thinking about it. It may take a lot of therapy and rehabilitation, but it happens. I don’t know Annissa, but suspect she won’t settle for less.
If you haven’t seen this, I hope you’ll watch it: http://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html
I have been on a similar journey - not identical - and I’m cheering for you at all the milestones. Thanks for taking the time, with all you have to do, to keep us up to date.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:40 am
I need more kleenex now — thanks!
I am thrilled to hear about the progress she is making. You are a wonderful husband and father and the updates you provide are filled with the love you feel for Anissa.
Hugs to you all.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:14 am
Praise God!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:23 am
THANK YOU GOD!
Anissa, I will bring my loud voice to you. Peter, you just let me know!
XOXOXO
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:24 am
Thank GOD..and thanks to God..Anissa is coming back…Stay strong..we love your wife and your blogs…. This is going to be our Christmas miracle..I feel it.
love, Celeste
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:27 am
It’s still a little bit more, day by day. TERRIFIC! Consistent answers to questions…extubated…out of ICU! Awesomeness!
Keep going Anissa! Rest when you have to…your brain took a helluva hit and needs its time to rest and heal. But when you’re up and awake and aware, you keep showing them what you’ve got!
Thank-you for the update, Peter!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:28 am
You are amazing, Peter. Wonderful leaps- so happy to hear it!!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Peter, you are just amazing. Thanks again for continuing to update us, and continued strength to you and Anissa as you both fight for her continued progress forward. xoxo
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:42 am
My husband had 3 strokes in Sept.2008 and 3 more in December2008. He never had a sick day before. It was and is life changing. We have been coping the best we can.We have no health insurance. Its been very hard. The only advise I can give you is to never give up. Keep talking and try not to let her think it will never change. It does…slowly. Every day is hard and its even harder on him. My prayers are with you and your family. May GOD bless you……..
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:54 am
I’m glad to hear Anissa’s out of ICU and how communicative she is. Happy day! Listen, I wanted to say that I’m thinking of you too. You have a big load to bear and I imagine you’re not sleeping well. Even if you are resting, your mind is probably racing, and yet you come here and write updates on the blog and write them so well. Just wanted to say I ask God to give you both strength, and the kids too. The stronger you are, the better off Anissa will be.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 10:30 am
AWESOME update, Peter. Anissa is so lucky to have you who knows her so well, loves her so much and will fight for her to help her through. Sending much love your way! Happy Birthday to Peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 10:38 am
Happy Birthday Peyton!!!
So much good news in this post! I can’t wait to hear her progress. I know she is in there! I know she is trying! Go Team Anissa!
Peter, you are such a strong, wonderful husband! I am sure Anissa is proud of you for all you are doing!
We are still praying everyday and sending all our love! xoxox
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 10:41 am
i check every single day for the updates. sending so much love, strength & healing thoughts to you all right now. anissa is incredible.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:19 am
I anxiously await every update. This is big news.
I also love what Vdog said.
Viva Anissa!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:31 am
So happy for the communication you received. Push when it’s time, and then push for her to rest all of the other. Still praying for Anissa and all of you.
Long roads are travelled the same as short…one step at a time. I know Anissa will get there.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:32 am
She is so, so amazing! I’m so grateful for this update and for the loving arms that surround her!
Continuing to pray! GO ANISSA GO!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:34 am
This is incredible news. Given the location of the stroke, I didn’t think I’d ever read an update like this. Amazing!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
You are all such an inspiration. Sending you all our love and support….XOXO
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
Another complete stranger, this time in Maryland, writing to let you know that I am praying for your family. Your strength, your writing, your love - - awe inspiring. I don’t have the grace with words like you or many of your commenters do - - but I want you do know how many people are pulling for Annisa and your family. All the best for a hopeful and miraculous holiday season.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:43 pm
This is AMAZING! I am thrilled with this post! Happy Birthday Peyton ♥ GO ANISSA!!!!! You rock! Love the shirt idea, can’t wait to get one! Love you guys! Still praying with all my might!
Desera
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
My heart just leaps with every update I see from you! Letting her get some rest is a great idea, so that they can see what they need to see on Monday. I’ll be thinking of all of you!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:16 pm
I did not know Anissa before this all happened, but I can tell that she is one awesome, amazing person. The strength that both of you exhibit is beyond my comprehension. Even during this trial, you are both touching others out there.
What wonderful progress she has made already. My prayers are with you, Anissa and your entire family that your burden eases and she comes back to you as strong as ever.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:56 pm
I’m so glad she’s continuing to improve. It is a slow slow process and takes so much energy and work… for all parties involved. My little sister had a stroke a few years ago. It’s so heartbreaking to see an otherwise healthy young person trapped in their body, but the last thing you want to do is baby her. Be gentle and let her rest when she needs it, but make sure to challenge her too! I was very demanding of my sister when she was recovering and got a lot of sour looks from family and friends who just wanted to ‘take care of her’ but all the docs (and my sis too when she finally ‘came back’) agreed it’s the best thing you can do. I know you’ll do everything right. You’re such a great husband and father!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Go Team Anissa!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
What great news! I have such great hope for all of you. I love Anissa and can’t wait to hear more about her great progress, however slowly it may come! Hang in there!
Also, birthday wishes to Peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
I didn’t know Anissa before the stroke, I saw her photos from other bloggers. I have prayed for you all during this journey and periodically check in here to see her progress. I just wanted to tell you what an amazing, supportive, and wonderful man you are during all this. It takes strength to stay when it gets hard! You are a new hero in my book. Anissa is doing amazing from what I gather!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
wow. i just have to say what a wonderful strength she has in you, and how valuable it is that you can read her so well to determine how she is reading what’s going on (or not reading it). you are a blessing to her and you’re moving mountains for her by being this person! i am also so glad to hear you say that you’re looking to hear what’s possible for her, rather than the “experts” and their limitations. There is never any limit and these “limits” are only their opinions on a situation no one fully understands anyway! SKY is the limit! And don’t let anyone tell you differently. If I believed what the “experts” said, my mom would be gone already — but she is still very much alive and well and here with us. I am still praying every day for you all! God IS hearing all of these prayers!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:21 pm
I was sent your blog by a friend in order to add my prayers to those of others. Keep pushing and exercising Anissa’s brain. The brain is very plastic and can create new pathways to bypass the damaged ones. God is great!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
This is wonderful news! So much progress, and now she is out of the ICU!
Anissa is so strong. And so are you! Still thinking of you guys, and sending good vibes and love your way.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:12 pm
See, Peter, you CAN do it!!!!
Anissa - baby steps, girl! I know you want to take the hurdles at a flying leap but slow and steady can win this!!!!
WOOHOO!!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
peter, you are amazing and just who anissa needs to get her through this. what wonderful progress!
and happy birthday to peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
Such wonderful news. All these baby steps must do wonders for you and the kids as well. Getting to see that’s she’s in there trying, fighting, pushing herself must just push you even harder to help her fight.
I’m glad to hear that Peyton had a good birthday. Happy Birthday, Peyton.
Continuing to pray and send the strongest of healing, positive vibes to Anissa.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
I had an accident a week ago. Fell straight down on my face, bloody face. 6 firemen and a truck and ambulance came because I couldn’t get up. I was scared and stunned and having been through 3 surgeries in 5 years, not really anxious to go back to a hospital. Plus no health insurance.
When they finally got me up on my feet a fireman asked me if I was dizzy, could I see okay? I replied, “Well you girls look great.”
Silence. (they were all men) Then one said to me, “Oh, an attempt at humor, that’s a good sign.”
So watch for those moments. I think the sarcastic snort counts!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:40 pm
Plus I’m a standup comic. How INSULTING to hear…”an ATTEMPT at humor.”
But the moment I cracked that joke, I felt I was going to be ok. I am, only I look like Mike Tyson after a fight.
The ER bill came and I haven’t opened it yet. Gee, really?
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
I have been trying to figure out a way to tell you this without seeming like a psycho stranger telling you what to do. There is a documentary called Life. Support. Music. It is about a young man, Jason Crigler, who had a massive stroke and recovered. In my opinion, he recovered because of his inner strength and the awe-inspiring will of his family who fought for him. I don’t know how you will find the time to watch it, but it is amazing!!!
I am praying for you.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
Amazing, Anissa’s work and yours. I vote for showing her blog stats. Every blogger loves them deeply.
oxoxox
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
Great news! Stay strong and praying for a full recovery!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:55 pm
Have you told her that you have been running her blog for her and we’re all pulling for her?
This is something I’d want to know if I were in her ’shoes’. (er um I mean hospital robe)
Does she remember everything you tell her, from day to day?
You’re doing an excellent job blogging, by the way. ((praying for all of you))
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Glad to hear that you saw so much of Anissa. She is in there - keep fighting for her! Happy Birthday, Peyton. What an awesome example of determination and fighting that she is now for her mom. Praying for you all.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:10 pm
Awesome, awesome, awesome.
I just want to thank you from taking time out of your chaos to keep us all updated. We’re praying for her all day long and it’s so good to hear how she’s doing.
Stay strong, Peter. You’re doing an amazing job.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Praying for all of you. May God sustain you and give you hope and peace.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
Yay for Anissa! Glad to hear about the fire burning inside of her. May all these changes be positive ones for her and I hope to be here offering support for as long as it takes.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
What wonderful news that Anissa is responsive and has transferred out of ICU!! I pray for you all daily and wish nothing but the best for you! Thanks so much for the updates on Anissa! We sure appreciate it!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:46 pm
I find that, in very difficult times, it’s damn near imperative to ignore “experts” and go with your gut.
We’re all behind you. I’ll come kick her ass whenever you’re ready for me. Well, flash her my boobs, but still. It’s kind of our thing.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Go Anissa! Come on out. Your family is waiting for you with open arms.
Wonderful news. Thanks for sharing. I am keeping your family in my most sacred thoughts.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
That is great news! I pray for Anissa & your family everyday. God Bless you all.
P.S. Happy Birthday Peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 5:47 pm
This is such great news!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I’m glad to hear that Anissa is becoming so much more aware! Happy birthday to Peyton, too!
The world is truly an amazing place. I don’t have anything useful to add, but know that a complete stranger 3,000 miles away is praying for you, Anissa, and your family.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
Nothing more than beautiful, progress.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
This is awesome news! I’m so glad she’s comprehending more and is willing to fight! Praise the Lord! I am still praying for y’all. I’m glad Peyton was able to have a good birthday!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
Praise the Lord! The fact that she is that responsive is (in and of itself) a miracle! God is obviously working…stay strong. We are all her behind you and praying for Anissa!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Fantastic! So proud of both of you. <3
Happy birthday to Peyton, too!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 6:46 pm
Really amazing and beautiful new! Rock On Anissa!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Holy crap has the universe dumped on your family
I’m glad Anissa has decided to give her doctors a hard time by refusing to live up (down?) to their expectations that she wouldn’t make it! Doctors can be so afraid of letting families hope, when that is sometimes all we have.
1 year ago TODAY, I got a call that my 20yo son was in a car accident and in SICU and probably wouldn’t make it. I live in Australia, him in the US. I moved hell& earth to get there and waited with him for 5 weeks, until he finally started to wake up. His docs said it would take at least 6 months for him to recover as well as he was ever going to, but there would likely be brain damage and he might require care forever. Well, he just started back at the same job he had before the accident. He is a facebooking fool and aside from a few scars, you can barely tell it ever happened.
I hope for that for Anissa and your family as well.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
Complete stranger here too, praying for everyone. Happy Birthday to Peyton! I’m thankful Anissa has such an awesome support team of friends and family.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Hey Peter.
Transfer is a GREAT word at this point in her recovery. She is coming along so well. We are all really encouraged by her progress. Keep the Faith.
You all are in our thoughts and prayers. Happy Birthday to Peyton.
Brent
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Hello Mayhew family,
You don’t know me, I don’t know Anissa, we haven’t met, but as part of the Twitter family I can tell you we are all rooting for Anissa BIG TIME!
I cry every time I read this blog, not because I’m disheartened but rather because I’m always so believably inspired by your family, your courage, your heart. As a mother with small children, I can honestly say, we should all be so lucky as to have such loving and caring support after a medical emergency.
You are an awesome family, Anissa is an awesome woman, and I prayed harder than I’ve ever prayed before last night.
Happy birthday to Peyton! Lots of love, caffeine (for Dad), lollipops (for the kids) and family hugs to you and your family! You can all get through this together!
Keep the faith and know that so many of us, near and far, think of you all constantly and pray for the day when all of you with Anissa can return to Oprah triumphant!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
She’s in there.
I’ve just got to figure out how to get her out.
Amen…thinking of you…sending you lots of love and positive prayers from Nashville.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
I just started reading this blog when your wife had her stroke. I have to say that I am in awe of your stamina and her determination as well as your kids ability to “be ok” through it all.
There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about your wife and you. You are amazing and don’t you ever forget that!
Know that you all are in my prayers.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:30 pm
I teared up with happiness for you and your family while reading this post. Thank you for letting us in on Anissa’s progress, and for showing us that she’s working hard toward recovery.
I don’t know how to encourage you more than this story is encouraging me… but I pray for you all when your story comes to mind.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 8:38 pm
I’ve been at the ranch all day so I just now saw this update. Thnk you so much for keeping us posted. I’m so proud of how you are handling this - and I know Anissa is too.
We are here. Tell her that next time you get the chance. We are here. We are praying. We are amazed. We are looking forward to her rocking our world again at another conference soon.
She can do it! Of that I have no doubt!
Angela <
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:18 pm
That’s so wonderful!!!
I got chills reading your words, miracles can happen.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:19 pm
WOW -sounds encouraging - you are right, there will be good days and bad days, and getting her rest is about the most important thing she can do - but this all sounds like really good stuff. And happy birthday to Peyton!!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
I think of her (and your entire family) all the time. Happy Birthday Peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Such wonderful news!!!! I will continue to pray for her send her lots of strength. Sending some to you and your family, too!!! Happy Birthday Peyton!
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Happy Birthday Peyton. I know from experience of having a mom with a stroke that recovery can be slow, but there is no rush. Take as long as you like Anissa, we will be waiting.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
If anyone can pull through this, it’s Anissa. My prayers and thoughts continue to be with you and your family as I check for updates. You are a wonderful husband and she is as lucky to have you as you are to have her. Wishes and prayers to both you, Anissa and the kids.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Just wanted you to know that I am praying for your family. My adopted son had traumatic brain injury, 5 skull fractures, retinal bleeding and several hematomas. His prognosis was poor and the doctors gave us little hope that he would be normal. God healed my son and he is now a “normal” child who runs, talks and laughs like the rest. I attribute it to prayer warriors!!!! Time to rustle up some big time prayers for your wife’s full recovery. I will continue to pray for your family’s strength and your wife’s recovery.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:04 pm
oh thank goodness for this progress, i’m elated at reading this post! certainly the milestone you both needed. i feel it is proof that anissa can understand much more than she can show right now and you pushing while letting her gain strength is the perfect recipe for getting her to understand what’s going on. keep dreaming up new ways to get her to communicate w/you when you feel she’s up for it. maybe a way for her to spell out what she thinks/feels. i’m sure this is way harder than it sounds but i am always always wishing for peace, strength and abundance of support for you and your precious family. you all never leave my thoughts and prayers.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
This is wonderful news and I am so glad to hear it. I know you don’t have spare time, but my husband works in clinical research and there is SO much going on out there in the medical world regarding strokes. If you do an online search for stroke and clinical trials, you may find something or someone (doctor) of interest. I’ll keep you all in my prayers.
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on Dec 6th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Peter, Don’t listen to anyone but yourself. You know Anissa best. Keep talking to her. As I told you, the brain is plastic and can regenerate. She’s trying. She may be confused, but she is trying. You can bring her back by what you are intuitively doing. My neurologist friends say so, although they are as clueless as you are about how it all works, because all their previous training is being upended lately. Trust me, you are going to have success. Not sure how much or how quickly, but you will. Soon it is time to bring in the kids.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:06 am
Trust your instincts. You know your wife better than medical staff ever will. Keep hoping, keep praying & be there for her. Be patient. Waking up & becoming herself again is very hard work & exhausting for her. Keep on keeping on, God will guide you & help you along the way. Praying for strenth for all of you, but mostly for you. You are carrying the world on your shoulders at the moment.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:15 am
What wonderful news! I hold my breath as I read your updates…but snorted right along with Anissa when you asked her if she could sing. That reaction alone tells me she is right there with you.
Peter- you are doing something amazing - you are right there with her and you somehow manage to know EXACTLY what she needs and when she needs it. Clearly, you are her soul mate.
Continuing to send love and hugs. Happy Birthday to sweet Peyton!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 1:06 am
Crying. And sending Anissa and your whole family strength and love. -Christine
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 2:48 am
Beautiful song she is singing….Anissa is a true fighter! Praying and believing for you always. Happy Birthday Peyton….! God Bless everyone.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 4:14 am
Thank you so much for keeping us updated. We are all thinking and praying continually for Anissa and your family.
I just know God is going to use this whole journey of yours to bless you all and so many more. You are a powerful family who are teaching us all.
And I ask only one thing of you. Please do NOT write a single thank you card. Your time is to be spent with Anissa and your family and certainly NOT writing thank you notes. Trust me, nobody wants or expects you to thank them in any way, note or otherwise. We just want to help — With nothing at all in return. Please, please remember that.
Thank YOU again for taking the time to share the journey so that we may continue to pray for Anissa.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 10:20 am
Found you site through another one a few weeks ago and have been saying prayers for Anissa since. She sounds like a truly amazing, loving person and I pray God will continue to bring her healing and strength. Thoughts, love and many prayers from Illinois
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 10:57 am
I’m so sorry to only have heard of Anissa after this all happened. She sounds like such a strong, amazing, fighter of a woman. This is WONDERFUL news!!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 10:59 am
What an AMAZING update!
At church yesterday morning, I couldn’t help but think of you guys. The elder who gave the sermon yesterday was reminding us that we have a High Priest who is PERFECTLY empathetic to our temptation and our suffering. Our Savior has suffered in the flesh. He is empathetic to Anissa’s suffering. All of our prayers are falling on the ears of One who has suffered and grieved and rejoiced and hoped.
The amazing MAJESTY of God made flesh! Keep praying! I will!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 11:29 am
My heart swells every time I read an update on here. I know nothing about strokes, but I know she is going to get better. I know it, I know it, I know it. Everything I know about being a mom tells me that she is going to do things to surprise everyone every step of the way.
I just want to give you a big hug. {{{hug}}}
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 11:41 am
So glad to read this update. Hugs to you and your family.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 11:42 am
I had a brain stem stroke four and a half years ago. I was paralyzed from the neck down, including my vocal cords. I couldn’t speak and could only communicate by nodding/shaking my head, mouthing words and blinking my eyes. From what you wrote, I believe I have some idea of what Anissa is going through. I don’t mean to be presumptive, but it’s incredibly scary and lonely when you are “locked in” and if I can use my experience to help Anissa…. If you want to talk, email me at danine [dot] net [at] gmail.com
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 11:51 am
Anger is good. If she’s pissed off about being in that hospital then she has the passion to push forward and get the hell out of that bed. Fiesty. She’s still got it.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 11:56 am
Peter…
I checked in last night but didn’t really expect a new post so soon! What a wonderful surprise. I am so happy she is angry and so glad she is showing so much life. It was a great idea to think she is confused and looking for some answers. For all we know, she just realized where she is and doesn’t know why.
You are doing so wonderfully! Happy belated birthday to Peyton!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
The experts will always commit on the side of “don’t get your hopes up”. It’s standard CYA practice, I guess.
But hope is a strong and powerful force and what you’ve said sounds like wonderful progress. So forget the experts and go back to think on the possibilities. What you’ve done already is far more than other people might even think of (great job, BTW!). Prayers will be continuing for Anissa and your whole family!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
This is FANTASTIC news!!! Continuing to pray for all of you!!!!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
glad to hear about this progress!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
I’m no expert, but it really sounds to me like you are doing everything right. Possibly because of your experience with Peyton, you have great instincts to deal with this. Your strength is inspiring. Keep up the good work and the great updates. Love to Anissa, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY PEYTON!
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
God bless you all.
Still praying…..
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
I’ll be hoping good things for you guys today. YAY for getting out of the ICU. That is a huge step.
Happy belated birthday to Peyton too.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
my best friend’s mother suffered a massive stroke roughly 4 years ago and she is a mother of six. it was very serious, but she pulled through, and now she’s driving, taking care of her kids, doing new things, etc., mentally, aside from some forgetfulness, she’s all there.
i’m sure it’ll be the same for Anissa
hang in there!! you’ll make it through!! xxxx
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
Thrilled with the progress. Still praying and pulling for you guys.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Happy Birthday Peyton! Next year your mom will be there to remind you to make a wish before you blow your candles out.
Very encouraging news with Anissa - that awareness and emotion and comprehension is SO IMPORTANT. That is the key to her recovery. She will eventually speak if she has something to say and obviously she has something to say. Because she is mad!
My Stroke of Insight will help you a lot. And Jill never says there are limits. In fact, she says the opposite. She learned to drive again before she learned to read again. I think that says a lot.
What you are doing is some of the hardest stuff you will ever go through. Make sure you go for a walk with someone who knows you really really well and talk. Talk about anything. Talk about what is happening in your heart. Talk about what scares you and what gives you joy. Because you will not be the focus of anyone’s care for a long time and the work you are doing is exhausting.
I pray the intention that Anissa will start speaking words to you, with the love that she has in her heart for you and her children. And she will speak until the sentences form and she will walk to you and put her arms around you and laugh. And write. And read and make breakfast in the mornings when she comes home.
Amen.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Such a strong woman, Anissa. And you and your children.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 5:49 pm
Been silently waiting from the Uk for news. everyone else has said anything I could have said and more but better. I echo all of the above.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
Once upon a time I hit a tractor with my car. While my injuries were fairly localized, they were extensive and severe. The best ortho group in this part of our state told my husband that I’d not walk properly again.
When my husband relayed this information to me, I said, “BullSHIT.” And now (unless I’m wearing heels, they stutter my walk a little) nobody would ever know that I had this debilitating accident/injury.
I’m glad you’re not yet willing to acquiesce to the ‘experts’. They answer to someone else entirely, too. God has plenty of good in reserve for you guys, I just know it.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 8:28 pm
Hi –
You don’t know me but I’m joining the others in praying for you and your family. I think the one thing doctors and experts know about the brain is that they don’t know why it recovers or exactly how it does so don’t listen to anyone who limits you. It’s great that Anissa is responsive and angry — she is a fighter and it sounds like she will fight like mad to get back toyou and the kids.
God bless you all.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
I am overwhelmed by Anissa, you and how incredible everyone around you has been. I haven’t met Anissa yet, but I’ve been thinking about all of you non-stop.
I haven’t wanted to seem like an interloper, but I really had to tell you that I am inspired beyond words and whatever my version of praying is, I am totally doing that for Anissa. I can’t wait to meet her.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 10:13 pm
Happy Birthday to Peyton and thanks to you for providing constant inspiration to everyone near and far.
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on Dec 7th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
AWESOME!!!! Tears of joy! Still prayin’ and believing!
~Jana
Germantown, OH
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on Dec 8th, 2009 at 12:38 am
I just subscribed so I could follow you and Anissa win this battle. I learned about you from Francesca at Mayhem and Moxie when they asked if I’d be willing to donate to an auction to help you (I have an online boy store and said yes).
I loved the progress you noted in this blog and wanted to give big kudos to you for 1. maintaining the blog and 2. keeping your children’s lives as “normal” as they can be under the circumstances and 3. being there so thoroughly for your wonderful wife.
You said that she is stronger than you. You’re battling valiently as is she. Keep up the good work. Your love for your family is very heartwarming. I need to know that you guys come through this ok.
A big Happy Birthday to Peyton.
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on Dec 8th, 2009 at 2:48 am
I have been following this now since The Bloggess posted about it.
I have been thinking about you all and have hope that all will be grand.
my heart goes out to you.
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on Dec 8th, 2009 at 3:18 am
My husband had a brainstem stroke 8 1/2 years ago at the age of 44. He was in the hospital for 3 months and 3 days. In a coma for 2 weeks, had 2 surgeries to release the pressure that kept building in his brain and was in 2 rehab hospitals. He is now doing great. In a wheelchair with no balance but doing great. Great attitude (most of the time). Never gives up the hope that he will some day walk.
I understand what you are going through. Been there. You are a great inspiration to a lot of people. Please don’t believe what the “experts” are telling you. It is a bunch of junk. I was told my husband would never talk again. He made a sound once, so I figured that if he made a sound, I could pester him enough to yell at me. I kept calling his name just be obnoxious long enough that he yelled, “get away from me”. That was one of the happiest days of my life.
He has had many struggles but what gets us through the hard times, and there are many, is humor. Lots and lots of humor. We make fun of each other all the time. He is my memory because mine is bad and I am his legs. It takes lots of team work to make our life the way it is but just do what you have to do. It is well worth the effort.
I was told he would never eat, sit up, talk, see, or do anything else. Wrong. His motto is “attitude plus persistence equals success.” Success is whatever you want think success is. Not what anyone else thinks success is. He is successful to be alive, can feed himself, get on ebay and craigslist all the time. He had to relearn many, many things but we did together. I hope all goes wall for you. What ever you do, don’t listen to what doctors think you should settle for and don’t ever, ever give up.
Good luck and my prayers are with you more than you will ever know and I don’t even know you.
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on Dec 8th, 2009 at 6:33 am
This really made me cry… happily.
I am with you and your whole family and will pray for you.
Everything will be fine!
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on Dec 8th, 2009 at 5:17 pm
Out of ICU, yay!
Getting mad is a good sign.
Blessings to you and the kids.
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on Dec 9th, 2009 at 12:12 am
I have been so touched by your story. My degree is in psychology and I worked in a long term brain injury rehab hospital in both the adult population and child population, and I have to tell you, the patients that had supportive family always did best. It was amazing to see the families that stood by their wives, fathers, and children, to see them get better and go home. Your marriage has been so strong, Anissa is so lucky to have you, and you are so lucky to have her and the kids. Good luck in your fight, I’m saying a prayer and following along. There are many people fighting for you, and angels being sent your way!
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on Dec 9th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
you’re in my thoughts.
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