The past few days are an absolute blur because the playing field has completely changed.
I took Peyton up to see Anissa Sunday.
I had prepped Peyton the night before, just like with the other two. I showed her one of the videos and explained to her that mommy was still pretty sick and needed sleep. I also told her that if mommy was asleep, that was ok because she could still hear her.
Sunday morning, Peyton and I watched the video that all the bloggers put together. About half way through that, Peyton teared up and decided that she wanted to go before church.
She just couldn’t wait to see mommy.
So, we hopped in the car and headed on down the road.
That drive took forever.
We stopped at Walmart to grab a few necessities (mini tree, large numbered digital clock, lotions). Peyton was pretty nervous about things. She was pretty excited, but wanted to stay within 2 feet of me at all times.
Believe it or not folks, she’s the shy one of the family.
We finally got to the rehab center, signed in, and strolled down to Anissa’s room.
Anissa’s sister, Angela, was in the room when we got there. Peyton slowly walked up to the bed, and gave her a hug. Thirty some odd days worth of tears poured out of Peyton. It was a silent cry. We sat her up on the bed and Anissa ran her hand over Peyton’s hair and told her she loved her.
Anissa made a comment about Peyton missing teeth. She’s lost 2 since this all began.
She also made a big todo about Peyton’s cast. She wanted to sign it. We put a pen in her left hand and she scribbled some lines on it.
Basically she put on her “mommy game face” for Peyton.
We talked about the birthday and Thanksgiving activities.
I wasn’t thinking. I was trying to show Anissa that I had things under control and we just needed her to get better. Yup. Dumb me. It wound up making her sad because she missed those things.
The impressive thing is that she waited until Angela took Peyton out of the room to break down.
We had our cry. She apologized for what’s happened. I reminded her it wasn’t her fault and this was just one more thing to deal with.
Peyton came back in the room and we talked a little more. Good-byes were said and Peyton and I went to the car. She got in the back, I got in the driver’s seat and looked back to check on her and saw the biggest crocodile tears ever. We sat in there and talked things out for about 20 minutes. The tears kept coming. I let her pick a spot for lunch and we headed there. The tears were gone for a little bit.
At bed time, we said our prayers and thanked God for everything good in the day. Peyton was thankful she got to see mommy, and then, even bigger crocodile tears came out. We talked it over for a little bit, and I assured her she’d get to see mommy again very soon. She fell asleep that night looking at and rubbing the scribbles mom had done on her cast.
That absolutely broke my heart.
It will get easier with time, as they see mom improve. This was the reaction I was expecting with Peyton. It still didn’t make it any easier this first time.
Monday morning, I got out of the house early so I could meet with the therapist team. The meeting was rescheduled to later in the day, but as I passed the administrator in the hall, she grabbed me and gave me some pretty impressive information. She had popped in on Anissa earlier to introduce herself. The administrator was apparently talking to Anissa in simple terms, to which Anissa responded, “What do you think my cognition level is?”
So, the intelligence is there.
The memories aren’t fully. She knows I’m her husband, but couldn’t recall my name until today. She thought it was Daniel. Probably Larusso.
She was able to recall different things from the day before, but there are definite holes in there. Holes you could drive a 1973 Oldsmobile through. That too was expected.
Monday, she was sat up in a chair and started dedicated therapies.
I popped in late Monday evening and she was too exhausted to communicate. I figured that would be the case, but I just had to go. I know in some way, she knew I was there, she just didn’t verbalize it, or acknowledge me with much more than a slight squeeze. I’m praying it was exhaustion, but it felt like last week.
I woke up at 4:45 this morning. Simply couldn’t sleep. I’m anxious. Today, I’m going to do a dry run for Christmas. I’m taking all three kids up there at the same time for a short visit. It will probably be overwhelming to her at this point in the recovery, but, I want to push her a bit and get an idea of how Christmas Eve and Day will go.
We have one fairly simple tradition at our house: It’s called the “Mayhew Family Hug”. It’s pretty much the equivalent of a scrum in rugby, and generally happens when I get home from work. It’s only official if all 5 of us are together, otherwise we call it a mini-Mayhew Family Hug.
I was asked a while back what I wanted for Christmas. I didn’t give an answer and avoided the question because it wasn’t something that could be bought.
In a few hours, after 5 weeks of waiting, I’ll get to open my Christmas present a little early.
I’m going to get my Mayhew Family Hug.
on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:18 am
Continuing to hold you all in my thoughts and prayers . . .
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:18 am
That will be the best Hug ever!!! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. Prayers for Anissa continue…and miracles are happening.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:19 am
I’m crying big crocodile tears too. Go Anissa!!!! -Christine
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:23 am
Peter, we’re all in surrounding you in that family hug…believe me!
Love and prayers to the Mayhew family!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:23 am
Hoping for magic this Christmas. And sending big, virtual hugs…
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:31 am
Continuing to pray for you, Anissa, and the kids. You’re doing a wonderful job Peter. Hugs!!!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:33 am
I hope you have the best christmas, and she gets better soon.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:34 am
Have you thought about possibly doing a photo book with family photos or maybe some 12×18 collage prints for her room?
I have a site that I use for these things all of the time. Takes a couple of weeks to get them in, but the prices can’t be beat.
I would be willing to put some things together for you and have them sent directly to the facility she is at if you could send me some photos.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:37 am
It’s too early in the morning for me to be sobbing! Enjoy every second of your hug like I know you will. Prayers continue!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:42 am
Sweet Peyton - she and Anissa must have an incredibly special bond. Enjoy the hug - and I hope you all have a good Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:52 am
Anissa continues to amaze me. Holding your family in my heart. Big fat hugs from my family to yours!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:04 am
Thank you for keeping us posted on how Anissa is doing. You don’t have to do this, so I truly appreciate that you do. I’ve been praying for Anissa, and will keep at it. Her strength inspires me.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:04 am
There may be more than 5 of you in that hug …
Thanks for keeping all of us (even those you don’t know) updated. Continuing to keep all of you in our thoughts.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:17 am
God is working a miracle ~ in baby steps. I pray you, Anissa and your precious children are overtaken with the peace and love of God. Stay strong. We are praying hard.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:19 am
Great progress! I hope it keeps moving forward and I hope that your Family Hug is the best EVER!!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:21 am
Aw Peter. Now that’s all I want for you all too. Love you all.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:27 am
Oh. I’m overwhelmed by this post. Its so beautiful. Go and get that hug!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:29 am
That is the best Christmas present ever
and I’m sure it will be the best hug ever. Sending you all my prayers and love.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:32 am
The tears are coming down over here. Praying for all of you. And completely inspired by you all.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:34 am
Amazing. Amazing progress and amazing love. The strength of your entire family is Anissa, you Peter and each child is inspiring. May the encouraging signs continue and the baby steps get just a bit bigger ever day. Continued prayers. Enjoy that hug and the healing it will bring. I know this isn’t the Christmas any of you would pick but know that you are bringing faith and optimism and inspiration to others through the miracle you are sharing with us. Even in this tragedy you are making a difference for others.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:46 am
I am so excited for you!
I feel so much hope for you all, and I hope you get EXACTLY what you want for Christmas. ALL OF YOU!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:03 am
Such encouraging news and after crying crocodile tears myself, that one line made me bust out laughing, Larusso.
Hugs to you guys!! Love you all!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:04 am
And what a hug it will be. =)
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:05 am
Huge crocodile tears here too. I’m so glad that Peyton had a good visit with her mom. And I’m so relieved to hear the good news about progress.
Keep it up Anissa!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:10 am
I am sending up prayers and I am thanking God that ya’ll get to be together for Christmas. God is wrapping His arms around you all in the Mayhew Family Hug! God bless and Merry Christmas!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:11 am
Keep Fighting Anissa! You are armed with the best family!!
Still praying and sending goodness and strength….
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:14 am
I’ve got some pretty big crocodile tears coming down right now too. I’ve been reading for a while but haven’t commented before today, but I just have to say Peter - you are the BEST dad ever. You are doing such a great job. I’m excited for the 5 of you to have your family hug, I’m sure it’s going to be the best one yet.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:19 am
You’re pretty amazing, Mr. Mayhew! You’re such a good Dad. And you are just what Anissa needs. I may cry when I read your updates but they are good tears. I see hope in every step you take. May heart hurts for Peyton. All three children have a different way of helping Anissa and I’m excited to see what Anissa will do next! It seems mundane to say my thoughts and prayers are with you but it’s true. Remember to take care of yourself as you nurture and care for your precious family. God bless you all.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:20 am
You all continue to be in my prayers and thoughts. Thank you for sharing Anissa’s progress with us. I too am crying crocodile tears. Happy tears for Anissa’s success and strength and that of each and everyone of you.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:28 am
Continuing to keep you, Anissa and the entire Mayhew family in my thoughts. The news continues to get better. Thanks again for keeping us in the know. Merry Christmas! XOXO
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:29 am
I am so happy to read of Anissa’s progress! Such wonderful news! The prayers continue!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:32 am
OMG… Daniel Larusso.. BWAHAHAHA.. ok.. done.. I’m crying again.. I’m just amazed… absolutely amazed with all the progress! Remember the neurologist said that she was going to surprise people in the hospital?? Well, I can’t wait for the day she is well enough to walk in to that hospital and show off how well she’s done!
That Mayhew Family Hug is going to be one of the best ones evah! I’m so excited for you all… Still praying! I can’t wait to see what’s next!!! What an amazing Christmas Miracle this is turning out to be!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:35 am
I think we’re all going to have to call you Larusso from now on.
Oh, sweet Peyton. She has lived through so much in her 6 short years, hasn’t she? It is heartbreaking, but I’m sure she’ll be much stronger for it. You all will. Anissa is the definition of strength and perseverance…such an important model and lesson for all of your kids.
Enjoy that hug!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:37 am
I can’t imagine the hurt for a child to see the core of what used to be their comfort and coddling is now in such pain. Defnately praying for you.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:37 am
So glad you’re getting your present early. You sure do deserve it, and a million more.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:40 am
Here’s to the Mayhew Christmas scrum….praying for more blessings!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:43 am
Big crocodile tears here too. I hope you feel all of us on the outside of your big family hug, squeezing away with you.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:47 am
I am crying with Peyton. We have all been hugging your entire family for the last month. I don’t think there are words for how strong you all are. Merry Christmas and I can’t wait to hear about the hug!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:54 am
Crying. Love to you all.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:01 am
What Maggie said.
May God bless all of you this Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:07 am
Daniel Larusso. hahah. kills me. Knowing Anissa…she’s probably doing that just to mess with you. heh.
she’s awesome. I can’t say that enough. AWESOME. AWESOME!!!
I am so excited for your Mayhew Family Hug. I cannot think of a better early Christmas present for your entire family. LOVE.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:14 am
The best gifts are the simplest ones aren’t they? Thanks for allowing us to be a part of this journey. All of you are in my prayers!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:17 am
So amazing!!! Glad to hear all the kids have had a chance to see their momma. I can’t wait to hear about the family visit & hug!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:18 am
That is a lot. Most of it is good news, I know, but still overwhelming in the amount of things you and your family are going through and having to process. I will keep praying for your family. My heart goes out to the little one. I will pray that Christmas goes well.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:22 am
Merry Christmas. I hope it’s the best Mayhew Family hug EVER!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:23 am
Effing incredible.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:24 am
Can’t wait to hear more. We’re all pulling for you, Anissa! Keep at it, lady!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:24 am
here’s to as few more mini-mayhew hugs as possible. I have to say that in my experiences with stroke patients the ability to hold in one’s emotions is HUGE. It’s really really impressive she waited until Peyton left the room to break down. Really impressive.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:36 am
I don’t know how many of these comments you get to read Peter. I know it can be emotional and overwhelming. Just know that we are ALL praying for a Christmas miracle this year. Nothing else matters except for the health of our families and yours touches my heart every day, so since my family is mostly healthy, I’m putting all my “health prayer energy” into yours!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:39 am
Sounds like she is making great progress, seriously. I am continuing to pray every day.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Checking in on you every day. I’m so glad that Anissa is making strides in her recovery. And she is. You may be too close to see it, but to us, she looks like a freakin’ superhero. Your family is in my thoughts.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:02 pm
Daniel-san, this is the BEST news ever. Thanks for keeping us updated!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:06 pm
I imagine that will be the best Mayhew Family Hug ever. The best… and the first of many more to come.
Prayers are still coming… and wishes for a very Merry Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Miracles happen every day. Continuing to pray for all you, ever day. ENJOY that hug!!!!
Merry Christmas!!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:13 pm
Great news!! Prayers to your family from mine!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:19 pm
Prayers, hugs, and anything else your family needs!! Merry Christmas and hope all your Christmas wishes come true because your family deserves it!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:24 pm
Crocodile tears here also! Hugs to Peyton and big hopes and prayers that your Christmas gift is awesome. Go Mayhew Family Hug!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:25 pm
The Rosenbergs are group hugging your Mayhew hug.
Prayers and love to you.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:32 pm
God, you Mayhews are amazing. Thinking of the 5 of you every day.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:05 pm
I hope you can feel all the virtual hugs from the internet in that Mayhew Family Hug. Still praying daily. <3
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:06 pm
You are the bravest family I’ve ever heard of. You WILL conquer this. Thanks for sharing your story with us. I look forward to every post or update as if she were my own family. What a tight knit network of friends and supporters you have. I wish your family peace and strength this holiday and always.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:18 pm
We pray for all of you everyday! I anxiously look for a new post everyday, you all have become a part of my family and we have never even met. My mom asks about you all the time (she would check here but she has a hard time figuring out how to email so I figured it would probably take here 3 hours just to find this blog). I wish more than anything that we could be closer, do more for you. But right now, know that we pray for you everyday. I hope your hug is one for the record books!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Oh Anissa so makes me smile “just what do you think my cognition level is”. I love it!
We’re sending you all a virtual hug from our family to yours!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:23 pm
You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Anissa is an inspiration to us all and I’m grateful for having had the chance to correspond with her before. Her strengths have helped me to be a stronger woman. Bless you all!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:24 pm
We are all crying alligator tears right along with all of you. Reading about Anissa’s fabulous and incredible progress AND the equally incredible balance and grace you are managing to create for your kids and Anissa is too amazing for words. I did have to giggle a bit about the ‘73 Oldsmobile comment. That was my 1st car - HUGE light yellow one with green top and interior. So an image of my “blond bomber” came immediately to mind!
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mayhewp Reply:
December 22nd, 2009 at 4:13 pm
mine was blue…4 door…hard top…seated 23.
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Heidi Reply:
December 22nd, 2009 at 11:40 pm
Mine was a 2 door - which meant it could easily dislocate your shoulder if you opened one while on a hill or a windy day!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:26 pm
She is a beautiful strong woman and I KNOW she’s not going to let this keep her down for long! What an inspiration she is! I’m so glad that the kids have all gotten to see her and she’s had a positive response to them. I’m praying you get your family hug and it’s all that you’ve hoped and dreamed about! Love you guys! ♥
Desera
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Keeping Anissa & the entire Mayhew family in my thoughts and prayers everyday. Wishing you love & strength. <>
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:34 pm
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:42 pm
That will be the best Xmas present for all of you! I’m so glad that the reaction of seeing the kids were so positive. Stay strong Anissa and keep fighting. Beautiful post! XXX
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:42 pm
How can I ever read these post without crying, I don’t know. So happy to read the improvements each day
Merry Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:47 pm
I’m a sobbing mess, but I can’t wait for you to get that hug.
Your family never ceases to completely amaze me. Each and every one of them.
Merry Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 2:36 pm
Tears are flowing but the Daniel Larusso comment brought a chuckle. All my thoughts and prayers with you and the Anissa and the whole Mayhew family. You Got This!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:02 pm
I had no idea she got into a rehab. That’s fantastic. Anissa, you r a freaking Christmas miracle.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:10 pm
God will wrap arms around the five of you as well.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:20 pm
Peter, as hard as it is, please remember to take care of yourself too. You don’t need to end up in the hospital from exhaustion! There’s so much love being sent your way, I really hope you’re soaking it in. Hope today’s hug was amazing!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:30 pm
I continue to pray for Anissa and for all of you. May God continue to hold all of you in His loving, healing arms.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:35 pm
God/ess loves you all.
Thank you for sharing.
Sending many prayers to all of you.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 3:44 pm
Emotional control and the use of the word “cognition”? That’s priceless.
That family hug - better than any medicine.
Nothing wrong with reminding Anissa that she’s missed some stuff - it will motivate her to not miss another holiday. Determination is most important element to rehab.
Peter - stay healthy - you’re burning the candle at both ends.
I am praying a prayer of intention - the Mayhew family in a hug scrum on every Christmas for many many years.
Amen
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:07 pm
Sending prayers and love to you all. Thank you so much for keeping us updated.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:10 pm
Remember Bob? From Sesame Street? He has a album out there. There’s a song on it called Family Hug. Mt family sings it as the four of us hug. My six-year-old changes the lyrics depending on who is home (in case someone is napping, at the gym, at work) to a threedelee or a twodelee hug. Maybe the kids would appreciate hearing that song (although maybe they are too old), and remembering Mommy is always there in hug spirit?
Your spirit, bravery and outlook are amazing. Wishing everyone there a happy and miraculous Christmas.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:15 pm
So wonderful!
Maybe instead of a book a movie “Mayhew Family Hug”!
Thank you God for another miracle. Keep em coming!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Aww, sweet Peyton. Sending up extra prayers for her. So happy you all get the Mayhew Family Hug for Christmas. Truly a miracle.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:32 pm
Only surprise is that Anissa didn’t ask “what do think my FREAKIN cognition level is???”
Yep, she’s there. Thanks, God! Enjoy your hug, you all deserve and need it — and we’ll be hugging you virtually and praying, too!
Ann @ All Children’s
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:34 pm
Every time I read these, I always tear up!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Here’s to hoping she continues to improve like she has.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:43 pm
Tears, lots of tears. This was a tough one to read.
I’m sure that will be the most amazing family hug ever, and the best Christmas present for all of you.
You all remain firmly in my prayers.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:44 pm
i want to do something, but i’m not sure what!!! i’d love to do another healing, or positive thought for her… but does she need that? do you? do you think it would help??
always in my thoughts.. xoxo
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 5:39 pm
OH this was a hard one to read. I am so choked up. I don’t know how you do it, Peter, but I know you don’t have any other choice. Your whole family is amazing.
Steph
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 5:55 pm
Such wonderful words of encouragement. So great to hear! I hope you guys get your HUG.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 6:35 pm
This made me cry happy, happy tears. You all are amazing, and you’ve got a true fighter. I hope that hug lasts a long time!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 6:40 pm
You guys floor me…I want to be your neighbor and friend and bring your family home cooked dinners while she’s healing.
I want the very best for your family this Christmas!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 7:33 pm
Peter, your concern, love of and dedication to your family is amazing. What an impressive group of people you are! Have a fabulous family hug. And thanks, as always for your updates.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 7:55 pm
“What do you think my cognition level is?”
Good grief.
Anissa, you go, girl!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:01 pm
Sweet Peyton,
We’re praying for your Mommy. She’s a superhero. (But you know that already, right?)
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:11 pm
We are praying for Anissa.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Anissa is amazing. But, duh, you already knew that. I want to be a stronger person, a more resilient person, a more loving person when I read about what she’s doing. Praying your Christmas will be peaceful and filled with God’s holy presence as you 5 celebrate His birth together.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:44 pm
I am really, really, REALLY glad you are getting your Christmas present.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 8:51 pm
Thinking of you all tonight.
Enjoy your hug
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:11 pm
memories are an odd thing. when my mom had a bleed she would tell people that it was 1985 and she was in the hospital because she had her gallbladder removed. it was 2009 and she’s still got the gall bladder. she also got so used to having to say the presidents name that whenever anyone asked “what’s my name”, she’d call them ‘the president’.
anissa sounds like she’s making really good progress. i hope that this rehab center is providing her with the help, care and strength that she needs. it must be so wonderful for the kids to be around her, and so great for her as well. you’re so amazing peter, they’re all so lucky.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:30 pm
thinking and praying xoxoxo
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 9:59 pm
i’m so glad you’re getting your hug!!!
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Anissa,
I am a girl with a dream. To walk across the stage when I graduate from college in May.
Pretty simple right?
Well, ya, it is for most of the world. My upper body is most closely compared to the leaning tower of Pisa, it takes me three minutes to write a moderately legible word, and somedays I drool enough to supply a resevoir.
I have Cerebral Palsy. I use a power wheechair. Walking any distance is like asking me to single handedly put a man on the moon.
But a man has been to the moon, and you are sitting up asking about your cognition.
If you can do it, so can I! Because of you, my dream inches a few steps closer to reality. THANK YOU ANISSA!
Continued prayer from Ohio,
Emily
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:22 pm
After my fathers stroke he was often confused, got angry easily, had memory lapses, and lashed out at those around him. I knew it was his frustration with the whole situation and all his medication, and not him talking. But whenever I entered the room his mood would change - I was his baby, a 40 year old baby, but his baby nonetheless. He remembered the little girl and the bond we had together. Just the way Anissa holds on to those memories of her babies - that’s a bond that never goes away. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this now - my heart breaks for all of you. Treasure those family moments together, it’s an up and down roller coaster ride and hopefully yours will have more ups then downs. Wishing you the BEST family hug ever and sending an extra one from New Jersey.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:36 pm
I’m glad to hear the improvements keep coming! I’m fairly new to this blog, so maybe I am missing an inside joke, but aren’t crocodile tears fake/insincere tears?
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:56 pm
I liked the Daniel Larusso comment. :o) Also, I am so glad she is improving. Wonderful news.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 10:58 pm
I cried and shook reading your last entry. I am so happy that things are improving. I know it’s probably not as fast as you want, but it seems like HUGE progress. Keeping you in my prayers and thoughts daily.
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on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Thank you for reminding us what Christmas is all about… in this case a family hug… a wife who is healing… a family who cherishes each moment as a gift.
God continue to guard and guide this family… I know they are close to
You and that it is by your grace they are living each day to the fullest…
Anissa… you are one strong beatiful wife and mother. You are doing amazing things… what may seemlike baby steps truly are leaps and bounds and know that God will continue to make a way.
Wishing your family good tidings of great joy!!! and prayers continue for the journey ahead…
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 12:50 am
I’m praying you get the most wonderful, tightest family hug you’ve ever had!!! Thinking of you every day!
Heather in MN
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:22 am
And you all deserve that Christmas present SO MUCH!!! ENJOY!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 3:18 am
I’m so excited to hear about all of the progress Anissa is making, and of course, I cried as I read about the crocodile tears from Peyton, but more from the joy of knowing many good things are yet to come. I hope someone took a photo of your early gift for you! Family really is the best gift of all. HUGS to you all!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 11:17 am
This update really made me smile. We have a family hug too and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Keep it up Anissa, you’re doing great!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Way to go Mayhew family! This is all really great. Exhausting, I know, but really really great.
In response to your question in the last post… someone probably already suggested it, but have you thought of reading to her from her Twitter stream, so she can hear what’s up with her ‘tweeps? It sounds silly, but who knows. I was trying to think of what would help keep me feeling connected to the world if I were in her situation. (It will either be a good diversion for her or annoy her completely that she can’t be typing replies herself.)
I’ll be thinking of you guys in the next few days and wishing you a very Merry Christmas (albeit an odd one!).
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 1:49 pm
I’ve been following everything for the last month & I haven’t left a comment yet- just wanted you to know that we appreciate you keeping us all filled in as you, Anissa and your family, are in our thoughts and prayers on a daily basis. This blog is a constant reminder of the preciousness of health, the power of love and the strength of family. You all deserve to get that Christmas present. Wishing you the most Hopeful of Holidays Peter!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:17 pm
You are an amazing father and husband. Anissa is very blessed to have such a wonderful family! Enjoy the Mayhew hug!!! Merry Christmas to you and yours. God bless!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Today: Santa hat on, Team Anissa T on. Even in the midst of this pre-Christmas prep chaos, she and all of you are never far from my mind. Praying, hoping and willing Anissa on from Tampa today and always.
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Merry Christmas, Mayhew family. You are always in my prayers and on my mind.
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Praying and sending all our love to you guys! Hoping you will see a Christmas Miracle! Anissa is making wonderful progress! xoxox
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 2:41 pm
That was so touching and so difficult to read at work without the tears spilling over!
I hope you got that hug.
Thinking of you all and hoping things continue to improve and that those family hugs get more and more frequent.
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 6:39 pm
You guys are an amazing family. I’m so happy she’s coming back.
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 6:59 pm
You get that hug!!
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 7:14 pm
God Bless you guys. She IS coming back and I hope you have a joyful Christmas.
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 9:14 pm
Your family is so remarkable.
Wishing you & the family an amazing Mayhew Family Hug for the holidays.
~Megan
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on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 9:41 pm
Cripes, I can’t read this damn blog when I have to be around other people. My damn eyes burst into spontaneous watering the last few posts.
Love you, Anissa. And Peter. And the kids. Merry Christmas. Now go get that damn hug.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 1:10 am
Merry Christmas to you and your family. Anissa continues to be in my thoughts and bestest hopes and prayers. Your family is awesome and WILL make it.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 3:53 am
Your posts are so touching. I’ve thought about your family a lot over the last few weeks and especially at Christmas. I’m so pleased that she has been able to have her moments with her children and with you. I’m sure that means the world to her. I know it would to me in that situation. It has to be frustrating to her to know that her family needs her and she can’t be there, but it sounds like she is the kind of person who will work very hard to make it back to you. Big hugs to all of you and I hope you enjoy your family hug tomorrow.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 5:26 am
From down here in NZ where in a couple of hours it will be Christmas day, I just wanted to say that I check your blog almost every night and pray with my children for all your family as well. I do hope you got your early Christmas present and that Christmas Day is the best yet. Many hugs and much love to you and yours from me and mine.
Happy Christmas.
K
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 10:51 am
Hang in there, dude. We’re all with you. Praying as always.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 11:52 am
What a post that was Peter! I’m so glad that Peyton got to finally see her mom. I’m sure you and the kids are her best medicine.
Since Annisa had her stroke life has been crazy for me. On December 7th was the one year anniversary of my mom’s death. On December 8th my uncle died, in the same house as my mom. Then a couple weeks ago my great aunt had a stroke, she is home now and doing well. Then this past Monday my mother-in-law / BFF had a stroke.
I’m telling you this because when I think I can’t handle anymore I think about Annisa, she gets me through the tough times. I can’t tell you how much love I have for your family. I have no doubt that Annisa will overcome this just like she does everything.
I can’t wait to hear about the hug! Much love from St.Pete!
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
My heart is so full right now, reading this. You are incredible, Peter, but I knew you had to be since you’re the light of Anissa’s life, and people don’t get more incredible than Anissa.
My Christmas is complete, knowing that you get your gift of a family hug. Merry Christmas to you, Anissa, the kids and all the family that have had such a difficult number of weeks.
Hugs from the Internet.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
What an incredible Christmas present! I’m continuing to keep Anissa and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 4:18 pm
Merry Christmas Anissa and family, I hope your Christmas hug is everything you hope it will be.
Sending love and positive vibes your way for the holiday.
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
It’s just gone midnight over here, Santa’s already delivered some stockings upstairs, but I really couldn’t go to bed without wishing you Mayhews a very Merry Christmas from England.
I know this Christmas is going to be a strange one for you but I’m praying your ‘dry run’ went just fine and that you get many of your group hugs and there’s lots of laughter in Anissa’s room tomorrow morning. Please tell her I send my love!
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
I am hoping and praying for a Christmas miracle for you and your family. I think about you all often and know Anissa has it deep down inside to come back. You are right- depression is going to be a hard monster to fight off. And the guilt- which seems irrational, but is a whole ‘nother demon as I’m sure you know. You’re doing a great job of keeping it together!! Don’t let those worries ever get you down. We love you all!!!
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on Dec 24th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
I’m reading this on Christmas Eve. Tons of love and prayers for you guys.
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on Dec 25th, 2009 at 12:50 am
I want a Mayhew Family Hug too. But darn, I’m not Mayhew. Blessings and prayers going out for you….
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on Dec 25th, 2009 at 1:44 am
I have been following your story since day one and check back here daily. Your strength and your love for your wife are such an inspiration. You are doing an amazing job at balancing your children’s needs with your wife’s needs.
Oh, and the Daniel thing? Isn’t that Ralph Macchio’s character’s name in the Karate Kid series?
I think your wife is going to be just fine.
Best to you as you continue this journey you are so bravely traveling.
Continued prayers to you and your family. Merry Christmas,
Kris
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on Dec 25th, 2009 at 4:15 am
Promise you will keep bringing the children to see her as often as you can. She obviously loves them dearly and it is good for her to remember, see, converse with them. As a mother I think the strongest motivator would be my children. No offense to my dear husband but a mothers love is fierce!
Hoping you all survive Christmas and it is a magical day for your children amidst it all.
Peace and my thoughts to you all,
Amy
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on Dec 25th, 2009 at 10:40 am
I hope you have a good Christmas! I am praying for your family.
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