If I had ANY marketing sense whatsoever, I’d quit blogging and turn this into a book. I’ve got the perfect cliffhanger every stinking week it seems.
I really don’t want to, but that’s life with us Mayhew’s these days.
If you saw my bank balance, you’d know I don’t do it for the money, or web hits, or anything like that. I’m writing about this because it’s my form of therapy. I learned that benefit from a very special teacher I had in high school. Thanks Glenda!
Some people scream. Some yell. Some hit things.
I write.
When I don’t, I get emotional. When I dump everything out on the keyboard, it helps me.
Saturday was Rachael’s big day.
I asked a local friend, Ali, to pop in on Anissa in the morning and find out how she was acting after the move Friday. Ali didn’t get the message until late, so I didn’t get word on how she was until after Rachael and I were in the car headed up there.
I thought about it this morning and prayed on it last night. Truth be told, it didn’t really matter to me how Ali said she was doing, I had an overwhelming desire to take Rachael up regardless.
As I was driving up, we stopped at a couple of stores to grab things to make the room more “Christmasy”. We got an LED candle and some simple lights. When we’d stop, there were emails from Ali. One said that she was very aware. A few minutes later, one said she’s making sounds! SOUNDS!
Understand folks, other than a big “Lion King yawn” and several “ahems” I haven’t heard much come from my wife.
I was extremely nervous for Rachael. She hasn’t seen her mom since day 2 or 3 and then mom had tubes in her mouth and nose. Pretty terrifying stuff for an 8 year old. But on this drive up there, where I’m sweating bullets, Rachael was laughing and joking and goofing off. I kept trying to re-focus her and would say things like, “if mommy doesn’t respond, it’s ok. She can hear everything that’s said in the room” and “The important thing is that you make sure she hears you and gets a kiss”.
Rachael would look seriously at me for half a second and then say, “how much longer…are we there yet?”
We pulled in to the parking lot almost exactly 31 days since this all began.
Rachael and I signed in and walked down to her room.
Ali was in there and said she’s very aware today.
Rachael walked around the bed and said, “hi mommy”.
Anissa grabbed her and hugged her and kissed her and kept rubbing her back.
There were tears from both of us.
Ali hugged us and left the room.
Then Anissa made some sounds.
Rachael looked at me, a little confused, and I asked Anissa to say that again.
“I love you”.
More hugs.
“I’m getting better”.
More tears.
“We’ve got this”.
Yeah I lost it.
She doesn’t have full control of her tongue just yet, so conversation is garbled at times. She does appear to fully be in there though. Up until she spoke, I didn’t have any confirmation other than squeezes and blinks and facial expressions.
About that time, the nurse came in. Since we’d gotten in so late, they didn’t know what Anissa could and couldn’t do. I haven’t had THAT meeting with the staff yet. I told the nurse to pass the word. Don’t put a single limitation on her. Don’t ask if she can do something, expect her to be able to do it. This woman can and will move mountains. She asked about the kids. I told her about each one of them, Peyton last. I told her about Peyton’s fight. She said she was going to cry. I told her not to. Sad as it is to say, we’re built for this. We can do this.
The nurse told me that Anissa kept putting her right leg off the bed throughout the night.
I asked if she was sure it was the right one.
That would be the one that she hasn’t been able to move in 31 days. We’ve felt “twinges” only until today.
When I went back in to the room, Anissa shoo’d Rachael away and told me not to bring the kids up. “It’s too hard on them”. I looked her square in the eye and told her that I understood exactly what she was saying and that Peyton would be the next to come up.
We wound up “discussing it” for about 30 minutes.
That’s putting it nicely.
We were arguing.
I did finally get a chance to tell her about how many people are pulling for her so I was certain she understood it. I told her about the friends, new and old, near and far that are lifting her up in prayer. I told her about Ralph Macchio. She chuckled and said, “welcome to my world”.
A little after I left, another friend from Tampa, Whitney, came through to drop off some Christmas gifts for the kids. I had warned her that Anissa wasn’t in the best of moods and relayed the conversation we had. Whitney went in there, wearing her “Team Anissa” t-shirt. Anissa wanted to know what that was about. Whitney also reminded her that Peyton was going to be coming up and that she had better be ready for that.
I’m still amazed that I’m talking in actual verbal “conversations”.
So, this is where you guys come in. My goal now is to provide her with constant, overwhelming, motivation and reminders of love. She’s been staring at mine and the kids pictures for a while now. I plan on taking in this video as well. What we’re fighting against now folks is depression. If anyone has any bright ideas, I’m all ears. I’ll be taking up dvd’s of some of her favorite feel good shows.
Encouragement is the word of the month.
Understand, she’s still incredibly weak. She hasn’t stood up in a month. Hasn’t taken anything orally in a month. Can’t fully hold her head up yet. We’re not sure about her short term memory. This will take gobs of time.
Consider this Day 0.
But, like my wife said, “We’ve got this.”
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:48 pm
Amazing, just amazing. Keep fighting!
Stephanie Reply:
December 20th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
I am replying up here because I want to make sure it is seen… sorry if i am breaking some kind of blog etiquette… I’m “cutting” as my four year old would say. But I just wanted to say that I Tweeted Ralph Macchio the following,
”
” @ralphmacchio Did you read the latest about @AnissaMayhew?? Her husband is looking for ways to keep her from getting depressed during her recovery,someone mentioned mayB since she is such a BIG fan of yours, maybe you’d help in some way. Just putting it out there.”
And he actually responded!! His response was, “@StephanieNH Many requests on this – Get someone to tweet fwd a legit address to send to – will c what I can do 2 inspire
So let’s do it!! Ralph is on board!! Let’s get him an address and let’s get Anissa some inspiration from The Karate Kid himself!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
you do! You have so got this
continuing to pray
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
I’m humbled and proud to be alive at the same time in the history of the universe that your wonderful posse is.
You’ve got this.
And we’ve got you.
rachel Reply:
December 19th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
Thank you…that is an INCREDIBLE comment for a woman that is…well…I can’t think of a single word. She is beyond.
Praying and sending so much love!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
This is just amazing news! Wishing you all the best.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
Oh wow. I’m amazed at her, and my heart is so full, and yet wants to break at the same time for all of you.
I don’t have an brilliant ideas (yet), but I will do whatever I can to help out. Consider me part of Team Anissa. Whatever you decide to do-I’m in.
Sending lots of love to you all.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
Oh my gosh.
What amazing news!! There are tears of joy, I’m so happy for your family!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
This is absolutely the best news I’ve heard all year! Way to go Anissa!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
Wow. That’s all I can say, really. Wow.
That her ability to communicate is coming back is so freaking wonderful.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
I got chills reading this! I have been praying for Rachel and her visit with Anissa. I am so happy for everyone! We all love you Anissa and if anyone’s “got this” its you girl
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
WOW. Just…wow. GO ANISSA GO!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:52 pm
I have tears in my eyes, because of how amazed I am at you both.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:52 pm
Yes! She speaks! It’s an early Christmas present.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Wow. I am thinking of you all. I am keeping everything crossed that things keep moving forward! GO Anissa! Go!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Such wonderful, wonderful news! I knew she could do it. Love you, Anissa!!!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
I’ve never met Anissa, but my heart is so full of love for you guys. I’m crying right along with you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
wow. I don’t know you guys but frrom this blog and I’m just freaking out. What amazing news! You totally got this!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
This is AMAZING. Reading about her progress always makes my day.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
How AMAZING!! Just the kind of good news I was hoping/needing to hear today.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
So many are pulling for you.
You have totally GOT this!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Absolute joy tonight – how exciting and wonderful and humbling, all at the same time! Yes, she has mountains to move, but there is no doubt – she will move them!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Go Anissa! So fantastic. I have no words. Your family’s strength is amazing and inspiring.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Good Lord I’m a mess reading this. What an amazing woman. We’ll be here cheering you guys on all the way.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
I am reading and re-reading this.
Breathing deeply and sending all of my very cautiously excited vibes your way. Long haul or no long haul, I’m really liking Day 0. Even if tomorrow is day -1, this is good news.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Oh my. Crying happy tears of joy.
We totally got this.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
She’s got it!
I can’t wait to meet her. Peter, we are praying and cheering for ALL of you. I feel like dancing.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Woo hoo! Tell Anissa I fully expect her to keep our appointment to meet in person at BlogHer next summer!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
You have done it, Peter. You have made me a fucking believer.
Your wife is inspiring. You are amazing. I am chocking back tears for your family. You’ve got this.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Awesome! I’ve been praying and spreading the word to friends and family. We’ve all been sending you our feel-goods. Glad to see that she’s pulling through so well!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
OMG. I’m so excited here!!! This is AWESOME. I know that word gets so overused to where it sounds stupid in this context. But I do mean awesome in every way. I’m most especially happy to hear you are having arguments. THAT is a tremendously good sign. We are here for all of you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
*fist pump in the air*
Yeah! Go Anissa!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Wow, this is awesome news! I haven’t commented yet, because I just haven’t known what to say. I usually hide in the background in situations like this. But I HAVE been prating my heart out, and God is so faithful! I was sad when I thought I didn’t have any pics of me and Anissa together, but today, I found one! I just know that she will be fully recovered soon!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Amazing – I’m crying tears of joy. God Bless!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
I have tears in my eyes reading this. I knew this day would come. I never doubted it. Of course, it came a lot sooner than I expected but given that we’re talking about the strongest, bravest woman I know, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised at all. As soon as you’re ready for friends to start visiting, say the word. I’m eight short hours away…seven if I speed a lot
mayhewp Reply:
December 27th, 2009 at 11:24 pm
I’ve made the trip in as quick as 6
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
Crying. Happy tears.
YOU CAN DO THIS ANISSA!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
First you are a wonderful writer. We are all so grateful you share with us. That said, HOLY CRAP! Anissa is a warrior. I am in awe of her fight. Sobbing tears of joy for you today.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
You’ve totally got this.
And you have an army of people standing right behind you.
Thank you so much for the updates.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
I must say as well, amazing. So glad to hear this. Continuing to pray and keep you all in my thoughts. Bests to you! And she’s right, You’ve got this!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
You asked for ideas. One thing that helped pull me out of the abyss (during a long hospital stay) was music. The Beatles’ song “Blackbird” to this say is a kind of rallying cry, as is Sheryl Crow’s “Every day is a winding road.” But there are so many and surely some that are near and dear to your hearts. Also, ask if the facility has any kind of music therapy.
My prayers continue to be with you all.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
When the rain is pouring down on you, know that Jesus is doing one of two things! Standing right beside you getting soaked too or holding the umbrella to help keep you dry! I think the umbrella was just opened!
Praying for my new online friends!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:07 pm
YES. You’ve GOT THIS. Peter, when the docs were still saying I’d never be back, they got me up and out of the bed and I started walking like it was my JOB. It wasn’t divine intervention, it was stone cold stubbornness. And we know Anissa has that in spades. If I was, according to the PT, “strong as a little horse” than our girl is TEN times what my sorry ass was. YES. WE HAVE THIS. And we will move mountains.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:09 pm
This made me gasp out loud and then melt into tears. Thank you for sharing.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Tears of joy reading this. You are an amazing family. Anissa, kick butt girl and stay strong! I am praying every day.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Woo Hoo!! What an encouraging update! I will be continuing my prayers – God is listening to the masses.
I’m pretty sure there is a “Team Anissa” shirt on an angel in Heaven. Or, they’re probably tweeting from their mansions or something. No matter what, we know the Big Man is part of this amazing posse!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:13 pm
It’s been almost a year since I met Anissa in real life at the Blissdom conference. Every time I plan for or read about the conference I think of her and say a prayer.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:15 pm
YES!!!
Praying, praying, praying!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
Fantastic!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
crying, laughing, smiling, pumping my fist in the air, shaking my booty
HELL YEAH!
Wonderful, inspiring, amazing… Anissa!
You guys are just incredible.
<3
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
I keep saying it. What an amazing family you all are. GO TEAM ANISSA!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
I can’t say I’m surprised, but I sure am happy!! Go Anissa! <3
As for ideas, maybe you could print, in a large font, the posts/comments/tweets/etc. I think those’d be encouraging.
mayhewp Reply:
December 19th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
That’s a great idea. We’re not sure how much she can read, but if the test tomorrow works, i’m SO doing that.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
This is incredible news. Your story could be a book for sure.
Peter you are an amazing husband … And your wife is an amazing woman.
I hope I will be ableto meet her one day!
I will continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
WOW. I feel like I start every comment out like that on this blog! God is so good, and I am amazed at her progress! As I battle some of my own physical things and hospitalizations in the coming weeks, I am learning from her how to fight. Thank you for sharing!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
God is so good! He’s definitely “got this”…awesome news!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
Oh the tears of relief in my eyes right now!
But honestly…I always knew if anyone was going to do it it was going to be Anissa.
I think of Nie Nie at this time. Maybe she has some words of wisdom? Maybe she can talk to Anissa?
This article will explain why I think so.
http://www.azcentral.com/news/articles/stephanie-nielson-intro-120609.html
Thank you for sharing this news.
Go Girl!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Yes! I do believe that she’s “got this”!! Go girl! We’re still with you!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Tears streaming down my face. Thanks again for updating us. Go Anissa! In no time you’d be standing up, or sitting down and blogging
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I’ve been following this story as much as I can, while never having read Anissa’s blog before this tragedy. I can’t wait until she’s back blogging again…or you for her. We are all praying and know that she can do this. I’ve heard the stories, I’ve seen the photos. I have no doubts and I the inspiration you all provide is amazing. Thank you.
Go, Anissa. You can get through this and you will.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
Kicking ass and making history. That’s our Anissa
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
For Anissa….
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back from captivity
Jeremiah 19:11-14
God Bless
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
This is amazing!
You are so strong and Anissa is amazing!
The prayers will keep coming!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:26 pm
Yeah!!!! We’ve got this! That’s Anissa I know and love. Stay strong!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
This is wonderful! I’m crying, I’m so happy!
Tell Anissa this news is better than cheddar cheese and bacon covered french fries. WAY better.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
That is such wonderful news. I love the video.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I told you, she’s MAGIC. MAGIC!!!!! (as is the entire Mayhew family)
And she totally just wanted out of that hospital room
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
WAHOOOOOOO!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
Whatever you want us to do, just SAY THE WORD!
This is INCREDIBLE!
I’m so happy for her, for you, for your kids!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
I was so thrilled when I read this update! I was so worried when I hadn’t seen anything posted for a few days. Keep doing what you are doing. I think Peyton will be the key. If she made it through all that she did then Anissa can, too. So happy for your family!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
That is the best news I’ve heard in a long time. We’re all praying so hard for that woman. Make sure you tell her how much we love her.
And, to you Peter, I have so much admiration and respect for you. I went through my own little tragedy last year that had a happy ending so I hope that for you too. Thanks for being there for Anissa and your beautiful children. You’re a great Dad and Husband.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
Tell her she has a TON of boobie smooshes coming her way as soon as she can take it.
All my love to Anissa, you Peter, and all the kids.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
Amazing! Just amazing! Sending prayers and love to you and family!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
I’m so, so, so happy to hear this! Prayers, well wishes and all the love in the world to all of you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
I’m bawling. This is amazing. I am so thrilled to hear this. So glad that she responded to Rachel.
Depression? Sigh. I think just keep doing what you’re doing. Keep reminding her everyone is here for her, waiting for her. Play Glee and her favorite movies. Take Peyton. And then? Start over. Keep taking them in there, for them and for her.
YAY ANISSA!!!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
You’ve got this. Brilliant!!
Praying!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
That’s great news. Happy for you and happy to hear it.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Oh.My.God. I am crying right now.. crying… This is just nothing short of miraculous!
Do you know that I’ve been digging in my garage for a tape recorder for you… not sure if you still want one, but dang it… I found that darn thing! I totally agree with Kat about printing things off large font… Even if she can’t read them, someone will be able to read them for her until she can… and she will….
This is the season of miracles, so I expect to read so many more… Like you’ve said… this is Anissa Freakin’ Mayhew… and she’s got this… A-Freakin’- Mazing…
You are awesome, and your kids are too… They are so strong… I can’t wait for another update!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
If ever there was a testament to the power of faith and positivity this is it.
What a miracle.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Your message made me laugh and cry at the same time, and now I am finding myself walking around my house smiling with tears in my eyes. None of us will ever fully understand what your family has been through, but it is so obvious how much you are all loved by so many. Thank you for continuing to write. There are so many of us who are hanging on your every word, and Anissa’s every new move.
My only thought is, can you get Ralph Macchio to send you a video of some sort? I’ll be Anissa would love to watch that over and over again!!! I bet he’d do it if you asked him!
Stephanie Reply:
December 19th, 2009 at 10:43 pm
I think the Ralph Machio thing is a GREAT idea!! And that is why I sent him a message on twitter!!! He has said that he checks in from time to time to see his progress… why would he not want to help if there was a way he could???
GO ANISSA!!!!
rachel Reply:
December 20th, 2009 at 12:02 am
Honestly, I am SO impressed with him…only Anissa could get a celeb following based on HER stalking HIM!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Oh, I’m just so happy to read this before the holidays! Fight, Anissa, fight!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:40 pm
Congrats on the move and the progress.
You mentioned writing a book. Why don’t you? Or, why don’t both of you? A project like a book could help ward off depression and there are lots of ways to tell it and people certainly want to know about her and you. Just a thought.
Take care and Merry Christmas.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:44 pm
Amazing! Your family is an amazing obe that’s for sure! Good luck and I am praying for more amazing updates!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
GO ANISSA GO!!!!!!
Oh my word, Peter! This is so freaking awesome! I laughed, I cried and I am just so very happy for you and Anissa and your family. I know it’s long road ahead but OH MY WORD! SHE SPOKE!! This is so huge!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:46 pm
Incredible! Just incredible! Yay!
He hears, and she talks, and we all listen
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
WOO HOO!!!!!
Praying harder than before. Oh, and she loves Modern Family. If you have wifi in the room you can watch it on hulu or abc.com. That’s feel good.
Thank you so much for this post and being so awesome!!!
Steph
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Wow! So happy to know that fighting spirit is coming through! Even happier to know that Rachael’s visit went well…even if it sparked an argument (better that than no response at all, right?).
Just a suggestion, how about a digital photo frame, to keep a constant slideshow going…showing her all of her loved ones and those that are pulling for her…?
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Amazing – crying tears of joy for you all.
OK, I think maybe we need to start lobbying for a visit from Ralph Macchio.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
This is such amazing, awesome news Peter! Thank you for sharing it. I can’t imagine the scope of emotions you must be feeling. Bless you.
Regarding the depression, here’s my crazy thought – can you take one of the light spectrum lamps into her room? You know, the type that replicate the sun’s rays? I just know that letting sunlight shine on me is a lifeline when I’m depressed, and it might be great for her to have the sun brought to her.
Will continue to send tons of good juju!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
Hooray! This is amazing – Anissa is clearly amazing.
More prayers coming!!! My plan is to give her a big hug and a kiss on the mouth at Blissdom!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Go Anissa!!! I will try my best to think of some things to do to try and keep the depression at bay. Knowing how much everyone loves her will hopefully help.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
This is such such such wonderful news. I know that fighting the depression will be tough, but if anyone can, it’s her.
We all believe. We’re all praying. It will happen.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Just an idea – a larger version of something we did for a family member – set up an email account and have everyone send both messages and pictures of themselves wearing their Team Anissa t-shirts. The word will spread like wildfire through the blog world and twitter. You’ll have hundreds and hundreds to take to her. She’ll see just how many people are pulling for her instead of just hearing about it. (she doesn’t have to be able to read them yet – just see them)
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
This is the power of love….the most powerful force in the universe. Continued blessings on you and your family. Thank you for sharing.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Wow! Thank you for writing this post. You must be over the moon with what happened today- I know your readers are!
I agree with Kat’s suggestion- if you could (somehow) show Anissa the thousands of tweets that have been written for her, it would be incredibly uplifting.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:01 pm
For her depression…maybe read her a few of the comments…some from the beginning and some from now too?
Let her know that she has touched people who don’t really “know” her and inspired us to overcome many things we’re struggling with. Let her know that some people prayed even when they weren’t prayerful people. She has a lot of influence, a lot of love and a lot of friends…
She made us all hug our children a lot tighter and appreciate our spouses…
That is what I thought of when reading your post…
It is incredible that she is talking and keep asking on the intrawebs…someone will have a better idea than me.
My prayer was for her to talk to you by Christmas…that prayer was answered.
Thank you, Lord. Amen.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:02 pm
Hell yeah, Anissa!!! I believe in you lady.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
This is beautiful, crazy-perfect news. I’m not surprised in the slightest. Crying and so, so thankful, but not surprised.
Way to go Anissa!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
What great words: “We’ve got this.” You all are an amazing family.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
Hell yeah! Rock on Anissa. You are truly an inspiration and my new hero.
Your husband is pretty amazing too.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:11 pm
That is the best news ever. “We’ve got this.” CLASSIC Anissa. So happy to hear the good news and will keep rooting for more!
Hugs and continued prayers to you and Anissa and your wonderful children!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
print this in big font and show her!! We are pulling for her!!!! GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:16 pm
Wow, What an amazing day and more to come. Anissa you are awesome, Keep it up. Julie
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
am beaming. she’s talking. is good.
the rest will come.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
SO.AMAZING.
Anissa is one kick-ass woman.
And you are a wonderful man!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:22 pm
Yes! Such encouraging news!! You guys amaze me!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
You dont know me… I discovered you guys when Twitter went crazy with the news about Anissa last month. I’ve been following you guys since and I just want to say that this is wonderful news! I feel like I’ve been missing something because I just discovered you all, so I’m sending all kinds of positive energy for Anissa to get well so I can get to know her better!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
This is such amazingly good news. I just recently met Anissa when she was in NYC for the Aiming Low party, I haven’t commented here at all, but I’ve been following along with all of your posts. Thankyou so much for doing these. While they are your therapy, they are so important to all of us who care so much about Anissa and your family – to be able to share in her amazing accomplishments. So thankyou. I hope your family has a great holiday season with many more strides to speak of.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Anissa: you can do this. I can’t imagine how hard this is on you but I promise every day is not going to feel this way. when you get sad, I want you to smile. Just smile. I know, wtf am I saying? There is a story in the bible I was told about Joseph. What? Have I gone all big Jew on you? No, but I was invited to a shabbat dinner and told this story. that night, I was driving home. I was sad, lonely, very lonely and I thought, okay, I’m going to try this. I smiled. I was in no mood but I did it anyway and I swear to you by the time I got home I felt better. Smile Anissa. Just smile.
much love and many hugs
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:31 pm
PHENOMENAL NEWS!!!! Anissa, we all love you and we know you’ve got this! Sending up a big ol’ Hallelujah for getting this far and more prayers for continued progress. WOO HOO!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:31 pm
Amazing – I am so amazed at how God is working in your wife’s life – I don’t know your family, but I’ve been praying, and I’m so glad to hear this positive update!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
THAT’S AWESOME. So so so awesome. Way to go Anissa. Always in my prayers. XO
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:33 pm
Tears of joy here. Annisa, you kick ASS! Keep it coming!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
Miracles still happen! How awesome to be able to be a prayer warrior with and for you in this one. Wish I had some ideas to share with you to help stave off the depression but I don’t. Praying for you all!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:37 pm
This is SO AWESOME!!
I am so sorry I didn’t get my photo in-we all got sick-but know I am rooting for you Anissa!!!
Peter you are such an awesome supporter of your wife-thank you for taking care of our girl.
((hugs))
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
i’ve been quietly watching your family’s story … but even i couldn’t stay quiet any longer …
yippee!!! this is such amazingly wonderful news.
happy tears.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
I am so glad to hear about Anissa’s progress. I miss talking with her online and her good humor. Prayers for you and your family!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
I am so heartened by this! I am so happy for you, your family, and Anissa herself. May each day continue to be a blessing for you all.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
Anissa doesn’t know me. I didn’t know her until all this happened. But can I just tell you? I am pulling for her. You guys are AMAZING and this gal from Atlanta is praying for you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:50 pm
Saying prayers for your amazing wife and family!!! If anyone has got this it is definitely you guys!!!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
I’ve been reading… and praying… what a wonderful post to read tonight. Wonderful news
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:52 pm
Peter-
I have been providing peer support to new moms for nearly three years now. I am also a two time survivor of PPD. The following are things I often suggest to moms who contact me about postpartum depression.
Make a list. Five favorite things for each of the five senses – smell, touch, sight, taste, sound. Keep one from each sense in her room at all times. (i realize taste may be difficult at this time but the others apply)
Also challenge yourself and Anissa as she’s able to list three things you are grateful for each morning and three things which made you laugh at night. This provides a refocusing of energies towards the positive as well as provides something tangible for you to look at on the really hard days.
Never thought I’d say an argument is good news but that’s awesome! I am continuing to pray for you all!!
Warmest,
Lauren Hale
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:52 pm
I’ve followed your story since I first heard from common friends of Anissa’s and mine…thank you for the tears of joy and the laughter! I’m so happy she’s arguing with you! Having suffered from depression in the past, if she’s anything like me, she needs projects to work on and people she loves in her face pushing her. All the time. Best wishes! I look forward to reading about her (and your) progress!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:52 pm
I am stunned! This is such incredible news. You BOTH are amazing. She’s such a fighter, and you’re like the world’s best patient advocate. You’ve TOTALLY got this.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
I’ve never met Anissa but I have been following this story since Day one. praying and hoping that she gets better. I am going to share this part of the story with my husband..Wow–i am so grateful for warriors like Annissa…I hope one day i will be able to “meet” this lady. She seems like quite the gal. Keep fighting….God Bless you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
Oh yes you do. You have this. Congratulations on such great steps.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
Totally got this. AWESOME news. Continuing with the #prayersForAnissa!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
I’m glued to your every word, so thank you for writing. Sorry you’re all in this situation, to say the least.
I’m a nurse, and used to work oncology. I had a patient who had a beeper. Yeah, before cells and iphones and all that jazz… a beeper.
The family gave that number out to everyone, and whenever you thought of Mary, you were supposed to call that beeper.
Mary had to shut that bugger off many times, for it would beep morning, noon, and night. Each time reminding her that someone loved her, and was thinking of her. Love it.
I’m so glad she’s in there. Rock on Ani! (and yea you… you are an amazing dad and husband!)
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
I think perhaps she should see the Karate Kid. Go Anissa, go! I hope you get this message b/c my tears keep dripping on my laptop mouse pad and screwing things up, but I’m so exicted to hear she is fighting, still fighting. I’d expect nothing less.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:56 pm
Amazing, such an uplifting story. I discovered the blog through Heather Spohr’s and couldn’t stop reading. Your wife is an incredible person. I will keep praying for you, and I’m so glad to hear about the progress Anissa has made. God bless!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:56 pm
AMAZING!!! ‘Tis the season for miracles. Go Anissa!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:56 pm
Depression sucks. I know.
Don’t give her big goals. Make them small. Make them few. Make them attainable. Keep a record of what and when to show the progress. Too man or too big will overwhelm and make depression worse. Praise progress. Encourge when there is none. Never criticize or put down.
Baby steps. Keep her focussed on small tasks and goals and give her lists and expect her to achieve but do not pressure. Do always be there to help. Don’t be a crutch. Stay positive but not overly cheerful. If possible, get her to focus both on self and helping others so that she does not point inward too much. Surprsingly, helping others could be most important, evwn when it is just emotional support. That can give her a positive when there seems to be little positive to see.
Hope it helps.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 10:59 pm
Fabulous, fabulous news!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:02 pm
I, too, found you through Heather. And yes you have this. Please tell us if there is anything we can do to “have you”.
Positive vibes your way.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
WOW!!! Just WOW!!
You’ve got a long road a head of you, but somebody seems to have forgotten to tell Anissa. Freakin’ amazing.
Depression, couple thoughts. She’s entitled to grieve this event some, but the trick is not dwelling on it. I suspect it will come and go. I’m sure PT and OT will work expressions of frustration and anger into their therapies. You may want to specifically ask them.
It is possible medication can stave off the really dark depression, but again this is a decision for you and the medical team.
It will be a very delicate balance for you between pushing her and pissing her off. You will misjudge and make mistakes, don’t beat yourself up about it. You are dancing as fast as you can. Give yourself a lot of credit for that.
To some extent, she’ll need to be reminded that while she’s entitled to her feelings, it isn’t all about her. She’s part of a family and you and the kids need her too. Sometimes that means you and the kids not seeing her as she would like to be seen. Tough. The need their mom to love them and smile at them and fight for them, not to be perfect.
Lastly, where possible, give her control over the things she can control. We women, we loves us some control.
Best to you and I am so glad you like to write!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:08 pm
Just wow. Thank you for sharing your story.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:08 pm
INCREDIBLE!!!!!
“We’ve got this” is my new mantra.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Congratulations on so much progress! Fighting is such a good sign. I will keep praying!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Thank you for a wonderful Christmas gift!! This news is the best present ever(well besides what my children bestow upon me) I guess there really is a Santa Claus!! Here’s to today,Day 1 , we got this:)
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
I read and re-read this post…it’s unbelievable and amazing and makes me bawl all at once. Depression is tricky. A few thoughts that come to my mind. 1. The kids seem key to her recovery. I know the desire to protect them is huge, but she responds so well to them. They need her and she needs them. Figuring out a way to integrate their lives seems essential. 2. How about reading bog comments to her? Knowing all the people that are reading and commenting can be uplifting. We are thinking about you all here in snowy DC.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
I’ve been following Anissa’s story — gasping, worrying, hoping — and am humbled by every word you’ve written. I’m encouraged and happy to read this post. I’ll continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing with us. We’re invested. Blessings.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
That woman is a freakin’ FORCE OF NATURE.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:19 pm
Awesome news! I am so happy to hear this! She is fighting!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:21 pm
I know this will sound corny and cliche, but this feels like a Christmas miracle. As Jenn so eloquently put it, you’ve got this, and we’ve got you – you’ve got support as far as the internet can reach. <3
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:21 pm
Words? SENTENCES? How totally frickin’ AWESOME! And arguing? Even better!
Definitely keep the kids involved. Depending on what they do with her in OT and PT and possibly ST, they can probably get them involved in therapy, as “helpers”, which will keep her motivated to keep working.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:26 pm
Woman, you ROCK. Seriously, even Ralph Macchio is commenting on tweets about you!!!
Peter, you are a force of nature yourself, and as odd as it sounds, I am proud of you for arguing with her…she needs to know she can count on you and your relationship still being strong.
Both of you, AMAZING.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
Oh my goodness, this post is so inspiring – that woman rocks my world. Thank you for continuing to share with all of us.
Sending hard core prayers your way!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
Is there a room address we can all mail our pictures to? Then maybe you could put them up in her room covering the wall, that way she is literally surrounded by people cheering her on and praying for her!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:31 pm
OMG. I’ve been lurking and not commenting, but this one just…well, I’ve never been so glad to hear of a couple FIGHTING! Yea! A true Christmas gift to see this amazing woman rebounding. Hang tough, you’ve got a lot of prayer coming your way!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:31 pm
Hope overcomes the worst of times. She’s got hope. She’s got spitfire. She’s got you — and you’ve got us.
GO, ANISSA, GO!
And the depression? Just stay focused on the outcome. She WILL get better. And you will be right there with her.
Much love,
Susan
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:36 pm
Go, Anissa!! Man, she is a tough cookie. You SO “got this”.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
This is thrilling news!
Love to you.
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
Man, I’m a blubbering mess reading this, but that is fanfreakintastic. I wish I had some words of wisdom regarding the depression but so many others seem well versed in that kind of advice, I think you’ll get some great ideas. Atta girl, I think the “we’ve got this” sums it up
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:48 pm
That’s wonderful news!!! Continuing to pray for all of you!
on Dec 19th, 2009 at 11:56 pm
I’ve never left a comment here before. Not because I didn’t want you to know I was here, rooting for Anissa like all of the others, but because I felt uncomfortable. Like a strange voyeur, looking in on your tragedy and involving myself in it selfishly. I didn’t know about Anissa before this tragedy; I’d never even heard of her blog. But, when the news made its way to Twitter I followed the links to see what was going on. But, now that I’m here (and have been for every post since the beginning) I feel as though I do know Anissa, and you, and your family. From reading her old posts, and the comments left by her friends and followers I have come to regard Anissa as a special person who has a special strength, and I want so desperately for you all to be reunited. This post makes me hopeful. And apparently, courageous (coming outta the lurker closet is no easy task!) and hopefully Anissa is feeling that way too.
Christine Reply:
December 21st, 2009 at 12:02 am
I know exactly how you feel, I have been reading and worrying since this started, even though I didn’t know about Anissa and her blog till this all happened. But at this point she needs to know we’re out here praying for her!! She is clearly an amazing woman, and if the power of the blogoverse can help, here we are!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:01 am
(BIG UGLY HAPPY SNOTTY TEARS)
Praise the Lord.
You tell Anissa we love her!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:02 am
chills.
anissa is simply amazing and so lucky to have you, peter.
continued love and prayers for you all.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:02 am
How about you provide us with an address [I am sure there is one around here somewhere
heehee, but I am new] and we inundate Anissa with our prayers and good thoughts via snail mail?
A 42 cent stamp is worth many mircales – I have seen it. And I will happily contribute and post to my blog about it.
Kids are so incredibly resilient – I knew your daughter would be so wonderful after reading the last post – and I know, just know Peyton is going to make her stronger and happier.
Our love and prayers to y’all.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:03 am
What wonderful news!!! Thanks for sharing.
Have you thought about getting a P.O. Box and letting us send cards of encouragement to her?
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:07 am
I think maybe you and her friends (but DEFINITELY not the kids could read her a variety of posts/tweets from her crew. Not just the “prayers for Anissa” but the everyday…to let her feel like she is part of the everyday. Maybe setting up SKYPE so some of her closest friends can at least read/talk to her from where they are?
And how about the kids working on writing, performing and recording a little skit for her? That would give them something to preoccupy their time, and it sounds like (just as I suspected) she is quite the mama bear…she won’t want to miss the 2nd performance!
And when this is all said and done, I volunteer to babysit so that the two of you can get the hell out of dodge…you guys need a break!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:09 am
PRAISE THE LORD…
over the top happy and sending prayers! our miracle girl!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:09 am
How about allowing all of us…the people she barely knows or doesn’t know who are praying for her to send cards, pictures, etc.? Could you set up a PO box where they could be sent?
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:18 am
This made me cry tears of joy.
Your family has been on my mind alot, and I am glad that she is on the road to recovery. 
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:22 am
So happy to hear of this incredible progress! What an awesome early Christmas present! My family is thinking of you and praying for you and your family continually.
And I love the idea from Amy above…a PO box for cards and letters of encouragement.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:30 am
Wonderful news! Anissa the rest of your family continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:49 am
I just spoke at a depression event a couple months ago. This was what I had to say to the family members of people dealing with depression. I really hope this helps. http://www.capemayblogger.com/blog/2009/08/19/words-depression/
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:58 am
This update was wonderful to read.
I am one of those people who had never met of Anissa online in any form before I heard the news of this stroke. I know she will be overwhelmed by the sheer mountain of people praying for her and all of her family. But it seems that’s the effect she has on people!
I am sure she won’t be up to reading messages for a while, but if every person sent an image to represent themselves, a visual “supporter wall” could be created that could be printed and put on a wall to show her how many people want her to get well again.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:00 am
Yes, it sounds like she’s got it. Amazing. And you got it as well.
I think the idea of giving her the stats – tell her how many website hits you have, how many comments on each post, how many people posted about her, are Twittering about her, etc. And bring the kids – it’s obviously what made her get out of bed in the morning before, and what will make her get up again now.
Amazing. I don’t even know her and I can cry tears of joy just picturing the hugs and the “arguing.” Keep up the great effort–I am part of this group who is glad you write for therapy because we are constantly looking for updates!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:23 am
Amazing, truly amazing! There is NO ONE like Anissa! I think you know we’ve all got your back and no matter what you need from us – we’ve got this! Your children are amazing too! You are so blessed and it’s just beginning! Lots of love and hugs to all of you. You are all in my prayers – unceasingly!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:34 am
What incredible news! Thanks for sharing all of Anissa’s progress- good, bad, and even the arguments! She’s right…You’ve got this! Thinking of you and sending tons of good thoughts your way!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:35 am
Anissa sounds like an amazing fighter!! ALL OF YOU are very strong. Keep the faith. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you daily. God Bless.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:45 am
This is the best news I’ve heard in a long time! I’m praying for Anissa’s recovery and your family’s strength to see her through it! Hang in there — you’ve got it!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:54 am
this is houston, we prepare for lift off… engine check, babysteps check, booster 1 check, booster 2 check, gianormous leap forward check, ready for booster 3 and lift off…..
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:54 am
This is just so fantastic and wonderful. Way to go!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:57 am
You don’t know me and I haven’t known you very long. What a testimony of the honor and love of others to you and yours. It is truly incredible to see that video and know that all of US are standing behind you and rooting for you all the way. You can do this and we will be right here on the web beside you….doing whatever we can do….for however long it takes.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:57 am
Wow Anissa. Just….wow.
Now i truly do believe in miracles.
xoxo
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:07 am
I smile more every time I read this. I love you Anissa.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:10 am
Wow. I am just thrilled. Thrilled. And, more thrilled.
Thank you for sharing!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:33 am
My name is Kristen. I’m a fringe part of Anissa’s friends, of her world, of your world, Peter, but I know you. I know your story, I know you both in my heart, and I have been walking with all of the rest of this army of love with you every day of this.
I know what it means when the world stops and suddenly everything is different; nothing can ever be the same, what is important today is eons away from what was important yesterday; I know what that means, but I also know I am blissfully ignorant compared to you and your wife. I find you both so compelling, so important, so worth every ounce of compassion and prayer and love that has spilled forth from our friends. I know that isn’t much, but it is what I have to give: one more candle in the dark night, one more heart full of love, one more person praying and believing, one more pulling for you. For all of you. For every one of you.
My family and I believe in Anissa. We believe in you. We won’t stop. Don’t you either.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound….. Praying, praying, my heart is overjoyed for all of you. Go Anissa! God Bless.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:48 am
Oh my goodness, I am in tears reading this. How amazing is she? Just amazing.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:58 am
What spectacular news to receive on this snowy night! We’re sending all sorts of love and support from New York City!!
PS-Peter, it’s possibly that the kids may already have it (I think I gave Anissa one at the Aiming Low party), but if not, I’m happy to send along a copy of the new Jimmies DVD for giggling purposes…Just let me know where to send it!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:04 am
Here’s a few suggestions:
1) keep up the contact with the kids and family. Knowing her presence matters to the family is most important, even if she’s not able to do/be all that she wants.
2) if it will be allowed by the facility: work on the depression and rehab from the nutritional standpoint, e.g., fish oil in her feeds, blenderized fresh foods –check out the Yahoo Blenderized Diet group for suggestions. Since she has a feeding tube, you can make sure she gets maximum nutrition, not just formula. My baby has a feeding tube and is unable to eat, and nutrition has helped brain development in so many ways.
Someone posted this recently on the Blenderized Diet Yahoo group, and even though it’s for kids, it may also apply to an adult brain that needs support and recovery:
“I have been working for a year now with a Doctor who specializes in treating Brain Injured children through nutrition. She is a very respected doctor and travels the world lecturing. She used to work with the Institutes for the Achievement of Human Potential and the Family Hope Center in PA – and now sits on their boards.Her name is Coralee Thompson.
Here is a link to the book on Amazon:
http://bit.ly/ 6ZBaBn”
3) Keep up your fightin’ attitude; anger is another form of depression, but if she struggles against your position/ideas, that shows she cares and is still engaged.
Warmest thoughts and support. You’re doing a great job sustaining the family and maintaining a great attitude!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:29 am
Peter,
Everyday I log on to see if there is an update about Anissa, you and the kids. On days when there is nothing, I hope that “No news is good news,” and today, I found out, that indeed the old adage is true!!!
What a wonderful thing — to have an argument with your wife!
I would guess it was the best argument ever.
Keep going, Peter — you are doing awesome!
<3 Jenn
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:36 am
What a wonderful thing to read! I’m so happy for you all. You got this!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:47 am
You go, Anissa! We are so proud of you and can’t wait to see what you’ll do next!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:54 am
I have never met your sweet wife, someone directed me over to your blog and I have been following it. What wonderful news for everyone. What a trooper you are… keep on keeping on.. if there is anything you would like us to do … just ask. Does she need cards sent to her?
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 4:13 am
Pulling for her and Praying!! May she move mountains. Thanks for the update you are a strong amazing Man and you are blessed as a Team!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 4:13 am
Amazing Grace how sweet thou are!!!!! Thank you God!
Thank you for the miracles! Keep them coming!!!!
Hallelujah!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 4:44 am
Last week I had an ongoing argument with a local internet/TV/phone provider. Exasperating and maddening — I live in France where customer service sometimes has a whole different meaning. At one point I was so angry; after several phone calls and more than one visit to their “boutique,” I marched out the store unsatisfied and frustrated. I was walking down the street trying to talk myself down, thinking about what a ‘first world problem’ this was, and I conjured up a few images of my own:I thought about someone in my life who is sick, and then, of course, I remembered your family and Annissa — all this put my customer service battles in perspective. (And reminds me NOT TO GIVE UP!)
So thanks for writing – it’s a therapy for you and a perspective for the rest of us.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:24 am
And the good news keeps coming!! I am so happy for you and Anissa and your family. What a gift to have her back and talking…. even if it is arguing!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:03 am
This makes me believe even more deeply in the power of prayer. Still praying.
COME ON, ANISSA! I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:07 am
A Chritmas miracle ….amazing
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:39 am
Such good news to read! Thank you for keeping us updated. As some others have said, I am short on ideas, but I’m behind whatever you decide to do. If there is a snail mail address, Anissa can expect mail from me.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Wow, just wow. I am just so happy. Anissa WILL get well.
I had been a Peyton follower for a long time but drifted away when Anissa started her new blog. I heard about the stroke on Matt Logelin’s site and of course I had to come back. Anissa is the cool kid I always wanted to be and I’ll be praying and supporting her every step of the way.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Man. That is SO. FREAKIN’. AMAZING!!!! So happy for you guys. Anissa is really making progress.
I agree with the person who said to read her the blog comments. Bloggy love can be a powerful thing. Shit, just tell her how many comments you’re getting every day. That should bring a smile to her face!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:06 am
Oh wow. So amazing!!!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:18 am
You know someone is on the mend when they have the energy to argue with you.
I am so happy for you all, and I’ll keep on praying….
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:26 am
I read parts of this post, out loud, to my husband as tears streaked my face. Because this is the post I’ve been waiting for.
Peter, if there’s anything I can do, let me know. I’m here!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:55 am
NOBODY KEEPS ANISSA DOWN! Tears.. can’t type much. OVER JOYED..
MUSIC, make her a mix of song YOU love that MEAN THINGS to you. Pop that iPod on and keep her reminded that we are all here for her.. YOU and the KIDS especially.
I think Ri (aka Music Savvy Mom) did put up a community play list were those of us who are part of Team Anissa could add songs. BUT ones that are important to your lives together will really help, I think. MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:58 am
Your strength is awesome.
You got this.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:06 am
I am a new “friend”. I have followed your updates since day 1. I found out about your wife from Tanis Miller’s blog. I have prayed for her, you and your children. This time of the year everyone needs a Christmas Miracle and this year it is your amazing and determined wife.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:22 am
I did not know Anissa or her amazing family until 31 days ago. I watch with awe the love that surrounds this special lady and I have come to know that you Peter can also move mountains with your love.
Her first words “I love you” took my breath away and then “WE can do this”. WE. It is a we and a tribute to the power of love. Never underestimate the power of the Will to Live and your amazing family gives dear sweet Anissa every reason to live, to love, to thrive!
Happy Holidays
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:22 am
You all got this! Stay strong and we’ll keep you and your family in our prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:23 am
I am a physical therapist and I just wanted to offer some strategies that may be helpful in your wife’s recovery. If she has limited use of her arm/hand you may want to talk with her physical and occupational therapists about restraint therapy, where you “restrain” the non-involved side, which will make her use the involved upper extremity. This type of therapy is not for everyone, as it can be very frustrating for a person, but there are some promising results and studies done on it. I have seen the best results with adults with full cognitive functioning who undestand what is being done and why. The other thing is to place objects, have people stand, etc… on the involved side, this will encourage her to be more aware of that side of her body. Continue to touch her on the involved side, as it seems you have been doing already, this will give her more awareness of that side of her body that now has decreased sensation. You are doing an amazing job and it sounds like your wife is really starting to “awaken” from her CVA. Remember that the brain needs time to heal and sometimes when she seems so tired and “out of it” her brain is still trying to repair the damage that has been caused by the stroke. It has been my experience that it can take a full year to really know how much function someone will recover. Wishing you all the best, and things are sounding like they are moving in the right direction.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:30 am
Sat here and had to read this to my husband. I had to stop and grab tissues because the tears of joy were streaming down my face. She is SO amazing!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:13 pm
Praising God praising God Praising God! Day 0 indeed. I have been and will be praying for each and every day forthcoming. I don’t cry easily……..except for when I read these updates. Thanks for sharing your journey with us, you truly are gifted in your writings.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:40 pm
YEAH!!!!! Gooooooo Anissa! This is the best report yet!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:40 pm
A great big WOOOO HOOOOOO!!! from Aurora, Colorado. YOU GO ANISSA!!
Continued prayers of hope, love and strength for you, Peter!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Fantastic news!!! I still think you could make a book anyway, there’s so much more you’re leaving out that once you can sit down and think about it, your whole family’s story is so inspiring it would be a series! Good luck I know I will look for it!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
in utter awe at the power of Anissa, the power of a mothers love for her kids and vice versa and the steadfast love of a husband!!! Beautiful.
and of course the love of 10 000 “strangers” and a celeb!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
YOU GOT THIS. : )
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
Peter, you don’t know me and I don’t know you. But I’ve been following your updates.
I am crying after reading this post. I am so happy about this latest update! It is wonderful, encouraging news. You are both so strong. I am amazed. You and Anissa are going to kick butt.
I will continue to pray for your family. *hugs*
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
Happy tears!!
That is one amazing wife you have there!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Praise the Lord! Just the news I needed to hear after a frustrating morning! Continuing to pray!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
YES!!! YES!! YES!!! YES!!!! AMAZING!!! THRILLED!! TEAM ANISSA!!! HELL YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:31 pm
Yay! So glad to hear wonderful news!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
Tears of the joy! The whole post through. I tried reading it out loud to my hub, but couldn’t even get through! You’ve got this! GO ANISSA! and GO PETER! You are a strong, wonderful, supportive husband. I can only imagine your heart is singing having heard her speak! xoxox
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
The video is sooo amazing. I was trying to explain to my oldest son (23) about the bloghood, but he just kept pooh-poohing it! How incredibly beautiful Annissa’s support is! I was just crying at all that love and support.
You guys are in our prayers – I also pray that you up times are sweet and your down times are cushioned by the hands of God – and sometimes, everybody needs to cry or we’d explode. Dr. Dobson talks about for every high there is an equal low. That really helped me understand that the low area is sometimes just where I journey but not live.
Blessings and Joy on your family! I hope when Anissa feels better she’s going to realize the impact of faith she had on us all, all while experiencing some very un-asked for R&R!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Woooohoooo!!!!!!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
Praise the Lord! Prayers were answered in a mighty way today!
Wow! and Wow! I’m crying and jumping for joy all at the same time. This is such wonderful news! The part I liked best was that she argued with you, Peter. That’s Anissa and she is definitely on her way back! My love to all of you. What a gift this Christmas!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
This is an amazing story. Praying for you guys.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
I like the mail idea myself. Card and letters are something tangible she can see that people do care. That being said, I’m not sure if you’d want them sent to the facility she’s in because we may totally slow down their mail service.
Just let us know what you want us to do and we’ll do it!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
When my father was stuck in a hospital bed after a car accident and then stroke, I loaded a ton of pictures onto a digital picture frame. Pictures of his own childhood, of mine, of friends and family. Not everybody culd visit him but he was able to see everybody that way. And remember. Remembering is key. Blessings to you all!
Mary
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
[...] I believe that it is 100% true when Peter says she CAN & WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS! [...]
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:09 pm
I have been a lurker and a supporter, but never a commenter… Beautiful post! She has amazing strength!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:31 pm
That brought me to happy tears. How awesome, for everyone. Rachael must have been on cloud nine after having that experience with her mom. Keeping you guys in my prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
Amazing! Y’all are one tough Family, and yep, I Believe you’ve got it! Continuing to Pray for all of you. Your wife is strong, but you are equally as strong. I find that with most cyber families I’ve come to know, if there is one, most of the time they’re are more (Strong, Amazing family members that is
)
Take Care & God Bless
What a Miraculous Christmas Gift you have gotten this year!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 4:09 pm
AWESOME update – I’m so glad she’s continuing to progress. I think that the most important thing in fighting depression is that she has company – us women are not lone creatures and just having people around when she’s up to it will help her a lot.
Still praying for you!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Amazing. You guys are so amazing. This is the most inspiring story I have ever read. Anissa is just… there are no words. It’s incredible. I am just barely holding back tears.
Really FANTASTIC news!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:14 pm
Peter:
WRITE.THE.BOOK. It will be a blockbuster. As God doesn’t give the Mayhews more than they can handle, You can do it!!
“YOU’VE GOT IT!!”
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:14 pm
Wow! I am so so so happy to read this!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
How beautiful and wonderful to hear on a Sunday!!! Go !!!!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
You SHOULD totally market your story someday. It’s a pretty amazing one. The part that I love the most? That you are converting people to believers, strengthening families, reminding us all to be thankful for our blessings. That’s pretty amazing – that through this tragedy good is happening. And it’s happening through every single member of your family. While I’m sure you must feel like Job at this point; your family is an inspiration.
I am a Mental Health therapist. A couple things re: depression. First, it’s so very normal. Allow her to feel what she’s feeling. It’s common in stroke victims; and, honestly, I would be much more concerned if she just opened her eyes and was all bright and happy. Also, remember that Depression is said to be repressed anger. So, allow her to be angry. Look for creative ways that she can express that anger safely; to her fullest ability. If her strength allows; punch a pillow. Name the pillow with whatever it is she can identify that she’s angry at. Cancer? Strokes? Whatever underlying medical condition she may have that has caused the strokes? I’m sure once she regains the ability to write that will be most therapeutic for her; but until then, be creative. The more she swallows the anger down and denies it, the more depressed she’ll become. Also, while it will be hard, try not to personalize if she takes out her anger on you. Arguing with you about anything – she has VERY little control of anything in her life right now, and I would guess that arguing with her is her attempt to gain some control. And, she can’t take the anger out on the kids, on her friends, on other family. Take it as a compliment; we tend to take our anger out on the ones we feel most comfortable with. Just be patient, be patient, be patient. I hope that you can feel everyone’s prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
Great news. You all will continue to be in my prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Any comment I have seems so inadequate. I think a ‘Glory be to God’ should just about cover it though
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Tears of Joy! Praise be to God! Merry Christmas!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 7:57 pm
that’s amazing news!
“We’ve got this.” It’s the new “Let’s Roll.” Only Anissa.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
Ok – you don’t know me, and I’ve never posted on any of your blogs. I started following you when “Mommy Wants Vodka” posted about Anissa’s stroke. I have no idea what to say, but my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
May GOD continue holding you close and leading you through this.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
I don’t think I’d ever heard of Anissa before her stroke, but I cry at every update I read. Your love & support is the most wonderful thing. I am so happy for you at the progress she’s made!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
I don’t know you guys, haven’t started reading this blog until poobou and thespohrsaremultiplying’s blogs mentioned Anissa. I have to admit, I’m addicted. It’s like something I can’t stop reading. I’ve been praying very hard for her, you, and your kids. And when I read this post, I started crying tears of joy. She argued with you. She’s fighting to come back fully. And she will. <3
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Amazing! Simply amazing!
And keep writing…you’re amazing too!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I have been following this site for 31 days. I think about your family everyday. This is great news. She is in my thoughts and prayers daily.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
I have been reading your blog since I heard about Anissa, and I’ve smiled, cried, and laughed. She has an amazing gift and resilient spirit.
Please tell her that I said to get mad. Get good and mad – because if you’re mad, you’ll fight harder, and from what I’ve read, Anissa can do anything.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
“Anissa grabbed her and hugged her and kissed her and kept rubbing her back.
There were tears from both of us.”
And then, (after reading the rest of your post,) there were tears from the millions of us reading and praying and hoping for types of updates with every fiber of our being. WA-FREAKING-HOOO!!!! Tears, smiles, more tears, repeat!
God Bless and know we won’t let you down. You got us all thinkin of creative ways to keep her entertained until her body catches up w/her mind.
xoxoxo
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:15 pm
Will do everything I can.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
ROCK ON!!!
Christmas music? Books on tape?
Thinking out loud; too much time to think can make just about anyone have depressing thoughts. She has so much to live for and I will continue to lift her up with healing thoughts.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:35 pm
First time commenting, but I can’t resist following your story. Praising Him for these steps in healing!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
I needed to read this today. Thank you, Peter.
(LOVE YOU ANISSA!)
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 10:58 pm
Just wanted to say how amazing I think Anissa and your family are. I’d read a bit here and there about you guys in the past, but now I’m checking in regularely to see how you are all doing. I’m thinking of you and how incredible Anissa is doing. She is so inspiring.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
I didn’t read through all the comments so I’m sorry if this has been suggested….
Perhaps start a video diary of the kids talking about what they did that day. Every day, or every few days she could watch the videos to keep up with what she may feel she’s missing. That way even if she doesn’t retain it now, she can watch it later and not feel like she missed everything?
Also, perhaps have the kids or some friends & family read and record all of the comments and inspirational messages left for Anissa on the blog. Then put it on an mp3 player and bring it to the hospital for her to listen to. I’m sure she’ll get a boost knowing people are checking in each and every day to see how she’s doing and to offer supportive words.
I found out about Anissa via Amy (Pretty Babies) site and have been following Anissa’s journey since then. My husband and I are both rooting for all of you!
Huge props to YOU for being such a strong husband/father during such hard times. I’m sure you could use a break!
It sounds like you have a network of loving & caring people surrounding you in real life and online, it’s just mind blowing! Awesome!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:11 pm
What wonderful news! I think you should share these comments with her – let her know how many people are pulling for her. Have the kids make audio messages – or let them just call her and let her know what’s going on in their lives on a daily basis. I am so glad the visit with Rachel went well. I am sure it did a world of good for her as well as Anissa. Keeping you in my prayers.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
I gotta remember to wear waterproof mascara when I read your posts Peter. Thank you for sharing, such a joyous post. I cry every time I read one.
I am continuing to pray for Anissa – such an exciting post! And you and the kids.
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
HOT DIGGITY DAMN, YOU GO GIRL!! Merry friggin’ Christmas, woohoo! You’ve got this, alright!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
WOOT WOOT! Wanted to make your pocket jingle with my joy!
on Dec 20th, 2009 at 11:39 pm
I have a small something I’d like to send. Is there an address where things are being sent that can be forwarded?
thank you.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 12:10 am
My hope and prayers are with you and yours.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 12:29 am
That just tickles me that you are able to fight with your wife. Sometimes those ordinary things have got to be the things you miss the most. I love that she is able to communicate with you and you can understand her so well. I’m also so pleased that she has been able to connect with both her son and daughter. She is making terrific progress.
As for depression, I wish I knew what to tell you. I do have a CD that I like that I sent to another friend of mine having a medical crisis. Freedom by Mandisa. It’s very upbeat gospel music with some great words you can take comfort from.
You might check with the Institute for the Achievement of Human Potential (IAHP.org) in Philadelphia. They mostly deal with brain injured children, but they also deal some with brain injured adults and they have some more non-traditional methods that you might find helpful. They helped Kennedy, Sr. after he had his stroke. I went through their week-long brain injury course several years back and it was a tremendous help for my son’s ADHD and speech problems.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:02 am
Such blessed news! Every day will bring new joys and new challenges, but she’s right, you’ve GOT this! All our thoughts and prayers are with you. Also, is there maybe a way that we readers, known friends and unknown supporters, could submit videos wishing Anissa well? I think maybe that would help keep depression at bay, for her to know how many of us out here are pulling for her!!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:31 am
This is so wonderful! Although I don’t know Anissa, I have been following, and have prayed for her from day one… I’m so thankful and happy for all of you. Much love and blessings…
Christine …aka XtyMiller on twitter.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:38 am
I was in desperate need for some good news this week, and for the reminder that we should appreciate the simple things like hugs and kisses and having someone we love enough to fight with. Depression is a tricky one and she may just need a little time to feel sorry for herself. She’s earned it. I think you’re doing all the right things, and I hope you have people around you giving you support and encouragement as well.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:44 am
Hang in there, Anissa! Wonderful, wonderful news!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 2:43 am
Best news I’ve read in a very, very long time. I’m so incredibly overjoyed that your family is receiving this gift. Day 0 is a good day. Much love to you all.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 2:58 am
You’re at your lowest point just before you rise! Annisa is right, you’ve got this!! Praying for you all and your family, expect nothing but perfection~ yay God!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:23 am
What an amazing moment . Merry Christmas…..a huge blessing for you all. You’ve got my prayers.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:40 am
Not sure if it has already been suggested, but how about a wall of love? I read live journel page about a girl with CF and she has a wall of love. Basically she puts all the cards, pictures and art she gets sent up on a wall in her room (hospital or home depending where she is). It keeps her inspired when she is feeling down and helps with her depression (she is in chronic rejection after having a double lung transplant 2 yrs ago). Her site is…. http://65redroses.livejournel.com
Her favorite part of the day is getting mail and adding new stuff to the wall. It is easy for people to do and not expensive.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 9:15 am
Wonderful news, I got chills!!!
You are in my prayers… Merry Christmas!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 9:25 am
Pardon my French, but FUCKIN’ A!
I am SO PROUD OF YOU, Anissa!! You’ve got this!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:42 am
Praise God for His mercy and grace!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:45 am
YESSS!!!!! Keep up the good fight Anissa!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:45 am
Holy hell. I am crying again. Anissa, Peter, you guys are a miracle just being you.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:53 am
Unbelievable! What a miracle! We’ll keep pulling for her. Thank you so much for sharing this!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:58 am
We’ve got this too. If anyone knows about depression and how to fight that beast, it’s bloggers. Love to you all.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:59 am
Praise God!!! I’m so glad to hear that you could actually “argue” with each other! Still praying for you all. Keep fighting Anissa!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 11:03 am
This is absolutely incredible news…..sending more prayers to ALL of you!!!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 11:10 am
I am elated that the two of you can argue now. That has to be sweet music to your ears! I don’t know what you can do about the depression right now. When you can move mountains then are temporarily stopped from doing so it hurts! I have only had a car accident that stopped my life for like 15 months, it was nothing compared to what Anissa is going through I imagine. Try to do what you can for her natural rhythms such as sunlight, fresh air, and keep doing what you are doing. She is doing amazing! Keep it up Anissa!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 11:29 am
With each other you have totally got this. Together.
Thank you for allowing us to be there with you every step of the way. The love here is tangible, and you guys are incredibly strong.
One step at a time.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 11:50 am
This is such great news to hear!! Keep being strong
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 12:04 pm
Wow…..not much else to say. Have been praying since day 1 and will continue!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 12:48 pm
I have only been reading your blog recently, but ever since I began, I think of your family often! I cannot believe all that your family has gone through. My heart goes out to you all! I have only been really sick once and it was when my oldest daughter was born. The days before her birth I was in the ICU and was very scared. I know that music really calmed me down. Maybe some of her favorite tunes would help…or even Christmas music?! Just throwing that idea out there. Also, when you said you were taking her favorite movies up to her, I immediately thought of our favorite – Facing the Giants – have u seen it? It is awesome!! All about how nothing is impossible with God! God bless!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:01 pm
wow, this is huge! HUGE. you’ve totally got this.
(and i’ve totally got tears running down my face.)
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 1:38 pm
I just have to add that I am so excited for all of you! I, like many bloggers, didn’t know Anissa. I had no idea of your earlier struggles. I only heard thru the grapevine what happened. After religiously following Anissa’s progress, I’ve come to learn what a wonderful blogger, mother, and just plain PERSON she is! I’ve gone thru and read previous blog posts from her and I just want her to know, and I know I’m not alone here, that I can’t WAIT to follow her in the next journey in her life. She HAS to get better because there are a lot of people interested in what she has to say. The blog world is a little darker without her in it. Tell her we need her light!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 2:11 pm
I realize I’m grasping at straws here, but it occurs to me that one of those light therapy lamps—the kind that give off the full spectrum of the sun’s rays and are supposed to help with seasonal mood disorders—might be a no-risk way to help support her mood. It certainly wouldn’t help to bring a little brightness into her room. If you want one, please email me. I am more than happy to buy it for her.
Amy
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 2:27 pm
Amazing!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 2:49 pm
Amazing! Keep Fighting!! Stay strong! You can do it! Positive thinking! Will continue ot pray for Anissa and the family!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:02 pm
Okay, so I am THRILLED with what I’m reading here! I couldn’t check all weekend because my computer crashed, but I was praying and thinking good thoughts all weekend! I’m trying to come up with something good to send her to keep her spirits up. Thank you for the updates!!!!! I can’t tell you how happy I am! ♥
Desera
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:12 pm
So wonderful. I choke up at every update, but it is all good. We are all pulling for you Anissa!!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:15 pm
BEST NEWS EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am in delighted wonderful excited SHOCK! I can’t believe it — Anissa you kick BUTT! You are so amazing!!! Can’t wait to see you again in person!!! LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:18 pm
WOW!!!!! Soooooo awesome.
It’s just miracle after miracle over there!!!
Talk soon,
~Susan
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:22 pm
This is absolute good news. I’m so happy to read that she is starting to make leaps and bounds.
Keep your kids there as much as possible, there is a natural happiness that emanates from children. My children are my personal anti-depressant.
But those are must my two cents.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Whoa! Go Anissa!!! That just made me smile, smile, smile. Praying for more miracles for you. ’cause God’s got this!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:38 pm
I’m so happy for you, I’m crying over here! I will continue to pray for all of you as Anissa and you guys continue to heal.
Thank you for keeping us all updated.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:40 pm
Strokes and depression go hand in hand. Damage to the brain usually affects the brain’s ability to feel pleasure. Also, healing from such a huge injury will slow everything down, including the experience and expression of joy. Anti-depressants saved my mother’s life after her stroke. So SO important. Physical therapy will make a huge difference for Anissa emotionally. It’ll give her something to work toward, something that is all hers to feel proud of. Keeping the children in her face will force her to step beyond that internal focus (my mom seemed to be looking inward so much as she healed from her stroke and she did need some of that but she also needed to be shaken loose from it too – us kids and the grandbabies seemed to do it best.)
That she is speaking in complete sentences is a gift from god. Not to be expected at this point in recovery. Anissa’s brain is really strong. Good thing!
And I pray a prayer of intention that Anissa and you and your children will walk together in the spring – it will be Easter and the sun will shine through the still chilly air and Peyton will find more eggs than any one else. And you will have started writing your book about this experience.
Amen.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:41 pm
What spectacular news! Christmas just got a little brighter.
Will keep sending our thoughts and healing energies to Anissa.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:45 pm
I’m so happy for all of you. Way to go Anissa! Peter, thank you again for keeping us updated. I too would love to send a funny card or letter.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:49 pm
OMG, this is fantastic!! Way to go! What a fantastic holiday gift. Blessings to Anissa and your family.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:49 pm
Yay!! Wonderful wonderful news! So glad to hear this. Keep on fighting, Anissa!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 3:56 pm
HOLY FREAKIN’ AWESOME! I guess she just needed something worth arguing over to get the ball rolling. Many blessings for your family during this very special holiday!!!!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 4:00 pm
Wonderful news!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 4:25 pm
Adding my profound joy….
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Started tearing up reading this – I am so glad to hear this news! Go Anissa. You’ve totally got this!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 5:27 pm
I know it probably feels like your still trudging up the first big hill on this roller coaster but I think you’ll be at the crest sooner than you think. Keep fighting Anissa! : )
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Simply wonderful, fantastic news. Still here, cheering you all on – every step of the way. Tell Anissa we adore her.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 5:44 pm
Awesome!
We’re all writers around here… So is Anissa! Maybe something that would push her along the path of joy and recovery is for her to know just how many people are wishing her well here on her blog– and even… maybe you could read some of the wonderful things that everyone is saying?
Continuing to pray and send blessings!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 5:51 pm
TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!!
Anissa we love you and you are in our prayers daily.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Yes! This is what I’ve been waiting to hear for some time! She can and IS going to move mountains!
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 6:52 pm
I cry every time I read one of your posts. I am so in awe of Anissa’s strength and courage, and I hope I could muster half of what she has if something were to happen to me. I don’t know you guys at all, but I think of your family daily. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 8:16 pm
I’ve been watching and waiting for good news from afar. I’m so thrilled that Anissa is fighting like this. Even arguing with you is a GREAT sign.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Everytime I show up in here she has me in tears. Go Anissa!!! She’s right… you’ve totally got this.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 10:53 pm
Amazing. She’s so strong! You’ll see, she’ll be talking up a storm before you know it. Forget about when or the time.
Just be in awe in the power of all the love that you can give her and all that is sent your way. That is what heals. I am sure of it.
I imagine that your heart has felt like it has been ripped open in this process and it has been excrutiatingly painful…but it is for a reason. Remember that and you won’t go into depression.
on Dec 21st, 2009 at 11:43 pm
I don’t comment often but I read everything. I have been sending loads of love and support.
Tell Anissa that if she wants to learn to break boards like a real karate kid, I will teach her someday.
on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:00 am
I had never heard of Anissa before last month. Now I check your site every day for updates. It never fails to move me to tears when I read about Anissa! I have been keeping you all in my prayers and I’ll continue to do so. Specifically I pray that you will know the best things to say to her and what to do for her and your family. Obviously you are doing the right things so far! Blessings upon you this Christmas and I hope Anissa continues to make leaps and bounds of improvements!!
on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 12:23 am
Hello,
I have an *idea* or two. Can we send you pictures of ourselves encouraging her along? Like I could hold up a sign of some sort that has an encouraging picture and you can show her a new picture every day from all of us? or for some of us that can do video, we can send you an encouraging video that we put together for her? that might be a bit more interactive. what do you think? in terms of other ideas…think about what her strengths are. i don’t know anissa but think about what kind of media/input she loves. then cater it to how we can use it to be encouraging and help ward off signs of depression.
i hope these ideas might help. i am encouraged to hear of your fight.
hugs,
~kavita
on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 1:23 am
I heartily recommend trying to get full-spectrum lighting in Anissa’s room. I suffer from depression and SADD, and nothing seems more cheerless than fluorescent light.
Laughter being some of the best medicine, go for DVDs that really make her laugh – be it “Office Space” or “Animal House” or smarter comedies like “The Princess Bride” that she could watch with the kids, but make you listen and think.
When she’s too tired to focus on a screen, try books on CD that are funny or really riveting to keep her mind working.
Do she like animals? See if there are volunteers to bring therapy pets to visit – nothing like a living, breathing warm fuzzy.
Bring some forcing bulbs like amaryllis or hyacinths that she can watch grow, and bloom, just as she will again. They can grow together.
on Dec 22nd, 2009 at 4:54 am
What fantastic news.
Go Anissa!
on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 12:47 am
WOW! Now that’s a dose of Christmas cheer. AWESOME news!
Heather
on Dec 23rd, 2009 at 7:52 pm
A Christmas blessing. Thank you for letting us know the latest news. Anissa will stay in my prayers.
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on Dec 26th, 2009 at 10:20 am
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on Dec 27th, 2009 at 4:25 am
I stumbled across your blog shortly after Anissa’s stroke and as a speech-language pathologist, my prognosis for significant language improvement based upon the description of the place and extent of the infarct was very poor. I am extremely happy to have been proven so wrong! Your wife must really be the mountain mover you claim her to be, as such dramatic displays of receptive and expressive language following such neurological trauma are rare. Continue pushing her rehab team to push her forward! What a miracle!