I started shaving my head several years ago when my wife said the infamous phrase, “honey, your hair has started migrating…” I haven’t shaved my head since this all started. I haven’t really looked in the mirror since this all started either.
I did today.
Apparently I have some gray hair now. Go figure.
So, last night, some friends, new and old, stopped in. It was extremely good to see all of them. We talked about the situation here. We talked about what was going on in their lives, and at work. Was a nice bit of escapism. It meant the world to me.
Anissa was a bit more active. She’s responding to things a bit more. She even turned her head, slightly, to acknowledge other voices in the room. There have been more signs of encouragement. Things like hold up one finger, and she does. It comes and goes, not consistent enough, yet.
Peyton’s still having issues, but today got to do a few cool things with grandma. She’s definitely in need of some one-on-one daddy time though. I think I’ll make it a point to start doing a meal out with each one of them every couple of days. Nothing major, but, just something so they each get their one-on-one.
That was Tuesday night.
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Tonight was something a little more.
More than slight movement.
More than slight eye re-focusing.
More than kicking her foot.
Understand that I try to look at her activities and actions as objectively as I can, but sometimes it’s difficult when you want something so much.
A little bit ago, I headed down to the cafeteria to get a cup of coffee. The junk they have up here just doesn’t cut it. When I came back in the room, her eyes were open and she was staring up at the pictures I have of the kids. This is common. When her eyes are open, that’s when we get the best response, but doesn’t always mean she’s seeing us. Hard to explain really.
Anyway, I came back in the room, and said my common line of, “hey hey hey…look who’s awake”.
Her eyes looked at me, I think. It was one of those, “did you just see that” moments.
I leaned in and put my head on the armrest and smiled at her. Her eyes smiled back at me a little, again, I *think*.
I said very softly, “can you hear me?” as I reached for her hand.
A nod.
“Can you understand me?”
She grabbed my hand, shook it, and opened her eyes wide in what I interpretted as, “Yes I can hear you ask me something else”.
I got about 5 minutes of what I would consider the best communication since all this started. I showed her pics of the kids. I told her they were safe. I told her I loved her and that we were getting through this together. She was nodding at the appropriate times, squeezing my hand, and following me some with her eyes.
The thing about faith is it’s not about what you want. It’s a confidence that God won’t give you any challenge you can’t handle….you just don’t know what that limit is. ‘Nissa and I talked about this when Peyton was first diagnosed. For the first time, there was a very real possibility of a poor outcome for one of our kids.
There is, however, a certain calm that overtakes you when you take your hands off the wheel of life and let God do the driving.
Six days ago, I prayed for lots of things. It was one of those moments of weakness, when the weight of the world was feeling rather crushing. What I got was this thought: “Touch her where she’s hurt every day for the next 7 days. Things will work out.” Every day, I’ve been coming in and touching the back of her head, her right arm, and her right leg. Every day, I’ve been doing a mental count down, sometimes out loud, drawing weird looks from Natalie, sometimes in my own head.
Tomorrow, Thanksgiving Day, is day 7.
If tomorrow comes and goes and she still hasn’t woken up enough to be considered out of the coma, I’m ok with that, because of the path she’s on. It’s just another day in this whole ordeal.
Understand though, my wife hates being late.
on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:21 am
So encouraging. Keeping faith xx
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:21 am
So encouraging! Hugs to your family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:22 am
We are believing with you. -
There is, however, a certain calm that overtakes you when you take your hands off the wheel of life and let God do the driving.
- those are hard words to live by. I will pray for you as you continue to have the strength to do just that.
C’mon Jesus. Show us all a miracle from Your great love!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:22 am
Prayers going up every moment!! KEEP that faith, and we are keeping it with you!! Thanks for sharing an update, and try to have a good Thanksgiving….I am thankful for having met Anissa!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:24 am
Oh goodness, I’m praying for that Thanksgiving Miracle! It sounds like she’s on that amazing road to recovery,and doing better and better every day. Thank you so much for the updates. I check the site all the time, just hoping for more and more good news… I know it’s hard to take things with a grain of salt, especially when you want them so badly. You are so strong…
I’ll pray for Peyton too. It sounds like she’s having a tough time. Many hugs and prayers to you and the family!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:26 am
Oh this is such encouraging news! Anissa.. Dina (BabyCenter) and I are pulling for you so much. We are praying for that Thanksgiving Miracle. We love you girlie… fight fight fight
Thank you Peter so much for the updates!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:27 am
wow…just…wow…I am inspired by your courage and the strength God has given you, both you and Anissa. My prayers continue to be offered up daily for you all.
you are a living demonstration of God’s grace and mercy.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:27 am
This is so wonderful to hear! She is in there and she WILL come back to you! Have faith, keep your head up and keep surrounding her in love! I pray for her constantly! Love from AZ!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:27 am
Oh my goodness. Such big steps. I ache for her, and for you, and your family. I am so excited for what will happen tomorrow. Happy Thanksgiving! Many prayers for you all.
Steph
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:28 am
Tears.
You are amazing Peter. I’m so glad Anissa has you. I’m going to bed tonight with Anissa and you in my heart.
I’ll be on my knees in prayer for you and yours.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:29 am
Anissa sounds like she is really responding on cue, that is awesome! We are so thinking of you all and know that Anissa is going to respond more frequently and consistently very soon! *HUGS*
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:29 am
Thanks for updating. Keep at it… both of you.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:29 am
Oh! I thank God for this. No doubt, you need something like this at this point. I have faith that she will fight her way out and back to you all. Nothing keeps a mother down. Keep believing and we will keep praying. God bless you all.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:30 am
Another hopeful update.
I’m still keeping you all in my thoughts (and talking to Anissa from time to time, truth be told) and I hope that tomorrow brings the sign we all want so very much. Hugs from afar.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:30 am
Hopefully she is asking for some bird tomorrow
that’s encouraging news.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:30 am
Anissa has a lot of people praying for her, she’s showing so much improvement, so happy for you and your family! It’s hard sometimes to keep the faith isn’t it? I know, i was in the same spot 6 weeks ago when my 11 month old grandson was diagnosed with a malignant braintumor and i wished i could tell Anissa how great he’s doing right now, still facing radiation etc but he’s doing so much better than we expected. Anissa is such a strong person, she’ll fight this for herself, for you and your kids, keep praying and keep the faith = )
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Oh my…..this is very encouraging. How wonderful! It almost sounded like she was communicating with you and you two were having a dialog. I truly believe this is an extremely huge point in the right direction. She’ll be back before you know it. Sounds like she already is in her mind. She just has to wait for her body to catch up. I’ll keep the prayers going strong. Everyday is a little better and better.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:38 am
I sit here with tears of recognition. My husband was hit by a drunk driver in 1995 and was in a coma. So much of what you say hits home. That is how our communications started as well. Through the eyes. My husband was a miracle and I have faith in your wife that she will be another miracle. I will keep sending positive thoughts. Heather
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:39 am
raising you all up in prayer, it sounds like miracles are happening every day- I hope today brings your family a huge one
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:39 am
Thank you.
I needed some faith
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:41 am
I am praying every day and every night. I too believe in the power of prayers and I know as God as my witness she and you all will come through this. It is just God’s way of testing us and the devil’s hands in the midst of it all. I hear you when you write, I know your a believer and you know with God ALL things are possible and a MIRACLE will happen and you will all have another great testimony to make believers of others. God Bless you ALL, Be strong (I know you will, you already are
) and ANISSA, Darlin, know that everyone is still praying for you and we won’t back down not 1 bit till this is behind us all.We love you all. Happy Thanksgiving.
GOD BLESS XO
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:42 am
I only know your wife as a friend of friends of mine, and from her Aiming Low endeavors (which really cracked me up when I seriously needed the laugh).
It sounds like the mind is there and the body is trying to catch up. I’ll keep praying for her, for you, and for your whole family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Hi- just started reading your blog. A perfect stranger! I am drawn to the oozing of faith, hope, trust and love of your words and Anissa’s. You guys are in my prayers. Thanks for allowing us to be on this journey with you!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Anissa is so very lucky to have you there, and I pray for you all every day.
My nephew was in a coma due to an automobile accident, and I totally get the changes you see that not everyone may…the way you *want* to see things without blowing them out of proportion…I see your hope…and I see your faith. Keep the ‘I have to be level headed’ thoughts; you have to. But also keep the faith, the hope, & the excitement when you KNOW you saw something! Spread that hope, faith & excitement on to Anissa.
((hugs)) and prayers to you all…
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:42 am
YES!! we are doing a concentrated healing tomorrow peter! i thought you’d want to know! i wrote about it on my blog.. maybe tomorrow night, miracles and magic will happen? xoxo
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:45 am
Best Thanksgiving post I’ve ever seen.
Praying for her still.
Love your writing voice, Peter. That last line is fab.
Sending love and peace to you and the rest of the family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:46 am
Come on Anissa! We’re all rooting for you!
Thank you for your thoughts on faith. You are all such a strong, loving family.
I am praying for a Thanksgiving miracle for all of you.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:48 am
We’re all pulling for you! Anissa is on her way!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:50 am
Pete,
I am so grateful that you are willing to share your feelings with us. You are a great husband and father. My heart aches for the struggle your family is enduring. This post is very uplifting.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:54 am
Miracles are liKe that. They happen on time. Sometimes not on time. But they happen. Your wife is a miracle.
Years of work in the neuro ICU taught me that we know very little about the brain, it is a miracle in itself. And your faith is beautiful. Praying for you and her and the family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:56 am
I never “met” Anissa, but many of my web friends know her & thus I too have been touched by your story. I’ve added my prayers for all of you. I looked forward to the day I can read her current posts.
I hope too that you continue to get the encouragement you all need.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:10 am
I just started reading your wife’s blog about 2 weeks ago, but I’m already a big fan. So happy to read your encouraging news, and wanted to let you know the prayers are continuing to go up for your family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:11 am
Praying and praying for your family. Lots of warm hugs your way.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:11 am
Your blog post has made my Thanksgiving Day, one million times over!
I called Heather S. today to touch base to see if I could send Anissa a CD of some favorite tunes and maybe just a greeting from one of her biggest fans, yours truly. I know there are so many people reaching out to you all and I’m sure it’s overwhelming so I thought I’d check/see with @mamaspohr before I sent you all a 80s-90s-rock-meets-dixie-chicks CD—cuz that’s kind of scary anyway.
You and your family have so many people who are praying, sending good mojo your way. Monster truckloads full of hope, love and maybe a little bit of crazy—-but you’re used to that.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:21 am
From one man, husband and father to another… prayer is probably what keeps us sane. Just make sure to give glory to where it needs to be given.
One weekend i was praying and what came to me as a whisper came true. Another time something similar happened and it did not come true (or maybe it will still - just later). I know you’re not the guy who gives up - it shows. But don’t get discouraged. Keep your faith strong.
You’re a true inspiration.
We are still praying… it’s thanksgiving - give thanks.
I am thankful that you are being man enough to share your story. I am thankful for your strong faith. I am thankful for your testimony. I am thankful that your family is being prayed for by many. I am thankful that we have an awesome and powerful God that we can have faith in.
You are blessed Pete - embrace it.
-Aman
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:27 am
Iam so encouraged. Anissa is such a fighter - I can only imagine how furious she would be if she was late! Thank you so much for keeping us updated. I think of her, and all of you, constantly.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:33 am
Things are sounding so much better! SEnding tons of prayers to you and your family - even though I don’t really “know” Anissa I feel for all of you.
Happy Thanksgiving to you all.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:34 am
he thing about faith is it’s not about what you want. It’s a confidence that God won’t give you any challenge you can’t handle….you just don’t know what that limit is.
WOW. That line blew my mind. So true. I continue to keep Anissa and your family in my prayers.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:35 am
Crying. WTG Anissa.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:57 am
As I sit and wait for the results of my husband’s bone marrow biopsy and PET scan, watching his cancer come back with a vengeance, wondering what this next fight will look like, what God has in store for us this time, I needed more than anything to read this message about faith. I’m not a very good passenger. I need to take my hands off the wheel.
Thank you. And I keep praying for Anissa. She inspired me the first time. She’s inspiring me again.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:02 am
Your wife is very much alive and in there. I was in a deep coma and was much more aware than doctors gave me credit for. Keep talking to her. Keep telling her you won’t abandon her and to be brave…this is what she needs to hear. She and you and your family will be fine.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:09 am
Thank you so much for keeping us all up to date. You are all in my thoughts constantly each day.
Bringing my dad home today from his post-heart attack/bypass surgery had me so stressed. How am I going to make sure he’s okay? I’m a single mom. I’ve got two small kids. I work full time and my job makes me travel… a lot. How am I going to hold it all together?
And, like you, I remembered that God’s not going to put anything on my plate that I can’t handle. It may not be what I want. It may not be what I think I need. But it’s there and I’m going to trust that I can get through it some way. I share your sense of peace and I hope that you can keep that solace close to your heart in the days weeks and months to come.
Please give Anissa a squeeze from all of us.
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Diana, The Doggy Mommy Reply:
November 26th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
I am in Vegas, if I can help, let me know. I can’t believe that I am just finding you and your site today. What a wonderful find on Thanksgiving Day!
God Bless you and your family.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:47 am
Amazing. Your faith and strength are amazing, and have what looks like thousands and thousands of people praying for the best Thanksgiving Day ever. thank you for sharing your strength and the baby steps with all of us. Even those of us who don’t know Anissa or your family personally feel like we do now. And we’re praying. Hard.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:53 am
Faith.
You and Anissa have given so many of us reasons to question, redefine, and strengthen our faith while this has happened.
I know she’s in there. I know she’ll make an entrance like the rockstar she is. I know I will both laugh and cry as I’ve done every time I read one of these posts and the comments.
But I’ve been on a catwalk with that woman… she can strut. She will strut again.
(((((hug))))))
Happy Thanksgiving, Mayhew Family.
p.s. Anissa, we’re out hear waiting… but you take your time getting it right before you step back out on the stage and take our breath away.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:28 am
That’s my girl. Peter, I remember those days when I was “waking up” and tonight’s news is SO familiar. She’s on her way back. Boy, is she ever working hard.
Today I give thanks that I can call Anissa my friend. And that she’s on her way back to all of us, especially you and the kids, Peter.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:53 am
Peter,
As it’s your Thanksgiving Day please be thankful for your faith. I am very thankful you have this faith. Enough said!
Still praying hard for Anissa’s miracle whether it’s today, tomorrow or next month. I’m just asking God to show you all more signs that she’s coming back to you day by day.
Sending love and hugs across the Atlantic.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 6:26 am
Thank you for the update. Always thinking of Anissa and your family. It sounds like you have so much support and help where you need it. God bless and care for all of you. Much hope is sent your way.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 6:30 am
“You’re My Best Friend” is playing on my ipod right now and the tears are falling becaue your beautiful best friend and wife is NOT going to be late to this party.
OH….so much to be thankful for today. Keep the faith and know our prayers are with you, Anissa and the kids.
Hugs.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:28 am
I have goose bumps!
So many encouraging things! Way to go Anissa!!!
Peter - You’re an awesome husband and father. Keep up the great work! And thank you for letting us know how things are going.
Anissa, you and the kids are always in my prayers.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I am so glad to hear this!!!!!!! Our Anissa is a true warrior. She will get through this. I just know it.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:57 am
I think there is a song out there about “Jesus Take the Wheel’ or something.
And you are so right, that when it’s out of your hands, you do become more capable of doing what is necessary and handling the challenges given you with focus.
Have the best day you can and know the baby steps are getting bigger!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:00 am
[...] met Anissa before. I hadn’t read the latest update on her condition so I popped over to her blog to see what the news is. I was moved to tears by the words of her husband, the love and faith and [...]
on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:16 am
INCREDIBLE.
My Thanksgiving wish for you and your family is more of the same: I hope Anissa continues to improve and I hope that you continue to get signs that she is hearing you.
Hugs to you, Peter! (and Anissa too!)
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:17 am
Such fantastic news!
Peter thank you so much for sharing the baby steps with all of us, you are amazing. My cousin recently lost her 2 month old baby and I lost my faith, so hard to understand, to accept. Reading your posts and praying for Anissa has brought me back to the place I need to be with my faith and it feels good, it feels right.
I’m praying for your Thanksgiving Miracle! I have been praying every day for the last week. Anissa is strong I know she will come out of this.
There is a song called “Jesus Take the Wheel” Its by Carrie Underwood and I thought of it immediately when I started reading your post if you haven’t heard it you should look it up.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:22 am
Praying for your family…hoping and praying that today is the day Anissa wakes up….
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Peter, you are incredibly smart, patient and rational. You are handling things so well - and your understanding of what is needed is beyond what anyone could hope to know. Experience, I guess?!
Things sound very encouraging and I’m so pleased for everyone around Anissa. I think of you guys several times a day and stalk the site, so thank you so much for putting your journey into words for us. Prayers, hope and strenghth to you all. This thanksgiving, I’m thankful that Anissa and your children have such a composed and strong leader that will see them through this. Keep fighting girl! You can do it. You’re much tougher than this thing that’s got you down.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Baby steps, baby steps, but it’s so wonderful to hear that she seems to still be in there. It’ll take time…a LONG time…but it’s so encouraging that there are those baby steps every day. Hoping that Day Seven is the best yet!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:47 am
It’s a long road, but I know she’ll make it through. How could she not with such a supportive and wonderful spouse?
So fantastic that you are taking one-on-one time for the kids. You are so so strong.
Keep fighting Anissa!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:48 am
She is crazy awesome! That’s why I love her so much.
I think it’s safe to say that I love you, too, Peter. Even if we’ve never so much as spoken.
Faith. It’s what’s for dinner.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:49 am
Now there is something to be truly thankful about.
Happy Thanksgiving, and keep on fighting Anissa!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:51 am
Your wife and children are so incredibly lucky to have you, your strength, and your faith at this time. Continued thoughts and prayers for healing.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:56 am
Thanks so much for the updates Peter. I love to hear about Anissa’s baby steps and the faith you and Anissa share. You guys can do anything!
I was thinking that when she wakes up totally that she will be pretty mad that she missed New Moon and the cruise. Thankfully you are there for Thanksgiving. I wish I could give you and the kids a big hug.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:02 am
What an awesome update to read on Thanksgiving morning! I am truly thankful for the progress Anissa has made so far and I’m confident that she’s going to make a full recovery, by the grace of God! Keep doing what you’re doing Peter, she’s in there and it’s working! Love ♥
Desera
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:04 am
Faith is can be such a tricky thing. You’ve helped restore some of mine.
We’re continuing to pray for Anissa and you and your family.
Here’s hoping for a very happy Thanksgiving!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:04 am
This just made me cry, darnit!!!! Thank you for sharing this.
I love how you are taking it one day and *part* at a time. She is blessed to have a Godly husband, for sure!!
Still praying here in Ohio!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Still praying for her up in Canada. Hugs to all of you.
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Tracey Reply:
November 26th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
So is this Canadian!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:11 am
I don’t usually pray for anything, but I’m praying for you all.
Happy Thanksgiving. Here’s hoping she’s right on time, even if we aren’t sure of the schedule yet.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:13 am
Peter, even if she isn’t up today, these are all things to be thankful for. Those moments sound so wonderful, very hopeful. I hope from the bottom of my heart that you have something to be truly thankful for.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:13 am
Still praying. Peter you are incredible. Thank you again for keeping us all included in all of this. Come on Anissa, don’t be late today.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:14 am
We’re glad to hear about such encouraging signs, Peter. I’m especially thankful for your message of faith today. It translates to so many other situations being faced by our family and others. Waiting is the hardest part in any situation, but God’s timing is impeccable. We just all need to have patience and faith.
Still praying for all of you and hoping today’s the day!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:17 am
What a lovely, lovely treat to wake up to on Thanksgiving. Go Anissa, go!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:21 am
I don’t have words of wisdom. Just prayers.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:21 am
Wow, that is so amazing. My heart soars with every update. She is so strong, as are you. Keep fighting together. We all know she’ll kick ass.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:23 am
Praise God for the little things! I’m continuing to pray with you for Anissa’s recovery! Thank you so much for sharing your faith! Sometimes I wonder how I’d ever get through something like this. Then I am reminded of God’s faithfulness through stories like yours! Happy Thanksgiving!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:23 am
I have so much faith. These updates are amazing, and I just keep praying for more and more. She is in there and she is fighting.
These are so beautifully written, and inspiring.
And they make me cry so hard. But thank you.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:40 am
A great way to start a day of appreciation. THANK YOU so much for sharing.
She’s coming back to us.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:44 am
This was a great start to this day. So happy to read any news of progress.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. The prayers will keep coming.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:46 am
Praying for your miracle. God bless you and yours on this Thanksgiving.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:49 am
Oh, this is so encouraging, and so beautiful.
Wishing you and your family a wonderful Thanksgiving.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:51 am
This is so powerful and encouraging - not just the update but YOU are so powerful and encouraging…ANISSA is so powerful and encouraging…
Sending you prayers, SO MANY PRAYERS on this Thanksgiving day, I’m so proud of Anissa and her fight.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:54 am
I pray that she wakes today, on the 7th day. I get those messages in my head too and I know they are God speaking to us. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Anissa will come back to you, today, tomorrow…soon.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:56 am
In the name of Jesus she is healed. Dear Lord Jesus please be with this special woman as she is fighting the battle of her life, Heal her. Protect her. Strengthen her. In the bible it says we are healed by your stripes Lord, and let it be. In your name. Amen.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:59 am
I don’t cry easily. But these posts get me reaaaaaaaaally close. Glad she’s making improvement.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:03 am
I have chills and tears, but no words. *hugs*
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Praying for you and your family Peter, and that Anissa wakes up for you today.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Peter, I met Anissa at BLissdom last year. I know that she lit up the faces of all those around her. She is in my thoughts and prayers! Blessings to you and your family. Stay strong & keep that faith going!
Alyssa
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Peter,
I’ve been following your posts. I just wanted to take a moment today to let you know that I’ll be spending Thanksgiving at my mom’s house this year.
Last July she had a bleed as well. The long hospital stay, the being happy over things you aren’t really sure happened, the confusion, the backsteps and steps forward and backsteps and then….you know. I know, too. I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking about Anissa, and tell you that even though my mom had a bleed last July she’s having family at her house and making mashed potatoes and walking around and snapping at us fot eating all the pie and not being there early enough to clean the bathroom and all of the things she was doing before July. I know Anissa will be doing that same thing this time next year.
Happy Thanksgiving.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:10 am
Faith.
So beautiful. So powerful. I am holding my breath today - on this 7th day.
Prayers and love on this Thanksgiving Day.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:11 am
Thank God! Sharing in your gratefulness and thankfulness and hopefulness.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:20 am
I asked my parents to pray for Anissa the other night. My dad sent me this message a few days ago, but I never got around to posting it on my blog. I’ll post it here instead:
Christina,
I am praying for Anissa as you asked. I am asking God to answer prayers for her by Thanksgiving. I, personally, am praying for, at least, significant progress in recovery by Thanksgiving, and full recovery of health and function by the end of the year.
I ask that, if possible, you forward the following to her family.
>From James 5 : 14 - 16
Is any sick among you? Let him (her) call the elders of the church; and let them pray over him (her), anointing hi, (her) with oil in the name of the Lord.
And the prayer of faith shall save the sick; and the Lord shall raise him (her) up; and if he (she) have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him (her).
Confess your faults one to another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effectual (unceasing) prayer of a righteous man (woman) availeth much.
While she may not be able to pray, her family can, and I am sure is, praying fervently for her recovery, as apparently are many other people. I expect the Lord will answer those prayers, especially before Thanksgiving, that all will have that much more to be thankful for, and that thanks for this and other blessings not be diminished because of continuing concern for her health and well-being.
Dad
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:31 am
Your faith is a beautiful thing to read about. I am hoping she sits straight up today. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:36 am
I have no doubt that she hears you. Keep talking. Keep touching. She just can’t talk back yet, but SHE WILL. Your family is in our prayers every day. You are so strong and have so much faith and have been through so much. Yet, you inspire the rest of us, who take so much for granted when we shouldn’t. I hope that you can get some rest and have a peaceful Thanksgiving. Somehow. Just know the power of all this prayer and all these friends of your beautiful wife.
Love, Tricia and family xoxox
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:40 am
So encouraging to read this.
Much love sent your way to you and yours this Thanksgiving.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:47 am
Peter, the best part of that update for me was that you heard from your “Higher Self” which is the God within you. THEY ARE NEVER WRONG. We all have the ability to hear it but most people dismiss it as their own voice.
So if they say touch, touch! And if they tell you it’s going to be okay, it will. Just continue to listen.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:50 am
Such encouraging news!!!! Keeping you, Anissa and the family in my thoughts today. I’m so thankful for the updates and continue to pray.
XOXO
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:01 pm
I have faith too!! Come on Anissa Wake up!! Praying everyday that the miracle will be today.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
I will continue to pray for you and your family on this Thanksgiving Day. I just need to let you know that as i read each one of these posts my eyes tear up. Not just because of Anissa but because of your writing. You are such a wonderful husband and supportive dad. You are doing a wonderful job and i just wanted to let you know. Hang in there..
Sending my love and prayers…
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:15 pm
Crying after reading this, but SUCH hopeful, happy tears. As always, you’re all in my thoughts and prayers, but I’ll be sending a little extra love Peyton’s way.
Happy Thanksgiving. <3
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Peter, first, thank you for keeping us updated. I know it must be hard to find the time, with so much else on your mind. We really do appreciate it. So many of us wish so much that we could physically be there for you, Anissa, and the kids right now. We are praying for a miracle, and whether it happens today, tomorrow, or a bit further down the road, I have faith that it’s going to happen.
Happy Thanksgiving.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:24 pm
Praise the Lord! Each baby step is a miracle in and of itself! We are praying!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:26 pm
Encouraging news. You all are in my prayers…..just take it one step at a time. God Bless you!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
I’m thankful today, that I “met” Anissa via the internet and gotten to know her strength and character via her blog.
I’m also thankful that she has such a wonderful support system in you and her internet family.
It’s so very encouraging.
Praying for you!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
So amazing. Sending hope and continued wonderful moments to you.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:55 pm
Pete,
I never knew how popular My Sister was until someone told me to google her. What a difference that had made, she was ment to to great things with her life, I am Glad you came into her Life, You are a great husband. All we have is FAITH that the LORD will heal her. Love you all Your Brother-in -law Kevin
p.s. We are always Praying for the Whole FAMILY.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
That feeling of calmness is magnificent beyond words! I felt it when my Dad had a stroke in 2007 and again last year when my Sputters was diagnosed with cancer.
Today I am thankful that you have reminded not to forget it and to have faith every minute of every day.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
I have faith. Praying for a peaceful Thanksgiving Day for your entire family….
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:10 pm
Still with you and still praying. Keep that Faith!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Those are wonderful signs! It brings tears to my eyes and great joy to my heart hearing her progress. God bless you all, and may you have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Christine
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
That’s our Anissa! Wishing you and the family a Happy Thanksgiving and I will do my part to keep the faith strong.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
Keeping the faith with you…Blessing to all. God Bless.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:15 pm
We are keeping the faith here for you too! Anissa will be in our prayers today at our Thanksgiving table and we will not let go of hope.
Warmth, love, and strength!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Praying for your family
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:21 pm
Keeping the faith!! Keep praying!! So encouraging!! I’m praying that today Thanksgiving Day brings a miracle!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
She is so strong! You know her best. I’m sure you are seeing what you think you are. Lots of prayers coming her way.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
I knew Anissa as a vibrant, full of life child years ago in Fairbanks. As we grew up we went our seperate ways. Over the years I would hear updates from Tom or Angela about what she was doing… How precious it has been to read your impressions and memories and get to know a little about Anissa as an adult! She seems to have certainly maintained the vibrancy and “full of life” personality that she had had as a child!
What a beautiful testimony you and Anissa have!
Know that our thoughts and prayers are for all of you! <3
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
I don’t know you, I don’t know your family, but I have been reading this blog for three days (saw in a post on twitter), checking, and waiting and hoping for good news, and I am pulling for you, and pulling for Anissa. You go girl, go keep going, you are a strong woman and you have been strong for others from the sounds of your journey so far, now let all this strength and love and support flow into you and ride this wave back to health! It is amazing what united positive energy can do and how powerful the love of strangers can be.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
praying and hoping for a Thanksgiving miracle. What a wonderful devoted husband.
I second what Beth said (above comment) “It is amazing what united positive energy can do and how powerful the love of strangers can be.”
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
I am so glad that you’re getting some encouraging signs. I know that all of us online miss Anissa horribly, so I can only imagine that it must be a million times harder for you & the kids. Thank you again for keeping us posted.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:08 pm
Once again, I only know Anissa through her blog with Peyton.
Anissa you are fighting…I can tell by your husband writing on the blog. You are going to do this because you are WOMAN!!!! Us women know the family has to have us!!!! You are going to pull through this. Like I said before, my friend is doing this and he is a male. All of us know the woman is the fighter, the caregiver, the make everything better woman!!!! Thinking and praying for you and your family. You are going to do this!!! Might take time but you will once again be taking care of your husband and children!!!!!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
Hello
I do not know you, your family but have been following along from a twitter post…. You, your wife and family and friends have been in my thoughts and prayers ever since I first read about this and will continue to be….
All the best with this situation
God Bless,
Dan (in Toronto, Canada)
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
Little moments add to big ones. Keep the faith, we are praying for you.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Peter, you are simply incredible. I am hoping for a Thanksgiving miracle.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
I came here from TheBloggess’ post. I’d never read any of Anissa’s blogs until I read Jenny’s post, but I’ve read almost all of them now. I don’t know what else to say but I’m praying for her and for you and your kids. It’s just been a week and she’s already touched my life.
Prayers from Indianapolis.
Laura
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Praying for your miracle today! I believe God will heal your amazing wife. Thank you for sharing again!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Today I amd thankful for Anissa’s baby steps, and for the love that her family and friends are showing her. God bless you all.
Becky
Miami usually, Today NC
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:15 pm
A true reason to be thankful!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
Thinking of you on this day of thanks. Lifting you all in prayer. Keep believing. Your faith is an inspiration for everyone.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 4:43 pm
God is watching and so are we.
Blessings.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:36 pm
So glad to hear the encouraging news!! It must have been so nice for you to have those moments with her. You are all constantly in my heart and in my thoughts.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
Today I’m thankful for having Anissa in my life, and that she has you in hers.
Stay strong, Peter.
With love, from my family to yours.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
Jesus is the Great Healer. I know He’s at work here.
Thank you again for keeping us updated, Peter. It feels like I was in the room watching it all happen.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I’ve been checking in every day hoping to hear some good news. My thoughts are with you and your family. If there is anything a random stranger on the other side of the country can do, just let me know how to help.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
C’mon, Anissa! Happy Thanksgiving, Mayhews.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Your post brougth tears to my eyes, and one more thing to be thankful for. I hope she continues on her path to healing.
Prayers every day for Anissa, and for your whole family.
Happy Thanksgiving to you all.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 6:49 pm
Thinking of you, looking your way and sending love.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Just wanted to let you know I’ve been praying every day for Anissa, you and the kids. You’ve been on my mind all day today, and I hope she wakes up for you soon.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
Very encouraging news.
Thinking of you all today.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:47 pm
So many prayers flowing towards your family– so nice to read some encouraging things about her recovery…
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
Incredible! Praying hard for all of you. Keep your faith.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
Thank you so much for the updates. I’m praying for you all….
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:07 pm
praying so hard for more updates like this!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
I’ve thought of your family today. Healing vibes being sent your way!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Such encouraging news here~ I check in frequently during the day, and paste each new post onto a forum I am part of.. Thank you peter for updating! ANISSA, YOU AMAZE ME!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK, YOU ARE STRONG AND WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS!!! Even though I have never actually met any of you, I feel as if I know you, and you stay on my heart/mind! Keep up the awesome things you do for your amazing wife peter! Shes one lucky lady!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
I don’t know you or Anissa, but have learned about you through a dear friend. I am so encouraged by your latest post and I am praying for Anissa. I know that God hears our prayers and there are so many people praying! I pray you had a good Thanksgiving and I hope Anissa wasn’t late for day 7, but I know that even if she was, God is still working miracles in her!
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
I’m amazed by you, you know. You’re so strong. It might not feel like it, but to those of us reading, and waiting and hoping, and thinking and praying, we’re awed.
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on Nov 26th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
So encouraging! we’re all keeping the faith!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:24 am
Hoping so hard for something wonderful to happen for Anissa and your family today!!!!!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:36 am
I started breathing again when I read that she was responsive to you. Waiting and praying with you.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 1:10 am
I hope you had an amazing day today, and that positive progress continues…I could feel your excitement and love in your words, and am thankful for Anissa to have you there by her side…Happy Thanksgiving!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 2:37 am
You both are a tremendous inspiration. Many, many prayers coming your way.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 2:39 am
I am so pleased that you are seeing such positive signs from Anissa. That has to be encouraging. I hope the trend continues for you. Even though I didn’t know Anissa before all this happened, I’ve been reading some of her blog posts and tweets and she seems like such an awesome person. I hope she will be able to recover. I can tell how much your family loves her and needs her. I have her on the prayer list at my church and I hope that helps.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 4:01 am
Hello,
I know miracles are possible. Hang in there. I’ve said a prayer to you, the kids and Anissa a few minutes ago.
You’re not alone.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 9:04 am
It’s a slow process, but it’s going in the right direction.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 10:51 am
Peter,
This I know: YOU are sharing Christ with those who might not know Him; your journey through this is a gritty, difficult, real…but mostly BEAUTIFUL communication of the glory of God.
It’s not easy; it doesn’t make sense; it’s not what you’d want or ask for….but your everyday testimony is blessing to me, and I’m sure, countless others.
Thank you (& still praying, the selfish way and the not).
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 11:36 am
your so strong and don’t even realize-Annisa WILL be fine you and your gets will see-God works his miracles for the best of the best Tear jerking note, how very touching prayers all around
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, Mayhew Family.
I know Anissa is SO strong and she WILL recover. The rest of us just need to be as strong as her in the meantime.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
I have been here a lot but I haven’t commented yet. I know I don’t know all of you (although we have — or had, rather — living in the Tampa area in common) but I just want you to know I pray for you all every day and think of you all often. I wonder often how your family is doing and pray for your strength. You write so beautifully and I can see from your faith that God is indeed guiding you and you are following His lead. When I was in college forever ago, we went through something similar with my mom who who was later diagnosed with Lupus and Rheumatoid. However, she survived it all, with no side effects from her clotting. The months we went through were all a blur and they still are, but we are greatful every day we have with her. God led us through it all and He will lead you too. My blessings to you!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:40 pm
When I went through this with my sister, one thing I did to communicate with her was spell things out. I could tell one day she was trying to make me understand something but I had no idea what. So I started with the alphabet, and I said “A, B, C…”and as I got to C she nodded her head. OK so the next letter should be a vowel….A, E, I, O….yes, O! I said “OK, C…O…Linda are you cold??” and she furiously nodded (as furiously as she could at least). I got blankets piled on her and she was able to rest. Obviously you can’t spell tons of words but a few specific ones help her communicate with you, when she can’t speak to do it.
Also, tell Anissa what is happening. She has a lot of questions that she can’t ask you, and she can’t fight if she doesn’t know what she’s trying to fight back from. Give her as much information as she can handle, so she’s not wondering and worrying.
If you ever need to talk, please email me. I know exactly what you are going through and how hard it is. But believe me, every little movement, every little thing that you see IS progress even if it seems small….
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 12:43 pm
Hall. A. Lu. Jah.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
You are all in our thoughts and prayers. I pray this moment is a beautiful moment and is followed by a lifetime of moments filled with healing and peace.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 1:27 pm
Tough as nails…both of you.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Thinking of Anissa and your family.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
That is such encouraging news. Thoughts and prayers are coming your way. Stay strong.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
“The thing about faith is it’s not about what you want.”
Wow. I’m in tears… I want it for her so much as well… Love and hugs and hearts and cheers and prayers and Turkey.. all thinking about you and yours.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Such great news that she’s responding!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 2:56 pm
I thanked God in advance yesterday - cause I know in his time she will be back making me laugh.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
I just felt shivers all over as I read those last sentences.
We’re keeping the faith alongside you.
What an amazing encouragement.
Thank you for sharing!
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Peter, I just read the last 3 entries and I’m happy that she is improving…slowly but improving. That’s all you can ask for. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the kids until the end.
One thing I will say is I’m envy of the fact that you still have your sense of humor. Something that will help you get through this all.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
Still praying, Peter, for all of you. Thinking of you often and wishing you well. Hoping and praying that you have the help you need as you bear this great burden.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 7:00 pm
Please keep updating, because I will keep reading.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
My prayers are with your family. And maybe hundreds of others have said that to you already - I want you to know - I am a part of the throngs praying for your beautiful wife. Your faith, your love, your obvious trust and hope in our God…is an amazing thing to read about. I feel honored reading your words. And have shared the story with my husband. I am expecting a miracle from our Lord Jesus. And I will continue to up hold you all in my talks with God.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Sending so much love and hope, every day.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 10:44 pm
This is SUCH a positive post. I think that wife of yours is quite the fighter. Amazing woman that she is
Hope you had a good Thankgiving, or as good as it can be under the circumstances. Thinking about you guys from way up in Canada. Be well.
Amanda
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
What an amazing update. You are a wonderful writer and I’m so grateful you’ve been sharing these updates with us all. God bless you and Anissa.
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on Nov 27th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Beautiful post! So encouraging.
Someone recently told me to stop putting God in a box. He said to pray for the unforseen joy.
I am praying for the unforseen joy for you and Anissa and Peyton.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 1:37 am
I checked the website because I haven’t ben able to lately, and I’ve missed you all. I had no idea what I would read.
Anissa, I know you will be better soon. I wish we were close enough to help … but know we are praying.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 7:21 am
I am praying along with you for a Miracle. Nothing is impossible with God. Faith can move mountains. My good friend was in a coma for 2 weeks and all of a sudden, she woke up and was healed. She is now sharing her testimony of how Great and powerful God is. I pray the same for you and your family. God Bless!
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 10:04 am
I did not know Annissa and yet I have been stunned by the ripple effect of this incident, and impressed by how many of the people I read, also read and know her. So I have sent my private healing intentions to her and to your whole family from afar.
I have waited and watched for someone to out of a coma before, it is an activity that requires poise and patience. I remember well, during that time, the kindness of strangers; so many tales of people we didn’t know - and who didn’t really know us - praying for our family. Now it seems to be my turn to be on of those unknown people, offering up my prayers and healing intentions for you. And now I understand why they did it. It is a privilege.
Please keep the faith and take things one day at a time.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 10:20 am
When her eyes are open and she can hear you, pray with her. She needs her faith nurtured too
You are a good husband.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 11:40 am
Looking forward to hearing more updates. Thank you for taking the time to keep us updated when I know there are so many things on your plate right now.
Many prayers to you all and I know that Anissa will wake up-we just have to have the patience for her to make her grand entrance.
much love!
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
OMG! The power of prayer and faith. I’m so pleased to her this update and i pray that God will continue to shine his healing upon her. We serve an Awesome and Loving God!
I’m so glad that he is allowing you to hold up through all this as well. May he strengthen you and the kids always.
Sending up many prayers!
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
your faith amazes me. I love to know that Anissa is listening to you.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 3:09 pm
I just can’t imagine how hard this must be on everyone, but I’m so happy to hear that progress is being made and you can see her, if only just a little. If you’ve ever questioned your own strength, you need not. Best of luck and your family is in my thoughts and prayers daily.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
Thinking about you and Anissa and hoping for miracles. Every day.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 7:24 pm
Things are tough here on our end but you and Anissa give me perspective. Thank you for taking time to share with us Peter. DOn’t think that we are wavering in our faith. As you can clearly see by the huge number of comments, we have total faith and you should too.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
Those are such encouraging signs. Good good good!
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 8:47 pm
Any new developments?
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 9:47 pm
Hey Pete,
Here is an inspiring true story of a similiar case. Hope this is helpful.There is an email address and phone number at the end of the article. You might benefit from a conversation with another husband who has been where you are. I am buying this book and sending it to you. Praying for Anissa, you and the children continually. KEEP FIGHTING for her Peter!
Love,
Pat
Timothy L. Culver’s New Book, ‘Sara’s Story,’ Describes His Wife’s Recovery and Battles with Health Insurance Companies
DALLAS, Sept. 18, 2009 — In May, 2004, Tim received the news that his 42-year-old wife Sara had suffered an acute stroke. With three children still at home and the oldest child heading off to Iraq to serve in his first tour of duty, Tim’s family and church rallied to support the family.
After 10 days in ICU, Tim was told his wife would never walk, talk, or interact with people again. This was devastating news, but Tim did not give up hope.
After 3 months in-patient at Baylor Rehabilitation, the recommendation was that his wife needed to be moved to a nursing home because she would need 24×7 care the rest of her life. Tim refused because he was still seeing improvements.
Relying on his faith and continued support from his church and family, he fought the insurance companies to get Sara into the Centre for Neuro Skills (CNS). CNS treats Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBIs). A stroke is a form of a TBI. Despite getting his wife into CNS, insurance carriers across state lines attempted to move Sara out of CNS.
Tim chronicles his wife’s amazing recovery and his battles to insure that his wife continued at CNS. After 3 months at CNS in-patient, Sara went home and walked up the stairs without help. After another year in out-patient rehabilitation, Sara recovered to the point where she now drives, takes care of her children, and has returned to work at Eastfield Junior College in Mesquite, TX.
“Too many people are written off and end up in nursing homes requiring expensive assisted living at the taxpayer’s expense,” Tim explained. “750,000 Americans suffer a stroke each year with a permanent impairment. Sara is an example of where investment in rehabilitation prevented excessive long-term costs to the taxpayers for assisted living.” Further, he indicated “I am a fiscal conservative, but I believe in health care reform and that the right dialogue can result in savings to society.”
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About the Author
Timothy L. Culver is a native of Mesquite, TX. He is an honor graduate of Baylor University. He has also earned an MS in Engineering and an MBA from Southern Methodist University. He is employed as an executive director at AT&T’s software company, Sterling Commerce. Tim attends Baylor University part-time where he is pursuing his Ph.D. Tim and his wife Sara reside in Sunnyvale, TX, with three of their four children. The oldest child just returned from proudly serving the U.S. Army in Iraq. Tim is an active member of First Baptist Church of Sunnyvale, TX. Contact info: timothyculver@gmail.com or 972.413.0600
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 10:22 pm
I came upon your site from another one that mentioned what your family is currently going through. Whether or not it means anything, I am thinking about Anissa and coming to this site every day to check on her progress. And it has been progress. I hope it continues on until Anissa makes a full recovery.
The night after I first read about Anissa, I had a dream that I kept looking in the mirror, and the face looking back at me was Anissa’s every time. I have a few ideas about what that might mean, but the main thing is that after reading only a few blog entries, I felt such strong feelings about her that she made it into my subconscious.
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on Nov 28th, 2009 at 11:50 pm
I got goosebumps reading your post. Hoping you felt God’s closeness even stronger than normal yesterday.
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 12:35 am
This post gave me the chills. I so hope things continue on this path. *baby steps*
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on Nov 29th, 2009 at 1:51 am
Continuing to pray for you, your family, and Anissa. Waiting for word that the miracle has happened. *hugs from Texas*
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
you dont know me, but I have heard about Anissa from some of the blogs I follow and i am so glad to hear that she is making some progress. i know it is slow, but I it is still progress. lots of well wishes from philly.
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on Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
I’m so glad to hear these wonderful updates. We’re praying for you all here in KC. I wanted to let you know that as you consider option for her next steps, you can DOWNLOAD a copy of the rehab center/nursing home’s last state survey and review their care, scores, etc. If you need help, email me and I’d be delighted to assist you. chamele@parriscomm.com
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on Dec 2nd, 2009 at 9:34 am
I just stumbled across this blog via 5 minutes for special needs. Just wanted you to know I am adding Annissa to my prayers.
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on Dec 17th, 2009 at 11:36 pm
“There is, however, a certain calm that overtakes you when you take your hands off the wheel of life and let God do the driving.” What better explanation of Faith….there is none. Please know you and your family are in my prayers. “Miracles do happen when God’s people come together in prayer…” Billy Graham God bless.
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